Pre covid, before everyone really got super pissy on Mumsnet, it sometimes went the other way (in a fair sense).
There was one where the OP’s husband was a stay at home dad while she went out and worked. She was whinging that he didn’t get much done when their oldest was in nursery in the mornings beyond some light housework and resented him taking their kid out to play or participate in organised activities in the afternoons rather than somehow fitting in famously toddler friendly chores instead like mowing, painting and decorating etc. She tried to argue with a thread filled with the mothers of young children pointing out her selfishness and I think she scarpered after she failed to win them around with the argument that as she was the breadwinner, he should assume the responsibilities of everything non-work related.
Now, I wonder if the present Mumsnet obsession with financial independence in relationships and cocklodgers would have seen a completely different array of responses.
The only thing I’d say in defence of the anti man rhetoric is that it doesn’t seem a lot removed from the anti woman rhetoric in chunks of sites like Pistonheads (all exes are psycho) and Reddit (all women, whether little sisters to old grandmothers, are bigots or psychos).
Also, there’s a little of needing to read the room. I wouldn’t go onto Datalounge and announce that “as a straight woman…”. I‘d get told to ”die in a grease fire”. It’s similar as announcing on Lipstick Alley “well, as a white woman…” Mumsnet users are nasty, but the death threats, fish jokes and racist insults do get threads and posts pulled pretty quickly.
This isn’t an insult to those sites - just an observation that everyone finds their “tribe” online and sometimes don’t care for interlopers.
