I keep thinking of this every time the doll house is mentioned
Sending love. Walking if you can will do you the world of good. It will clear your head as you focus on your surroundings...trees water mountains or whatever is about you. And it will release some good endorphins. X I always dread a walk but never regret on. Take your son. Play some music on your walk and you will go further xxxSending so much love.
I hope school are being proactive and supportive, and that you also have support that you can lean on when the load gets heavy.
We’re always here if you need a chat x
Yes unfortunately for Ronnie, he’d be PhoebeI keep thinking of this every time the doll house is mentioned
You say people would think you’re a right gullible dick, I don’t think you are, and so many people would understand. Narc world is a crazy worldI agree with all your posts!! Me and my kids are victims of NPD and it's why it recognised in Hinch so quickly. The mess it leaves victims in can be life long and I wish it could be a crime.
I said about 300+ threads ago that the reason people hang on with her is because even though they might recognise things aren't what they seem, is also because admitting you've been (conned) abused is embarrassing.
I'm a really strong person and didn't see it happening. These people are really manipulative with how they behave and project their own behavior onto others to male themselves feel better or more important. They convince you that they're right and that you're lower than them and wrong... even when you're right.
When then you see what's been happening you feel so foolish, or don't want to admit that you've been manipulated at all. Only a handful of people know the lies I was told because I'm too ashamed to tell people the truth on what I went through. If I told people everything they'd think I was a right gullible dick, when in reality I'm not at all.
I hate narcs because I see the damage they leave, but unlike them I'm capable of empathy. So when I hear Hinch give it the "spend time with your beautiful family", all I feel is sadness because she can't do that fully, and ultimately she is the way she is because she's missed something important in her development that has made her this way.
Thats not to say I feel sorry for her, I don't at all, but thats generally why people like her behave the way they do.
They're messed up and don't even realise it because they're so wrapped up in their own self importance.
Best I stop banging on tooIt really pisses me off though!
I wouldn't have respect for her if she got a cleaner in. BOTH of them don't work. They don't work. They have more than enough time to be hands on parents, clean their house and walk Henry x2 a day.The more I think , if she does have "a day off " as the cleaner is in, why not share this? How amazing for her followers would it be for her to be honest and say , you know what since having kids life's been mad and I've had to ask for help..I think she would end up getting a little bit more respect , and folk wouldn't feel like they were not good enough because they can't do all the things she does !
Goodness your life sounds exactly like mine, put through domestic abuse for yrs, made to feel I wasn’t good enough, told nobody else would ever want me, I was too fat, ugly etc….waited on him hand & foot because he worked oh so much harder than me, yes everything was my fault, didn’t help a tap with the kids, I wasn’t allowed to go to bed before him or get up after him, he buggered off with a 25 yr old, I was so glad but scared at the same time & best of it he told our kids it was me having an affair!I have dealt 17 years with a NARC. Been tough and i didn't see it. Me and my 3 daughters are now coming out of it finally i hope as he ditched his kids and me for a 23 year old new girlfriend... So glad he did as we would never have broke away I wasn't strong enough. I just hope he remains gone for all our sake. The trauma and abuse we all went through and he is now no doubt inflicting it on someone new. Nothing was ever his fault . he was always victim. He ticked every box and so does sophie. I am so sorry everyone who is having a hard time xxx
Always replaced with a shiny new, often younger (and often more naive) toy who is ‘fun’, doesn’t expect them to be accountable and basically doesn’t know any better.Goodness your life sounds exactly like mine, put through domestic abuse for yrs, made to feel I wasn’t good enough, told nobody else would ever want me, I was too fat, ugly etc….waited on him hand & foot because he worked oh so much harder than me, yes everything was my fault, didn’t help a tap with the kids, I wasn’t allowed to go to bed before him or get up after him, he buggered off with a 25 yr old, I was so glad but scared at the same time & best of it he told our kids it was me having an affair!
With a bit of luck the whole bloody thingKeeping on track… wonder how much dolls house she’s fucked up today
This is so true why can’t she just interact with him I noticed the baby doesn’t make much noise either she probably doesn’t speak to them muchWhy does she need cards? Surely you could just ask him?
If you're looking for ideas sure..but if you're going by your child's interests I don't see the need!?
Why doesn't she get Ronnie involved with making that dolls house? Those toys are a bit old for him. You can get nice chunky wooden furniture for dolls houses for younger children. Guess that doesn't suit the aesthetic!
I only wrote mine brief but that's describing my life . definitely i got the too fat too ugly . how Can i be tired he works harder. He Did nothing whatsoever for the kids. They actually feel relieved he has gone . which is sad but you can't force anyone to be a dad. He take control every penny . everything i did was crap while turning his whole family against me . its nearly a year i have my bad days . got therapy on going and on antidepressants because of him . But i wish i was strong enough to get rid years ago . one day at a time hun. I hope you're OK xxxxGoodness your life sounds exactly like mine, put through domestic abuse for yrs, made to feel I wasn’t good enough, told nobody else would ever want me, I was too fat, ugly etc….waited on him hand & foot because he worked oh so much harder than me, yes everything was my fault, didn’t help a tap with the kids, I wasn’t allowed to go to bed before him or get up after him, he buggered off with a 25 yr old, I was so glad but scared at the same time & best of it he told our kids it was me having an affair!
I give mine so so many chances i don't judge anyone who does. I did it for my girls and he always threatened he would take them if i left him or go for custody so i basically kept the peace . give in to him every time and lost my sanity. I am starting to learn my worth.. Karma is i hear his family are seeing him for what he is and can't believe how he's cut off his kids. He told all his family i stopped him . which i never would m i showed all messages me asking him when he is going to see them to be ignored. So why lie . they lie about everything. I am no longer chasing him to see the girls . he don't want to see them it's his loss. When he changes his mind it'll be to late .thank you so much will check the link. I don't know maybe yours have learnt error of their ways and maybe being a dad have helped . i really hope it works well xxAlways replaced with a shiny new, often younger (and often more naive) toy who is ‘fun’, doesn’t expect them to be accountable and basically doesn’t know any better.
I’m still with mine. Which makes my posts about it all even more ridiculous.
Things came to a head 4 years ago when he left me and being in such a low place (as they make you entirely emotionally dependent on them and can convince you the sky is green, that things will change, that it wasn’t that bad, they are sorry, etc.), I took him back. We’ve since bought a house, had a baby and got engaged and it’s been an entirely different relationship, but I’m left battling with the torturous memories and knowledge that they according to most research they can never change.
If I could go back I wouldn’t have taken this path, because I’ve learnt my worth over these years and know now that I’d be totally fine alone (something I couldn’t comprehend at my lowest). Which is what, deep down, I anticipate to happen one day because a leopard doesn’t change its spots…or does it?
I’m a strong woman, I run a successful business single handedly, I grew and birthed an amazing daughter and I have a duty to raise her to demand better in her future relationships.
Those of you sharing your own narc abuse stories, I’m so sorry that you’ve experienced it. You feel so alone. You feel like the rehashing of things they’ve done sound crazy. You probably kept these things a secret for years for fear of rocking the boat, and because they are probably so liked by others that you don’t think they’d believe you.
There is a really great resource I’d like to share here for those who think they may be in a relationship like this (can be a spouse, parent, boss even), and those who have found their way out.
Her videos are fantastic and gentle.
Be comforted in the knowledge that you didn’t deserve any of it, you aren’t crazy, you couldn’t have changed it and not everyone is like this. You will recognise red flags now and know to steer clear.
Does she have a cleanerThe more I think , if she does have "a day off " as the cleaner is in, why not share this? How amazing for her followers would it be for her to be honest and say , you know what since having kids life's been mad and I've had to ask for help..I think she would end up getting a little bit more respect , and folk wouldn't feel like they were not good enough because they can't do all the things she does !
I don’t see a bouquet of cupcakes looking like a cauliflower there- disappointedOmg guyyyyz, come back in from sorting out my children's social lifestyles and see I'm now VIP. Can't believe this has happen to lil old nusty troll me from up north!!!
Free snacks for you guyyyzzz!!!🧇 🫔
Shit!!!! Sorry.... hope these help at such short notice. Credit is all mine, noone else's. The hard work was all me, didn't get ideas from Google images... I'm just learning guuyyyyzzzzI don’t see a bouquet of cupcakes looking like a cauliflower there- disappointed
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