I’ve got TLC-UK coming next week over to film me for an episode of “My 16/18 Life”…Surprised there’s not a thread saying “AIBU - anyone over a size 12 should not leave the house”
I’ve got TLC-UK coming next week over to film me for an episode of “My 16/18 Life”…Surprised there’s not a thread saying “AIBU - anyone over a size 12 should not leave the house”
BIB - OMG - this is very OUTINGThis wasn’t my experience though - my school was also oversubscribed (as was my brother’s), we both got good marks as did many of our friends, and none of us were tutored bar practise papers at home. The ones who were tutored were the ones that did fairly average/struggled in the school. I think people who do a certain thing are convinced everyone else does that thing to make themselves feel better, but it’s just not true that “everyone” gets tutored. If you’re genuinely very academic then it’s not a competition to get in, just like if you’re sporty it’s not hard to do well on sports day. My original point was that everyone on MN claims their kid is “really bright” (and sporty, and tall) when it’s clearly bollocks and them showing off. As well as the 6 figure salaries and hedge fund manager DHs at the “top of their game”…
Yeah it's about as likely as them all earning six figures, living abroad and having tall, sporty, skinny, 'stunning' offspring.That bloody site is a horrific place for promoting eating disorders. Anyone over a size 10 is considered overweight. A size 12 is bordering on morbid obesity. In real life, how many fully grown women do you know who are a tiny size 6 - 8?
Whatever you do, don't mention his hobby!! Sorry, I mean 'activity'.BIB - OMG - this is very OUTING
In fairness, how many years ago was this?This wasn’t my experience though - my school was also oversubscribed (as was my brother’s), we both got good marks as did many of our friends, and none of us were tutored bar practise papers at home. The ones who were tutored were the ones that did fairly average/struggled in the school. I think people who do a certain thing are convinced everyone else does that thing to make themselves feel better, but it’s just not true that “everyone” gets tutored. If you’re genuinely very academic then it’s not a competition to get in, just like if you’re sporty it’s not hard to do well on sports day. My original point was that everyone on MN claims their kid is “really bright” (and sporty, and tall) when it’s clearly bollocks and them showing off. As well as the 6 figure salaries and hedge fund manager DHs at the “top of their game”…
I think my mum would have been banned from Mumsnet - I was short, tubby and didn’t do any sport at all and ate about 5000 calories a dayNone of them seem to have short, fat, plain, weedy, average or even - god forbid - DIM children
I went in 2004 and 2007 (so got into one grammar school for year 7, moved house so then had to sit another test for Year 10 entry to another one), my brother got in in 2014. Both of ours were quite competitive but especially his I reckon (Kent Test). We’re both academic but he was less lazy than me at school, he got all 9s at GCSE and 4A*s at A-level. I get that it’s competitive but if you’re genuinely “extremely bright” (like top 1-5% IQ) then even if 100 kids in the top 50% are getting tutored for 2 years, you’d still beat most of them.In fairness, how many years ago was this?
I live in a grammar school area (although my little ones are pre schoolers so not relevant to me at the moment) & I would say 99% of the people who want to do the 11+ are tutored from year 4. In fact I know of only 1 person who didnt.
And then its a vicious circle, they take the top 100 scores so if everyone else is tutoring then you better had too!
I vehemently disagree with tutoring as it effectively prices out bright but low income kids & like someone said above it then basically becomes like ‘free’ private education
The comps round here are a disgrace so competition for a grammar place is fierce (I went to a comp that went into special measures, became an academy & then shut due to lack of improvement so speaking from experience)
On the other hand Im a massive hypocrite because when my kids come to that age, will I tutor them to
pass the 11+? Yeah I definitely will (But would only put them in for it if they are sufficiently academic to cope at a grammar school)
Oh gawd yes!The coy 'DH does his hobby' thing really, as Mumsnetters like to say, boils my piss. It also makes me picture a man riding a hobby horse. In fact, if that were the hobby in question, it could indeed be very OUTING!
Another annoyance, well one of many, is when someone single wants advice and you get the smug, unhelpful 'Well if anything happened to my lovely, kind, caring, snuggle buggle boo-boo hubby bear, I couldn't ever date anyone again.'. Yeah, sure. You'd be straight on all the sites with your 'Must earn at least six-figure salary'.
That’s the first sign of an affair get your ducks in row op…Well my DH takes over from me, the minute he gets home from his eighteen hour work day and six hour commute.
He totally spoils me bla bla bla'
Yeah you've also missed my point in the insistence you are right.This wasn’t my experience though - my school was also oversubscribed (as was my brother’s), we both got good marks as did many of our friends, and none of us were tutored bar practise papers at home. The ones who were tutored were the ones that did fairly average/struggled in the school. I think people who do a certain thing are convinced everyone else does that thing to make themselves feel better, but it’s just not true that “everyone” gets tutored. If you’re genuinely very academic then it’s not a competition to get in, just like if you’re sporty it’s not hard to do well on sports day. My original point was that everyone on MN claims their kid is “really bright” (and sporty, and tall) when it’s clearly bollocks and them showing off. As well as the 6 figure salaries and hedge fund manager DHs at the “top of their game”…
When I checked in, the OP had put "Get Boy George out" in the thread title, and was being accused of 'bullying'.They are all kicking off in the MN IAC thread because someone has called Sue Cleaver ‘a miserable, lazy old bag’.
I know that “just passing” isn’t enough, it only is in areas with many grammar schools like Slough. My point was that if you are truly extremely bright like everyone on MN claims, you’d be scoring in the top 5th percentile of all the entrants without the need for 2 years tutoring. A high number of applicants doesn’t make it competitive if you’re genuinely very intelligent, just like a high number of people competing in a race (even if they’ve been coached for 2 years) wouldn’t give a high-level sprinter a run for their money. A slightly above-average child being tutored for 2 years (which seems so excessive for a 9 year old?) wouldn’t beat an extremely smart one who did past papers at home for a couple of months.Yeah you've also missed my point in the insistence you are right.
Weve gone through the system for grammar 3 years ago and I've got friends children going through it now. If you want to be I'm the top 60, you need to be getting higher than the required pass Mark. Just passing isn't enough.
I only put my child in for tutoring for one term before she sat the 11+ because I just don’t agree with aggressive tutoring. Either your child is bright enough or they’re not. Imagine my surprise when I find out some kids have nigh on two years of tuition prior to sitting the examIn fairness, how many years ago was this?
I live in a grammar school area (although my little ones are pre schoolers so not relevant to me at the moment) & I would say 99% of the people who want to do the 11+ are tutored from year 4. In fact I know of only 1 person who didnt.
And then its a vicious circle, they take the top 100 scores so if everyone else is tutoring then you better had too!
I vehemently disagree with tutoring as it effectively prices out bright but low income kids & like someone said above it then basically becomes like ‘free’ private education
The comps round here are a disgrace so competition for a grammar place is fierce (I went to a comp that went into special measures, became an academy & then shut due to lack of improvement so speaking from experience)
On the other hand Im a massive hypocrite because when my kids come to that age, will I tutor them to
pass the 11+? Yeah I definitely will (But would only put them in for it if they are sufficiently academic to cope at a grammar school)
I was reading that one last night. Bloody hell!Anyone seen the post from the poster who is worried her husband is getting fat and that she (OP) ‘only eats in the evenings if it’s a special occasion’?
Then it should almost certainly feature me as I am that size. I did join an NCT class when DS was a bump and was briefly co-chair of the Borough's branch until I returned to work and couldn't make the meetings any more.I’ve got TLC-UK coming next week over to film me for an episode of “My 16/18 Life”…