There’s one at the moment about charging their adult children housekeeping
It’s always housekeeping threads
I’m fucking skint and can’t afford another adult so yes my adult children when required will pay housekeeping thank you very much and no I won’t be giving it back for deposits on their houses
I’ve been skint I’ve been flush and then skint again
I grew up in a council house and I’m the only one out of my siblings with a mortgage
It’s hard for most at the moment
We get by. We are not wealthy , we have a mortgage but work bloody hard for it .yes I do wish I’d have done better at school instead of being a knob . But it is what it is and I work in a minimum wage job I detest because I have to not because I want to
It’s all not unicorns and rainbows, some have to work to put food on the table and have clean ironed clothes
Agree, and spoiling them doesn’t do them any favours. This sounds awful but the adults I know who are privileged enough to live at home are taking the piss out of their parents tbh and living subsidised lifestyles (cars, holidays, fillers, teeth, etc) off the back of them. They don’t have any incentive to do better or save up because they’re half expecting a windfall down payment from mum & dad, or inheritance from grandparents anyway.
This isn’t a similar stealth brag to the post but it’s something we’re hyper conscious of with our little one after we both come out doing well after poor childhoods. I think the most important privilege a kid can have is emotionally available & well parents for starters so fuck m*msnet going on about it as if it’s child cruelty to charge your adult children rent. If they feel that strongly against rent maybe lobby to nationalise housing huns?
But re financial privilege the only privileges I want to give our daughter is having us *as a back up plan* or knowing she can tell so and so shit boss/partner/uni to fuck off and just come back home and have us as a back up until she finds her own way back on her feet, which is exactly how I see my marriage to someone earning a lot more than me - both in his £ isn’t guaranteed to him forever and he could leave me at any time tbh - but for now it’s allowed me to make different choices and opt out of bullshit. As a parent I don’t see how I can expect excellence from my daughter if she’s wholly or partially funded by us, surely that removes all incentive?
Btw I say this I’ve been a mum for five minutes lol, she’s only one but I’m already conscious of how we can parent her to have good socialist values looool