Mumsnet #2

[Blurp]

There’s currently a thread running on there about M&S Cafe now serving a macaroni cheese toastie with a side of chips and how disgustingly unhealthy this is because its ‘carbs, carbs and more carbs’, they then go onto say it’s no wonder there’s an obesity crisis, like people don’t have free will and shouldn’t be allowed an unhealthy treat once in a while. Whoever said on the previous thread that MN is effectively a pro Anna site isn’t far wrong.

You could do the Four Yorkshiremen sketch with Four Mumsnetters competing for how little they eat.

 

[CyanideKiss]

That thread is a great example of how the posters in aibu egg each other on

I agree. I don't know if they're still going but there used to be quite a few Mumsnet secret splinter groups on FB. You could always tell when someone had hit the Bat(Shit) Sign and within minutes they'd descend on a thread to give some poor soul a good kicking.

 

[Lady_H]

Moving anyone in quickly is just really unwise where there are children involved. It may work out, it may be fantastic, but it equally may not. You just have no idea because you don’t know the person.

My friend who is a lesbian moved in with her partner and the partner’s 7 year old daughter after 3 months. Nothing terrible happened in the relationship, and there is no abuse, but two years down the road she realised she doesn’t really like the girlfriend, is miserable and wants to leave. The daughter is now of course very attached to her and is dealing with the breakup very badly indeed. It is (and was at the time) mind boggling to me that the two of them didn’t take the child’s feelings into consideration when they decided that they were “in love” and “meant to be” so “what’s the point in waiting”.

 

[SqualorVictoria]

I'm not saying there isn't some terrible MiLs out there but they take it to the next level on Mumsnet. If a MIL shows up announced, they practically cry.

It also gets me as well how clinical and business like they all seem to treat marriage and children.

The parents have to do their own cleaning, their own washing, absolutely do not do each other favours, have equal spends from family money, have equal nights out per week, have equal holidays away, have equals hours and minutes on unspecified hobbies, husband has to deal with his side of the family and wife absolutely must not buy his side of the family cards, presents or organise meet ups etc

A proper marriage is teamwork and being there for the other in anyway you can.

Absolutely all of this. Seems like they treat their husbands like a roommate or angsty bored teenage son who's under their feet during the school holidays. A partnership absolutely is teamwork and it's actually nice to do things for your partner and them do nice things for you. And apart from that it should be fun. I just can't imagine any Mumsnetters having fun with their partner. Seems like their relationship is stage managed to the degree that it just removes any fun aspect whatsoever. What's the point?

 

[Chunkeylaydee]

There used to be a MN “royalty” poster who would pick someone up on something then follow them round the site after using advanced search mouthing off at them. People used to say oh it’s only… (can’t remember their name now)

 

[Traveler001]

Or the ones where ambulances should be called but they check if they are being unreasonable to do so?!

My husband is lying on the floor, clutching his chest and turning blue, would I be unreasonable to call an ambulance

I've seen a few where someone has dropped their baby (Including one who dropped their baby on a tiled kitchen floor from a standing height) and wondering if they should 'get the baby seen to'...

 

[Kaylon8083]

There’s a thread on there atm about someone who doesn’t want the childminder to give her 14 month old any sugary treats. Which is fine. But then goes onto say her kid was happy eating raspberries while all the adults stood around eating the kids birthday cake. Poor little bugger didn’t even get any of her own cake! Why buy one in the first place?! Obviously everyone’s rushing on to outdo the OP with tales of how their kid has never touched sugar in any form and now only eats raw horse meat and grass as a teenager out of choice.

I read some of that thread but the whole “my kid doesn’t eat sugar. They don’t need it” put me right off it. Also the ones who said their kid prefers cucumber/fruit to cake seemed quite smug.

I felt it was mean to have everyone eating birthday cake but the birthday girl just had a bowl of raspberries.

 

[Traveler001]

Plus the guaranteed 'Are you five years old, OP?'.

Well yes, yes I am. I grew up in an abusive household where birthdays weren't celebrated (apart from the main abuser, who always got expensive gifts to try and keep her on side). So somebody not bothering to get me a card and a present means I am instantly plummeted back into the feeling of being a small child wondering why I didn't get a little tea party, a pretty dress, cake with candles and a card with a pretty wrapped gift to unwrap when other children did - and being told it was because they weren't horrible children like me and then I was too old and laughed at for looking unhappy from the age of 8 'Oh, look, she's got a face on her because she thinks she should have got a birthday present like a little baby'.

I wouldn't post on one of those threads though, because I have no desire to be inundated with exactly the same sort of abuse I had for years. And no amount of therapy would change that (you know people would reply that I'd need psychiatric treatment) feeling - because it is a perfectly reasonable reaction to be sad at not feeling loved or valued.

I'm sorry for what you've been through.

It's the same on the adults who like Disney threads, no thought as to why adults might like disney just are you 5/it's creepy etc.

 

[DCICassieStuart]

I really feel sorry for some of them, they think...
(1) "Are you on GLUE ?" is the hight of comedy, this saying was around in my school years, and an in joke in Alan Partridge.

(2) "Pull your big girl pants up" when somebody is genuinely asking for help in an awful situation. It's awful advice.

(3) "Give your head a wobble" yep Mumsnet please do this because it's one of the worst phases l've ever heard.

(4) Their are some really hatefull posters on your site, many who l think are sockpuppets.

Other than that it's all good

(5) Can I get you a bag of grips?

 

[Pinkii]

There is a thread about a poor woman and how she can survive on her little amount of benefit, surprised no one has mentioned she should take in ironing yet

 

[BethanyGilbert]

God they want everything to be in classics. Their since of humour is seriously unsophisticated.

 

[Wackie Jeaver]

There's a thread on there at the moment about an anxious kid who doesnt want to go on primary school residential trip. The sheer number of people basically saying "make him go, they all cry on the first night or so but he'll learn to love abseiling etc" is seriously doing my head in. And also that the mum is a pathetic over protective weed who is projecting her anxieties onto the child.

 

[Becclo44]

Anyone seen the thread about a woman who (allegedly...) stayed at a haunted castle but spent spent her whole night telling people not to believe in haunted things and how silly they were?

 

[DCICassieStuart]

Dont forget, spa day also solves your problems

And if that doesn't work, try hiring a cleaner.

 

[witchofwestbyfleet]

No idea where the "bum sex" meme comes from AIBU is indeed the worst board.

I think one of my least favourite recent threads was where someone expressing concern that a neighbour allowed a 9-year-old to watch Squid Game turned into pages of moral one-upmanship about how the show is so abhorrent and promotes violence, etc. It's a fact of life that many people in Korea live in desperate circumstances just like some of the characters. East Asian media is often made with the view that portraying unfortunate realities in fiction is just reflecting something we need to acknowledge; it's not condoning the characters' actions. I agree it's not a good idea to let children watch this show but at the same time, it does annoy me seeing largely white British women criticising cultures and situations they know nothing about

There are currently three threads about a poster's situation that started with her 16-year-old son's girlfriend being abusive/controlling towards him (and her mother apparently trying to isolate him from his own family), him not listening to his parents and moving in with the girlfriend's family, OP going to the police who would do nothing because the son is over the age of consent. It all sounds awful but in a situation like this why would you want to be on a forum giving the world the blow by blow details.

 

[DuckDuck]

Yay !!! I called ‘ not in the spirit of MN ‘ the night that Hinch one went up
It’s just been pulled .. * bows , I thank you *
Someone had said never has the word cunt been used in one thread as much AND she’d been on the Christine mcginness thread

 

[SpindleWhorl]

I remember the garlic bread thread. So many saying they'd share one baguette between a family of 4 or 5. As far as I'm concerned it's one each or nothing

Random sample of mumsnetters talking about how many people one standard sized garlic baguette would serve

 

[Blurp]

Yet another load of judgement. How dare you lock your front door - from the people who won't answer their door unless you've given notice of your intention to visit a month in advance.

How dare she keep a man and his child waiting because he wasn't adult enough to take his keys and she was confined to bed and the loo?

 

[witchofwestbyfleet]

A quick glance at AIBU today:

A thread about the OP's 14-year-old daughter who was actively trying to have a baby with her 13-year-old boyfriend, whose mother appeared to be abusing him. Social services were involved. Now, this IS a real problem. Why do you think Mumsnet will help; they don't like young mums (or those over 35.) Do you want your daughter's situation online forever for the world to see?

A thread that is people trashing Sally Rooney for not allowing an Israeli publisher to release a Hebrew translation of her new novel. I won't debate that element but there's a lot of pretentious complaints about her writing style and "in my HUMBLE OPINION she should use speech marks"

Multiple people posting irrelevant threads "for traffic"

Someone wanting "petty revenge" on annoying neighbours

Someone with a 17-year-old daughter who is attending a prestigious grammar school after the family hastily moved to escape OP's controlling ex-husband. She complains that the daughter is behaving "childishly" and OP expects 3 A grades at A-level as a "bare minimum" given her GCSE performance and the educational opportunities she's had. So: parents divorced not too long ago, dad is controlling, you have moved halfway across the country (OP mentions moving from Manchester area to Essex) and daughter is new in a very selective school. Your response is to dial up the pressure, and you don't understand why she may be acting out?

Not allowing a 1-year-old child to eat a wholewheat cereal that is provided at nursery because OP thinks all cereal is inherently unhealthy, instead child is given porridge "made from steel cut oats" (OK, so higher in fibre but not necessarily inherently healthier?)

 

[Kaylon8083]

That was Crumbs. Resident MN fantasist/troll and she of the Nativity on the village green replete with cherub faced, rosy cheeked children and sheep in fairy lights. Seem to remember she doubled down on the hotel bedroom and the thread got deleted in the end.

I remember her. Didn't she have 6 high achieving kids and a fantasy fairytale Christmas? I remember reading her Christmas gifts that she was sending, pure fantasy they were.