I’m going to say this for the other mums here who felt the same as me after having their baby, but this rush of love people always profess to come just isn’t reality for many mums (and dads). And it doesn’t have to be linked to PND. Your life is turned upside down in a matter of hours. Your relationship changes. Your body is unrecognisable. You’ve never felt emotions or tiredness like it. You are no longer the person you were and you now have the sole responsibility of keeping this tiny, demanding stranger alive and happy. You can mourn the life you’ve suddenly lost. Add on things like feeding issues, birth trauma, reflux, colic, healthcare cuts... it’s no wonder.
My two best friends also had their first babies around the same time and all of us, including the Dads haven’t felt this rush of love. Far from it.
And even speaking to family and other parents they have literally all echoed it once they felt they wouldn’t be judged! It’s like a strange taboo, like parents (and mums especially) are expected to only ever declare that we were besotted by our babies the second they came into the world.
We’ve wondered if it’s different with second babies, as it’s not all so scary and new, and you know that the love you will feel is indescribable and will definitely come? I don’t know.
But for these reasons I just can’t judge Hinch if she didn’t have that bond straight away with Ronseal, and hopefully she genuinely is madly in love with Lenners (though, I don’t believe any of the narratives she spins as we’ve heard this before). Granted, fucking off for 6 weeks on cottage holidays while your #gifted extension is being built isn’t likely to be a good foundation for bonding with a newborn...
She looks unhinged in that video, but she’s a calculated narcissist so it’s probably just a contrived scene to be accompanied by cries of ‘troll’ before long!