Without wanting to sound like a nutso christian fundamentalist type, if there is no abuse of any kind on either side, and if you once had a fulfilling sex life, chemistry and affection with your partner, then generally you can get that stuff back again if you are willing to work on the relationship.
Unfortunately I think it is symptomatic of our culture of instant gratification that people actually don't want to put the work in to relationships any more and instead would rather just kick the can down the road and get into a new relationship, where a decade down the road they'll likely find themselves in the same situation.
I don’t think this is nutso Christian fundamentalism…I think it is just the sorry state of modern relationships the world over. Life is no doubt harder than it has ever been, which adds a lot of pressure on young couples and families, and I’d say it’s been getting worse, not better, over the past decade at least. It’s a combination of harder circumstances plus the ease of getting out and moving on (divorce is tough for many reasons still, but a lot easier than it used to be) and that “grass is greener” “plenty of fish” viewpoint which breaks people and their relationships. Sticking it through (as long as no abuse etc as you mentioned!) and working on it is more hard graft. What gets my goat about this couple is that they’re marketing themselves and commercialising their divorce in a way which makes them seem “authentic” when they are anything but, and the fact that their kids are not even a consideration beyond being used as props for their “magpie” story.
Their text exchange was scripted. Their photo ops are styled. Their verbose captions are heavily edited. There is nothing raw or relatable about them, yet their followers laud them on their “honesty”. Would be far more “real and raw” if Anna came out and said yeah Matt was punching with me, look how hot I am, and if Matt said yup, Anna’s a sh it mother and I’m sick of her self obsession and taking up stupid jobs like the graveyard shift at some radio station that noone’s listening to and dj-ing at festivals on weekends. We are just very different people now and need to get along for the kids. That’s it. No stupid photo sessions, no ridiculous double page newspaper spreads. Influencer wedding commercialisation was bad enough, but now we have to be subjected to their divorces too. I hope the fee they got paid for that feature was worth the embarrassment for their kids.
On the flip side, I have so much admiration for the Beckhams that I didn’t have before seeing their documentary. And also understand Colleen Rooney’s decision to stick it out (anyone that says it’s for the ££££££££ is delulu because she’d get that £££££££££ in a divorce settlement anyway).