I had a baby boy the day before poppy and he was in special care the same length of time, I was besides myself with emotional pain. I remember clear as day, on day 3 I think of poppy being in, she posted stories all dressed up to the nines, in this flouncy pink shirt “off to lunch with chums to get some normality” I mean sorry but WTF. Poppy being in NICU was nothing but a huge inconvenience for her perfect life and that is why she was so upset! Every day I showered and dressed and tired to be upbeat but my baby was my absolute priority my other children were happy and cared for, so I spent all my time with my new baby who needed me. Not out for lunch with my chums. She also made it clear there was no way she would be expressing any colostrum, which is so so important for those early poorly babes. Even if you don’t want to breastfeed, all women will try and help their early babies with colostrum (I work in NICU) so I know this. Because it makes them feel like there is something they can do. But not grabby, too much inconvenience. She only does what is good for her. And that is when I changed my opinion of her.