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Interesting but slightly disturbing thread about a mum who is sad about her daughter not wanting to come back from a visit to her neighbours. There’s something really off about the thread, and the neighbours sound really sus, but the op is having none of it!
No idea where the "bum sex" meme comes from 
AIBU is indeed the worst board.
I think one of my least favourite recent threads was where someone expressing concern that a neighbour allowed a 9-year-old to watch Squid Game turned into pages of moral one-upmanship about how the show is so abhorrent and promotes violence, etc. It's a fact of life that many people in Korea live in desperate circumstances just like some of the characters. East Asian media is often made with the view that portraying unfortunate realities in fiction is just reflecting something we need to acknowledge; it's not condoning the characters' actions. I agree it's not a good idea to let children watch this show but at the same time, it does annoy me seeing largely white British women criticising cultures and situations they know nothing about
There are currently three threads about a poster's situation that started with her 16-year-old son's girlfriend being abusive/controlling towards him (and her mother apparently trying to isolate him from his own family), him not listening to his parents and moving in with the girlfriend's family, OP going to the police who would do nothing because the son is over the age of consent. It all sounds awful but in a situation like this why would you want to be on a forum giving the world the blow by blow details.
AIBU is indeed the worst board.I think one of my least favourite recent threads was where someone expressing concern that a neighbour allowed a 9-year-old to watch Squid Game turned into pages of moral one-upmanship about how the show is so abhorrent and promotes violence, etc. It's a fact of life that many people in Korea live in desperate circumstances just like some of the characters. East Asian media is often made with the view that portraying unfortunate realities in fiction is just reflecting something we need to acknowledge; it's not condoning the characters' actions. I agree it's not a good idea to let children watch this show but at the same time, it does annoy me seeing largely white British women criticising cultures and situations they know nothing about
There are currently three threads about a poster's situation that started with her 16-year-old son's girlfriend being abusive/controlling towards him (and her mother apparently trying to isolate him from his own family), him not listening to his parents and moving in with the girlfriend's family, OP going to the police who would do nothing because the son is over the age of consent. It all sounds awful but in a situation like this why would you want to be on a forum giving the world the blow by blow details.
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There’s one at the moment about charging their adult children housekeeping
It’s always housekeeping threads
I’m bleeping skint and can’t afford another adult so yes my adult children when required will pay housekeeping thank you very much and no I won’t be giving it back for deposits on their houses
I’ve been skint I’ve been flush and then skint again
I grew up in a council house and I’m the only one out of my siblings with a mortgage
It’s hard for most at the moment
We get by. We are not wealthy , we have a mortgage but work bloody hard for it .yes I do wish I’d have done better at school instead of being a knob . But it is what it is and I work in a minimum wage job I detest because I have to not because I want to
It’s all not unicorns and rainbows, some have to work to put food on the table and have clean ironed clothes
It’s always housekeeping threads
I’m bleeping skint and can’t afford another adult so yes my adult children when required will pay housekeeping thank you very much and no I won’t be giving it back for deposits on their houses
I’ve been skint I’ve been flush and then skint again
I grew up in a council house and I’m the only one out of my siblings with a mortgage
It’s hard for most at the moment
We get by. We are not wealthy , we have a mortgage but work bloody hard for it .yes I do wish I’d have done better at school instead of being a knob . But it is what it is and I work in a minimum wage job I detest because I have to not because I want to
It’s all not unicorns and rainbows, some have to work to put food on the table and have clean ironed clothes
After that comment I went on AIBU and found that. I know it’s a horrible state of affairs when you have to be suspicious of *everyone* but we as a society know far more now than we ever did before when children were told to be seen & not heard and advocacy for SA victims was low? I listen to a lot of true crime podcasts and something they repeat is if an adult wants to spend time with your child voluntarily then
. I love my neighbours, once my LO is awake we’re going over there for Sunday lunch, but there’s no way in god’s earth I’d be sat at home having a cup of tea if she was over there alone?!!! Especially that young where they can’t advocate for themselves?!I have just read that thread ... scary. The child is only 3, if this were my nephew of the same age alarm bells would be ringing
Agree, and spoiling them doesn’t do them any favours. This sounds awful but the adults I know who are privileged enough to live at home are taking the piss out of their parents tbh and living subsidised lifestyles (cars, holidays, fillers, teeth, etc) off the back of them. They don’t have any incentive to do better or save up because they’re half expecting a windfall down payment from mum & dad, or inheritance from grandparents anyway.
This isn’t a similar stealth brag to the post but it’s something we’re hyper conscious of with our little one after we both come out doing well after poor childhoods. I think the most important privilege a kid can have is emotionally available & well parents for starters so duck m*msnet going on about it as if it’s child cruelty to charge your adult children rent. If they feel that strongly against rent maybe lobby to nationalise housing huns?
But re financial privilege the only privileges I want to give our daughter is having us *as a back up plan* or knowing she can tell so and so tit boss/partner/uni to duck off and just come back home and have us as a back up until she finds her own way back on her feet, which is exactly how I see my marriage to someone earning a lot more than me - both in his £ isn’t guaranteed to him forever and he could leave me at any time tbh - but for now it’s allowed me to make different choices and opt out of bullshit. As a parent I don’t see how I can expect excellence from my daughter if she’s wholly or partially funded by us, surely that removes all incentive?
Btw I say this I’ve been a mum for five minutes lol, she’s only one but I’m already conscious of how we can parent her to have good socialist values looool
I’m sure some Mumsnetters found Chris Whitty, Dominic Cummings and Matt Hancock attractive during the various lockdowns. 
What level of desperation do you need to find that impotent looking trip attractive. I wouldn't touch Matt Hancock with someone else's fanny.I’m sure some Mumsnetters found Chris Whitty, Dominic Cummings and Matt Hancock attractive during the various lockdowns.
Paging @Gym&Tonic - care to explain yourself?
I ventured on to the Autumn What Are You Wearing thread and it was a good thing that I can't post there. There a right couple of clown garments but they were good brands.
There were a lot of "I really want an X with Y in [colour] Z" and I would just have said, well make your own then! (Looking at the sale pure wool for two jerseys to make for the winter, loads of sock yarn, and the basket full of dress patterns...
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There were a lot of "I really want an X with Y in [colour] Z" and I would just have said, well make your own then! (Looking at the sale pure wool for two jerseys to make for the winter, loads of sock yarn, and the basket full of dress patterns...
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Not guilty in this case!
A quick glance at AIBU today:
A thread about the OP's 14-year-old daughter who was actively trying to have a baby with her 13-year-old boyfriend, whose mother appeared to be abusing him. Social services were involved. Now, this IS a real problem. Why do you think Mumsnet will help; they don't like young mums (or those over 35.) Do you want your daughter's situation online forever for the world to see?
A thread that is people trashing Sally Rooney for not allowing an Israeli publisher to release a Hebrew translation of her new novel. I won't debate that element but there's a lot of pretentious complaints about her writing style and "in my HUMBLE OPINION she should use speech marks"
Multiple people posting irrelevant threads "for traffic"
Someone wanting "petty revenge" on annoying neighbours
Someone with a 17-year-old daughter who is attending a prestigious grammar school after the family hastily moved to escape OP's controlling ex-husband. She complains that the daughter is behaving "childishly" and OP expects 3 A grades at A-level as a "bare minimum" given her GCSE performance and the educational opportunities she's had. So: parents divorced not too long ago, dad is controlling, you have moved halfway across the country (OP mentions moving from Manchester area to Essex) and daughter is new in a very selective school. Your response is to dial up the pressure, and you don't understand why she may be acting out?
Not allowing a 1-year-old child to eat a wholewheat cereal that is provided at nursery because OP thinks all cereal is inherently unhealthy, instead child is given porridge "made from steel cut oats" (OK, so higher in fibre but not necessarily inherently healthier?)
A thread about the OP's 14-year-old daughter who was actively trying to have a baby with her 13-year-old boyfriend, whose mother appeared to be abusing him. Social services were involved. Now, this IS a real problem. Why do you think Mumsnet will help; they don't like young mums (or those over 35.) Do you want your daughter's situation online forever for the world to see?
A thread that is people trashing Sally Rooney for not allowing an Israeli publisher to release a Hebrew translation of her new novel. I won't debate that element but there's a lot of pretentious complaints about her writing style and "in my HUMBLE OPINION she should use speech marks"
Multiple people posting irrelevant threads "for traffic"
Someone wanting "petty revenge" on annoying neighbours
Someone with a 17-year-old daughter who is attending a prestigious grammar school after the family hastily moved to escape OP's controlling ex-husband. She complains that the daughter is behaving "childishly" and OP expects 3 A grades at A-level as a "bare minimum" given her GCSE performance and the educational opportunities she's had. So: parents divorced not too long ago, dad is controlling, you have moved halfway across the country (OP mentions moving from Manchester area to Essex) and daughter is new in a very selective school. Your response is to dial up the pressure, and you don't understand why she may be acting out?
Not allowing a 1-year-old child to eat a wholewheat cereal that is provided at nursery because OP thinks all cereal is inherently unhealthy, instead child is given porridge "made from steel cut oats" (OK, so higher in fibre but not necessarily inherently healthier?)
Yikes. They’re cutting off their nose to spite their face with that - whilst they may find it difficult to move away from their default hatred of service workers it would do their child and their relationship with the nursery a lot of good to do so? Like ideally my daughter would drink from an open mouthed cup not a spout, but I’m not the one who has to clear up 50 spillages a day & change her repeatedly whilst also caring for x more children so I let them make the call that works for them. A spouted cup will not damage her. It’s showing respect for the nursery’s decision making & their members of staff which ultimately means your child gets better care as they’re free to do the tit that matters eg messy play or a walk to the park. They also don’t dread talking to you at handover so you get more info on how LO is doing.
Tbh I think this snobbery is just about status and feeling better than *someone somewhere*
Did anyone see the one about the breakfast grazing table? Dish of butter, toast rack, bottled milk, cereal in jars because they were brought up to NEVER have boxes of cereal on the table. Apparently this is to make breakfast time easier but sounds like more tidying up to me 
hahaha I was reading that earlier. If the children are old enough to be going to school, they're more than capable of pouring some cereal and milk into a bowl. I was trained to make my mother a morning coffee at 5.Did anyone see the one about the breakfast grazing table? Dish of butter, toast rack, bottled milk, cereal in jars because they were brought up to NEVER have boxes of cereal on the table. Apparently this is to make breakfast time easier but sounds like more tidying up to me
The petty revenge thread is awful. Some of them border on harassment and it won’t be the posters egging the OP on who will be in trouble if the OP takes their stupid advice.
There was a neighbour dispute that ended in a stabbing last week in my hometown which ended with one man losing his life.
One of the petty revenge acts still upsets me now - where a poster kidnapped his neighbours barking dog and drove it 20 miles away and abandoned the poor thing.
There was a neighbour dispute that ended in a stabbing last week in my hometown which ended with one man losing his life.
One of the petty revenge acts still upsets me now - where a poster kidnapped his neighbours barking dog and drove it 20 miles away and abandoned the poor thing.
There are a lot of very nasty people on mumsnet, he wasn’t even banned for that either.The petty revenge thread is awful. Some of them border on harassment and it won’t be the posters egging the OP on who will be in trouble if the OP takes their stupid advice.
There was a neighbour dispute that ended in a stabbing last week in my hometown which ended with one man losing his life.
One of the petty revenge acts still upsets me now - where a poster kidnapped his neighbours barking dog and drove it 20 miles away and abandoned the poor thing.
And that poster raised my alert mode because he kept obsessively posting about his niece having a baby. He was a real oddball.
Hates dogs but joins a parenting website to bore people with distant relatives having babies.
I think he did a flounce a couple of years later when he was mentioned on “Which posters you can’t stand” thread.
I asked MNHQ why they didn’t ban him and they said he didn’t break talk guidelines. He was creepy before he posted about what he did to that dog though. Made my skin crawl.
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