New here, hi there everyone! It's truly a breath of fresh air to me as I have wondered whether I am an outlier in considering MN to be somewhat miserable and toxic. Like many here, I do still pop on from time to time.
I have to disagree with regards to them being overwhelmingly 'middle class', as I have honestly never met people like them in my life, and I've moved around a fair bit. I think they are more likely to be insecure about their social status, as no MC I have ever met would even discuss class, let alone start internet discussions about how to avoid being seen as WC, uurgh. It's pure self loathing, not to mention incredibly rude.
I think they make posts about soap operas and chocolates being WC in a desperate attempt to find out what is upperMC so they can imitate it. I mean, if you have to ask, you ain't in the club, no matter how many times you repeat the 'battered old Barbour and dog hair' crap.
My faves are the threads where everyone begins their post with "
Well, all of the rich people I know...."
This weird obsession on Mumsnet betrays a more complex association with class imho.
I tend to think they are possibly most likely disillusioned working class, pushing towards the upper echelons of it, but desperately keen to socially climb upwards. This is something I have only witnessed in people who are ashamed of their background, not proud of it.
It's all rather sad. If you really were middle class, would you need to ask which baby names were MC on Mumsnet?
I also notice how many threads about poverty usually involve users stealth boasting about how 'lucky' they are. It's quite vulgar tbh. Yet, and this is the most interesting bit, 99% of these lucky ladies with high income 'D'
Aitches' claim to have been born WC and lived in abject poverty until they worked hard and got out of it as adults. I sniff bolleaux.
Perhaps this is how they first learned how to make a pygmy chicken last 10 yrs.
Also disagree that they are all thin and teeny tiny eaters. No way! I have never witnessed such horrific levels of skinny shaming anywhere else online. I have seen some serious bullying of posters who have dared to admit having low BMI's, with accusations of disorders, starvation, and that no single adult over the age of 30 can be slim unless they either purge, sacrifice kittens or eat like a sparrow. If the slim person tries to defend themselves a pile on swiftly forms, usually with shouts of "You're just hangry!". I would say most MN users are unhappily overweight and literally obsessed with appearing 'pure'.
And as well as hating men, I think they truly loathe any woman who isn't as miserable as they are. Or any woman who has the audacity to be of a smaller dress size.
Glad I got that of my chest
