Mumsnet #2

[Gym&Tonic]

Mumsnet would make a fantastic drinking game. You can have a shot each time you see a comment containing one of the of the following comments or statements:

POAS
Vulva
Mooncup
Naice
Wendied
Mint Velvet
Keep us a float
Keep our heads above water
Go NC

If you see ‘Call Women’s Aid’ or ‘LTB’ that’s a double shot.

We’d all be pissed within minutes!

 

[Lady_H]

Not to be too critical to your friend but gosh what poor judgment.

I remember as a teenager still trying to process my parents’ divorce and my mum having a new boyfriend regularly. She could never understand why we weren’t thrilled to meet these men and be forced to play happy families with them. She of course married one guy with 3 kids which was a whollleee big mess when the inevitable break up after less than two years of marriage happened. It was tragic to witness and so predictable. I still resent her for it years after her death and tbh feel repulsed by her desperation to not be alone and disregard the feelings of two devastated teens.
Have a relationship by all means, but why do your children need to be involved unless it’s an established and serious one?



Quite the I’ve gone on rant there. Sorry all!

Nothing to be sorry about. It’s a truly awful situation to be put in by your mum at that age.
The well-being of children should always come first, particularly in a breakup situation - they come before loneliness or desire for a partner or desire for sex or anything else. The parents needs are secondary to making sure that children are safe, have reliable routines and are as happy as they possible can be given a difficult situation. If you want to date, find a way to do it that doesn’t compromise the kids in any way.

 

[Traveler001]

Or a pile of veggies

Just no peas, they're pure sugar/carbs/syns/something.

 

[Peachsquish]

This is a big part of the problem tho. Like I cannot understand what I’m missing, as a v left wing / socialist leaning person I struggle to see how I have more in common with the Julie Bindels of the world than the right on Twitterati, and they’re losing us with good intentions because no one will fucking have a conversation with us and explain? Like please can someone explain to me how you’re going to safeguard young girls in communal swimming changing rooms from a person you would assume to be male coming in and masturbating in front of them if self ID is a thing and no one’s allowed to question based on appearance? Is it now an after the horse has bolted policy? Like can someone please explain? The only thing that’s come close is people saying oh dangerous men would do that anyway! Well yes, the very worst of them would but lowering the barrier to entry means you get more nutters offending, surely?! It’s not as if SA or rape convictions are even near double digits because it’s so hard to prove/he said she said (or they said she said you know what I mean). Like is it so bad to ask this question?

The thing is none of this reflects poorly on trans women, because I’m not suggesting a trans woman would do that because I’m sure she wouldn’t. All we are asking for is for people to consider every implication of these policies?

What I find hard to deal with is that the meaning of trans has changed so that it has gone from being a person with gender dysphoria who more than likely would have had medical treatment to being a person who doesn't even need to have gender dysphoria at all and as this screenshot says. (from a fairplay for women article)

 

[Thorongil]

My wife has been in mumsnet for years. I was on it for about 6 months. My wife still shows me the craziness regularly.

When I was there I found it to be absolute poison for the most part. Being male, I wasn’t allowed an opinion on anything and was regularly attacked for my gender and their assumptions of my skin colour and sexuality.

I took it as it is largely a female space but after 6 months I started to argue back a bit. Mildly. Very soon there were people trying to get me banned and the occasional admin hinting towards it, so I exited.

Dreadful place, full of very angry and hate filled people.

Ah mumsnet

My favourite thing on Mumsnet is "think x"

"DS has been accepted to a very old, prestigious university in the south of England. An enormous number of politicians went there. Can't say the name, but think Cambridge."

"Thinking of moving to an English-speaking country in the southern hemisphere where they play cricket and rugby and have unusual animals. Don't want to give too much information as would be outing. Think New Zealand."

"DH has taken up a new hobby. Plays with a team of other men, chasing a ball around a pitch. Think rugby."

Mumsnet and “hobbies”. It would always be the word “hobby” and never saying what it actually was. As if a partner playing golf could be “outing”.

who uses the word “hobby” in real life?

 

[sixdinnersid83]

So many posters with eating disorders on there, trying to offload their issues on to everyone else.

 

[klarakluckbag]

Over the last few weeks there have been lots of thinly veiled snooty threads about having to slum it whilst holidaying in the UK. One woman started a thread genuinely stating that people who snore shouldn’t be allowed to go camping because she’d been disturbed by someone in the next tent snoring and there was one whinging about another family who’d dared to drive back to their tent ‘late at night‘ with their lights on ’waking everyone up’ (maybe they’d have preferred these other people to have done so without the lights on potentially driving into other tents and killing and maiming people?) They then had the audacity to sit out their tents and chat at the ungodly hour of 10.30pm whilst they were on holiday. There were so many comments about how campsites in France are much better because everything is more spaced out and you don’t get as much noise, but for so many people in the U.K. who can’t afford to holiday in exotic location or even on a campite in France this is the only holiday they get and seeing these stuck up hags belittling it really annoyed me!

Oh god. Imagine going on a camping trip and then finding out you're pitched next to a MN user . Quelle horreur!!

 

[doctordoctor]

I wonder how some of them actually manage to cross the road without asking for someone’s opinion. There’s one just now on AIBU not to go abroad to my friends wedding, I’m paying off a ton of debt, should I get a loan/credit card and just go? Really? Are you that stupid?? It’s infuriating!

 

[gigilouxx]

I love how they're kids always eat "healthy" like quinoa and Pan fried seabass with a tamarind glaze followed by a small square of 70% organic chocolate for a treat only eat chicken dippers on a leap year dahhhhling

 

[Kaylon8083]

You can’t express a different opinion on Mumsnet without sarcastic comments or being torn to shreds. Whereas on here, people are friendlier and mostly accept different opinions.

 

[Chunkeylaydee]

My SIL is a snobby bitch who looks down her nose at 'tradesmen'. When she was growing up her Dad was a postman and her mother worked on a checkout on Tesco, so get down off your high house you snotty cow.

My SIL looks down on tradesmen too. Forgetting she’s married to one.

 

[Brigitjonesbuttcheek]

They’re currently debating whether statement necklaces are back. I mean, were they ever really ‘in’? At least of the type they’re on about. Some nice lady has posted a picture of hers, and it looks like one of those pasta necklaces kids come home with from nursery.

They are if you take fashion inspiration from Prue Leith

 

[Traveler001]

Weirdly they all seem to despise their organically fed, IQ busting mastermind sporting/music prodigy children too. And mother in laws

I don't want kids and people always assume I hate kids because of that (I don't), I always say if you want to hear from people who hate kid, get on mumsnet! They either hate their own, their step kids, their neices and nephews, their kids friends, other kids at the school, just random kids or all of the above.

And in real life I don't know anyone who hates their mother in law, the closest is a woman who doesn't like her mother in law but has a good relationship with her for the sake of her husband and kids. Mumsnetters seem to live in a roy chubby brown joke when it comes to mils.

 

[witchofwestbyfleet]

MN is a toxic toxic place.
I sometimes go on the wedding forum, i don't know why because they're generally vile and all show off that they spent under £250 on their whole wedding and if you dare spend more you're stupid, and showy and wasting your money. They will be vile to you if you suggest spending a bit of money on your wedding.
Every MN has worn a second hand, hand me down wedding dress that their aunt Phyllis wore, they didn't have a photographer or any guests and refused to spend any money on any wedding ring. If you ask about wedding cake suggestions you get a tirade of "that's so wasteful" ..."we didn't have a cake"..."who has a wedding cake on their wedding"

I'm planning a wedding at the moment and this annoys me. I don't care if you got married in your lunch break, wearing your overalls from work, had a quick McDonald's and back to the job. If that's your dream wedding, great! But others are free to spend their money on whatever they want

 

[Gym&Tonic]

I’ve read it all now. There’s a comment on a thread about Ant and Dec saying that Byker Grove was ableist for having PJ(Ant) go blind. Apparently A&D should be cancelled for this, despite the fact it was 25 years ago at least!

 

[Theshamedame]

There is no sense of community there, its too serious for me.
It doesn't do much for women really.

It saddens me in some respects because the posts I've seen sound like there are kiddos who desperately need a mum who'll just give them cuddles and time and carbs

The other thing that occured to me is how cruel some kids can be (unknowingly). Who wants to be the kid that other kids talk about "we got cake at Annie's party and she wasn't allowed to eat any and was sat there eating raspberries"

When I used to do kids parties for my teenagers, I'd buy vegan/gluten/everything free versions as well as a generic cake because it would crush me having a kid left out due to dietary. The idea of leaving the actual child out is evil and knocks my stomach sick, no need.

 

[SpindleWhorl]

It's when they try to be evasive but it's obvious what they're talking about that annoy me. I've seen it loads but can't remember any specific examples. It would be like them posting "We recently visited a capital city famous for its tall tower, baguettes and wine and we were shocked by xy and Z" Can't just say Paris??

 

[FrannyGallops]

Heya - I mentioned tax credits so just want to clarify it was by no means a judgment on “better” or “not better” jobs, it was a comment on that particular user saying her husband was a high earner which I’m sure you’d agree is contradicted by her reference to tax credits.

Firstly the value of a job is rarely captured in its salary, eg look at the key worker debate of the pandemic - all of those roles are underpaid if not low paid work yet absolutely essential for our survival/society as you’ve pointed out re elder care. Tax credits are a benefit to companies not families, businesses should be paying their staff a fair and living wage that doesn’t require government top ups to ensure people can afford to live a baseline standard of life. Absolutely no judgment here and sorry if you felt that comment was in any way shitty, honestly not my intention at all.

Absolutely agree! In fact, there’s a thread running about this on MN at the moment. Apparently some businesses can’t fill vacancies and as usual there’s a ton of polarised opinions, but I’m with the people saying that these companies need to offer better wages, no zero hour contracts and better working conditions. They’ve had 20 years of being able to pick and choose who they employ and with Brexit and Covid it’s coming back to bite them on their arses. The government should never have had to top up the wages of employees who work for companies that make millions of pounds profit a year, yet will only offer zero hours contracts and minimum wage (and absolutely no disrespect to anyone who claims TC or UC). It’s exploitation, both of foreign workers and British workers.

 

[Lechat]

They waffle on about clothes, yet in the threads where they post their outfits they all look like a psychotic break in Bon Marche.

this is so true. Like if someone posts for help finding some new fashionable black boots for winter they get given links to the most old fashioned and hideous styles.

 

[Kaylon8083]

Some of the replies on the Landlord thread are awful and rude. A lot of smug people on there who have no clue about what it’s like to live hand to mouth. It’s none of their business why she’s a single mum too, they probably want to know so they can stick the boot in harder.