Mumsnet #7 Tinkly little laugh

[Cariad]

My tip would probably be not to become a nurse or midwife get a job in IT or something

Definitely.....I've got 35 years experience as a nurse (15 years as a specialist nurse) and my son who started his first grad job on grad scheme in IT with a global bank this year , is already earning more than me ( on £40k + £5k starting bonus )
my daughter's boyfriend , aged 26, is already on £80k as a computer programmer and is currently a digital nomad, based in Bali

 

[Et0n-Mess]

Has anyone seen the celebrity Christmas lights last hurrah thread? Dear lord.

 

[JoJo76]

Thread on AIBU just took a weird turn. Business class flights to Oz and OP just said she’s flicked her fanny!

 

[emerald]

duck me, seriously. To be fair, they are taking a bit of a roasting.

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So weird. Surely most couples pay for holidays together?

 

[ChickenLicking]

So weird. Surely most couples pay for holidays together?

Not on Planet Mumsnet.

The AMA "I'm a young grandma" thread is BRUTAL! My mum, despite her frequent moral lectures was a GM at 44 (but she denied the child was a blood relative) - maybe my DM is secretly on MN? [Clutches pearls]

 

[bellinibobble]

Did anyone see the MIL woes one, where her MIL butt dialed her and was heard slagging her DIL off to high heaven. Was such a juicy thread and then lo and behold, I go back for an update to see it was deleted due to privacy concerns

It’s when you realise the long running drama ones are obviously trolls, as every decent thread on there otherwise goes poof when it starts to get good. FFS.

 

[Serene Serena]

There’s another show me your engagement/wedding rings thread and one user appears to have fished hers out of a shipwreck
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That looks like a rotten tooth.

 

[ChickenLicking]

Did anyone see the MIL woes one, where her MIL butt dialed her and was heard slagging her DIL off to high heaven. Was such a juicy thread and then lo and behold, I go back for an update to see it was deleted due to privacy concerns

It’s when you realise the long running drama ones are obviously trolls, as every decent thread on there otherwise goes poof when it starts to get good. FFS.

MN seem to actively dislike DMILS which is a shame because the DM of DH/DPs gets a hard time even if what they do is seemingly innocuous. I write this as the DM an only child, my DS.*

I love this MN code.

 

[mdizzl3]

I came across this thread earlier and read out of curiosity. I'd never been on Mumsnet before so decided to have a peek. I felt outraged at one AIBU thread where the OP's daughter asked if she could mind her grandkids ONCE a month and she was upset at the prospect and how rigid the arrangement was. The reason for asking was the daughter was doing a nursing course and she felt it would help her with studies. Add to the fact daughter lived 1.5 hours away, she wouldn't see her Grandkids much anyway! What a raging witch.

And all the posts here about making kids pay their way at 18, the are still children FGS. After my daughter finished Uni, I encouraged her to stay at home as long as possible to save. Her boyfriends parents were the same. I charged her very little rent - £15 which wouldn't have even covered her share of the bills, but we live comfortably so not an issue. The condition was that she save hard, which she did. Her and BF now have enough to buy a flat, which is hard where we live as South Manchester is expensive (Oop Norf, how dreadfully common!). They are only 23 - 24 next month.

They aren't buying now because of all the mortgage interest bollocks, but are going to rent for a while instead knowing that the money is there when the time is right.

Why the duck don't these middle class witches to the same? Surely any parent wants the best for their kids?

I fear I might end up lurking on there as much as I read here now. Thank you to this thread for enlightening me, I don't think I'll ever be bored again!

TBF not everyone wants to live with their parents. My parents offered but there is no way in hell I wanted to live with them even if they paid me - I love being independent and having my own space, and after living independently at uni it would feel like 10 steps backwards to live with my parents again. Me and my husband still managed to save a 20% house deposit over 5 years while renting a 1 bed flat.

 

[SpindleWhorl]

Another thread where they all like to think of themselves as chic top interior designers, yet on any thread where they're asked to post pictures of their rooms they're all frumpy, 90s habitat messes

This reply from a thread where a student midwife asks how to become a high earner, and states that her idea of a good income is £80k:

I'm on just over £30k a year but I can afford multiple holidays a year and I always have money left over every month, don't live particularly frugally either nor do I live in a cheap area. I just haven't overstretched myself with a 5bedroom barn conversion in the home counties and a fleet of financed cars

 

[mdizzl3]

Another thread where they all like to think of themselves as chic top interior designers, yet on any thread where they're asked to post pictures of their rooms they're all frumpy, 90s habitat messes

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I'm on just over £30k a year but I can afford multiple holidays a year and I always have money left over every month, don't live particularly frugally either nor do I live in a cheap area. I just haven't overstretched myself with a 5bedroom barn conversion in the home counties and a fleet of financed cars

Me too - we saved a good deposit while renting and neither of us are investment bankers, nor did we live on beans with no heating. Having an old banger, a small flat, no kids and no pets definitely helps! Also we both work in jobs where it’s not London-centric, so neither of us ever had to commute to London.

TBH I’m a bit at all these “my kids can’t rent and save” stories. 2 people on 30k each (so about 4k take home) renting a flat for £800pcm should easily be able to save half their salary every month, as we did. My friends who say they can’t save live in London, go out for dinners/drinks constantly and have expensive gym memberships & the like. Of course nowadays it’s much harder with inflation but if you’re sensible and don’t live above your means it’s still do-able.

 

[EmilyChambers]

Me too - we saved a good deposit while renting and neither of us are investment bankers, nor did we live on beans with no heating. Having an old banger, a small flat, no kids and no pets definitely helps! Also we both work in jobs where it’s not London-centric, so neither of us ever had to commute to London.

TBH I’m a bit at all these “my kids can’t rent and save” stories. 2 people on 30k each (so about 4k take home) renting a flat for £800pcm should easily be able to save half their salary every month, as we did. My friends who say they can’t save live in London, go out for dinners/drinks constantly and have expensive gym memberships & the like. Of course nowadays it’s much harder with inflation but if you’re sensible and don’t live above your means it’s still do-able.

Where I live its impossible to get a rental as a single person. weve got a 3 bed house on our road for £1200 a month, your income needs to be 3 times the yearly rent to apply for it.

Theres a 1 bed flat above a shop for £800 and you need earn 3.5 times the yearly rent for that too.

Sometimes moving out and saving takes longer than staying home and saving.

I couldn't care less if my child wants to stay at home till he's 30 to be able to save.

I never get why people are literally desperate to turf their child out at 18 and they do that with great frequency on there. Can't imagine my parents having done that either.

I've got a friend whose parents asked her to leave home at 18. She finished sixth form, turned 18 in the August and her present was her first months rent and deposit for a 1 bed flat. She left the week after she turned 18 and has never stayed a night with her parents since because she is an adult and her parents think its inappropriate.

As a result she sees them 4 times a year, Christmas Day and birthdays and only for few hours as she has to travel to get back home as they moved a 3 hour drive away.

Nothing wrong with staying at home to save, yet people have this attitude that it's wrong and means you aren't a proper grown up and don't know how to survive, which is just a bleeping bizarre attitude.

If your offspring cannot survive, cook or budget, it's because you've failed to teach them, not because you didnt kick them out of home at 18!

 

[mdizzl3]

Where I live its impossible to get a rental as a single person. weve got a 3 bed house on our road for £1200 a month, your income needs to be 3 times the yearly rent to apply for it.

Theres a 1 bed flat above a shop for £800 and you need earn 3.5 times the yearly rent for that too.

Sometimes moving out and saving takes longer than staying home and saving.

I couldn't care less if my child wants to stay at home till he's 30 to be able to save.

I never get why people are literally desperate to turf their child out at 18 and they do that with great frequency on there. Can't imagine my parents having done that either.

I've got a friend whose parents asked her to leave home at 18. She finished sixth form, turned 18 in the August and her present was her first months rent and deposit for a 1 bed flat. She left the week after she turned 18 and has never stayed a night with her parents since because she is an adult and her parents think its inappropriate.

As a result she sees them 4 times a year, Christmas Day and birthdays and only for few hours as she has to travel to get back home as they moved a 3 hour drive away.

Nothing wrong with staying at home to save, yet people have this attitude that it's wrong and means you aren't a proper grown up and don't know how to survive, which is just a bleeping bizarre attitude.

If your offspring cannot survive, cook or budget, it's because you've failed to teach them, not because you didnt kick them out of home at 18!

That example of your friend is very extreme, of course I still stay at my parents for the odd weekend and Christmas, and during uni holidays. I don’t think anyone should be literally turfed out! If you had kids you should be prepared to support them at the end of the day, and not everyone is ready to move out at 18.

Having said that, I do think that in general people who live independently are more “grown up” than people who live with their parents, just going by people I know. One friend who lives at home at 30 is so mollycoddled he doesn’t even know how much his car insurance costs, as his parents pay it, and his mum has to do his budgeting to help him save as otherwise he spends all his 80k salary on going out in London and 5* holidays. My SILs can’t do anything for themselves - my in-laws have to help them do anything from changing a light bulb to writing a complaint letter. Living on your own does force you to get your tit together quicker and work out how to do things e.g. plumb in a washing machine, do life admin, etc. Living with your parents often means you just don’t learn to do these things as they’re done for you.

 

[Pinkii]

I don’t believe that you need to move out at 18 or young to be independent and know what responsibility is.

I speak from a cultural place in regards to kids staying home. Asian/middle eastern families. We all lived with parents until old enough/stable enough to have a deposit or for girls generally when they get married so 25+ in most cases. They are some of the most succesful people i know, who have no issues in regards to responsibilities of life and had a great start in life with help from their parents

if kids leave the home at whatever age and don’t know how to look after themselves that’s on the parents it has nothing to do with what age they leave.


If a kid wants to move out then thats great for them and good luck to them, but in terms of mumsnet they just want to kick them
Out asap or ask for half their mortgage payments from a kid who earns pittance.

 

[April89]

There was a thread a couple of days ago called ‘have you ever been mistaken?’ asking if anyone had been mistaken for the CEO when they were a cleaner…Lots of A&E Drs, CEOs and ‘very senior’ people talking about being mistaken for someone much less important and how they clapped back ever so cleverly totally unnecessary if it’s a genuine mistake in my opinion. Also a lot of people posting about how they look so young they are mistaken for someone not so senior at work!

 

[Pinkii]

there was a thread where the poster was having a go at people who constantly throw out LTB for small things or things you wouldn’t normally tell someone to leave their spouse.

lots of posters Were saying they have never seen such things and LTB is usually reserved for serious things like abuse

fast forward a thread today about a woman whose husband has converted to islam, lots of i’d leave the guy

 

[EasterEggs]

This was on a thread about a coat recently… i thought it was a bit extreme personally.

 

[Rags2Riches]

i also love how the usually the owner of the ugliest ones say how cheap their ring was and it doesn’t matter because its about what it symbolises, obviously you have to say that cause your ring is tit.

also for a bunch of people obsessed with looking ‘groomed and polished like the french’ who constantly shell out the clean short clear varnish rule, there are ALOT of tacky acrylic talons on these threads.

Speaking of the French, why does everyone on Mumsnet speak fluent French? They all seem to absolutely loathe the UK too.

 

[Pebbleybeach]

Speaking of the French, why does everyone on Mumsnet speak fluent French? They all seem to absolutely loathe the UK too.

I can’t wait until the summer holidays for all the posts about being on holiday and all the English people being uncouth/drunk/having the naughtiest kids/eating too much/dressing horrendously/being rude/being racist. And how they embarrass the OP who is also English but would never behave that way, but every single other English person abroad does. And how they wish they were French or Italian

 

[EmilyChambers]

Speaking of the French, why does everyone on Mumsnet speak fluent French? They all seem to absolutely loathe the UK too.

I wonder if they do speak fluent French or sound more like Del Boy or Joey from Friends?!

I can’t wait until the summer holidays for all the posts about being on holiday and all the English people being uncouth/drunk/having the naughtiest kids/eating too much/dressing horrendously/being rude/being racist. And how they embarrass the OP who is also English but would never behave that way, but every single other English person abroad does. And how they wish they were French or Italian

And none of them ever go all inclusive because it's not seeing the country properly and of you do, you cannot leave the complex. Ever.