Mother in law experiences? Share them! 🤣

[ShondyLife]

My husband is 15 years older then me, I am his second wife and his Mum isn't a fan of me, even though we have been together for 10 years

She calls me a 'glamour girl' and ' trollop' to my face then acts confused when my hubby confronts her, she is 90 and Northern Irish so she is very direct, I used to be mortified and upset but now I don't care lol.

 

[watermelon sugar]

Is it bad that I want to slap her a little bit I'd be so overwhelmed, loud people set me off so bad, I don6 know how you put up with it omg

Nope I wanna slap her too! We'll slap her together loud people make me anxious too. I hated it when the baby was a newborn and she was doing it (no idk why she was shouting yabba and peekaboo at a 2 week old either) I've just had a baby, ive barely slept, I'm anxious, stop shouting!! Ugh I can't stand her

 

[DCICassieStuart]

Nope I wanna slap her too! We'll slap her together loud people make me anxious too. I hated it when the baby was a newborn and she was doing it (no idk why she was shouting yabba and peekaboo at a 2 week old either) I've just had a baby, ive barely slept, I'm anxious, stop shouting!! Ugh I can't stand her

I want to slap my MIL too, and I don't even have a baby

 

[Upintheair83]

I want to slap my MIL too, and I don't even have a baby

Iv read about your MIL and I wanna slap her too!!! I really feel for you

 

[DCICassieStuart]

Iv read about your MIL and I wanna slap her too!!! I really feel for you

Aw, thank you @Upintheair83

 

[Rxt156]

HAVE BABIES, NOW

wowzers. Lol.

 

[watermelon sugar]

How often do your partners speak to their Mums? My MIL rings my fella twice a day. And attempts to facetime me once or twice between them Like even if she has facetimed me, and seen my fella on the phone... she'll still ring him morning and night...

 

[LittleMy]

Honestly? Lucky if it’s once every 2 weeks unless there’s a specific reason. Sometimes I have to remind him to call her if it’s been a while, but then phones work both ways so...

 

[Pjta]

How often do your partners speak to their Mums? My MIL rings my fella twice a day. And attempts to facetime me once or twice between them Like even if she has facetimed me, and seen my fella on the phone... she'll still ring him morning and night...

Mine turns up. 3/4 times a week. Unannounced. Sometimes with the whole family so husband, partners sister and their other half. She rings him several times a day and will ring me 4 times a week less now because I don't answer much. When I first had my daughter she would phone at 7/8 in the morning off the hook and wonder why I didn't answer with a new born.

Or she rings and says I'm round the corner I've got something to drop off. No asking if it's a good time or if your busy. Also doesn't wait to be asked in literally barges her way in.

 

[Jadexxx]

Omg I’ve been waiting for a chance rant about my MIL... I’ve been with her son for almost 5years now and she’s getting worse and worse and I think it’s because she gets more and more worried the more serious we’re getting...
first of all, she rings or facetimes her son about 3 times a day! In between WhatsApp’ing all day, the worst part is when she’s on the phone she repeats the same stuff she’s said the past 2 days (as if she’s scrambling for things to talk about) and my partner doesn’t even have the balls to say “yes you said that yesterday“.. I have to leave the room when she’s on the phone or FaceTime because I can’t bare how much she’s up his arse, he will be watching telly not listening properly to her or scrolling on SM but she never gets the hint and he is too scared to upset her..

I can’t blame my partner for being lazy when I’ve seen how she has brought him up, i Think she would wipe his arse if she could... I’ve spent a lot of time trying to teach him how to cook, how to clean etc etc, so when he sends her a pic of a meal he’s cooked she replies “mammy taught you well” he’s 24.... and she has never let him lift a finger his whole life. Whenever her and my FIL come to our house i would message her saying “I’ll cook us a nice meal“ and she would reply “no I’ll bring something he would have missed my cooking” or she will say “no I don’t mind I’ll do it” and I think it’s because she hates to think that he might like my cooking just as much or more than hers... once she said she would cook something then turned up with costco tit??

before me and my partner moved in together, if he would stay at my parents house she would be ringing him 8/9am the next morning asking when he was coming home cos she was making him food or wanted to go somewhere, if he would ignore her she would ring me or send me blunt texts asking to wake him up.. or she would say “tell ... it doesn’t matter.“ we’ve had to lie about going out for food a handful of times because she would be jealous... I remember once we were going on a date that night and she text in a family group chat “I have loads of new tops and haven’t had a chance to wear them“ i wanted to say get your own husband to take you out then... the day we got the keys for our new house she sent me a massive paragraph text saying he will always be her baby and she’s been crying all night, she said we are a family who are there for each other I hope you understand and that she wants to come over for tea.. she gets so possessive over him it’s crazy.

she literally can’t be wrong, she always knows better than everyone else and will say you’re doing something wrong just because it’s different to how she does it. When she’s on the phone to her son she will ask what he’s ate, then proceed to check how I’ve made it and I should have used a different ingredient.. or she will text me saying “how is ...” but never asks me How I am. she’s so controlling, my fil once made a comment about me looking beautiful and I should have a baby, she absolutely blew her top and started shouting at her husband telling him to shut up and stop being stupid. I feel sorry for my partner because I know how hard work she is and I don’t want it to get any worse, I think if he ever confronted her it would just make it worse for me because she would get even more jealous and worried.

I can’t help but feel worried for when we have children because she already has grandkids and thinks she is an expert, I’ve seen her giving the baby juice even after being told that they’re not allowed juice yet, or she will give them sweets even after being told not to... she would show off “how good they are for nana” when in reality it’s because she’s letting them sleep in the bed when the parents specifically asked for them to be in the cot. If she is looking after her grandkids she will message me or her son saying “fed the baby, burped him then changed his nappy now cuddling him. Bought a blanket today“ I literally want to reply so what isn’t that what you do when you look after a baby and why are you telling me? She always wants praise and thinks she’s hard done by...

whenever I see the way she texts him it makes me feel sick, she will call him her baby and her handsome boy... I love you so much and miss your company. she still calls herself his mammy and his dad “daddy”, he’s 24. She will say “ring daddy he misses you so much“

anyways I’ve pissed myself off now so ill stop for now..

 

[Lulu Goss]

Omg I’ve been waiting for a chance rant about my MIL... I’ve been with her son for almost 5years now and she’s getting worse and worse and I think it’s because she gets more and more worried the more serious we’re getting...
first of all, she rings or facetimes her son about 3 times a day! In between WhatsApp’ing all day, the worst part is when she’s on the phone she repeats the same stuff she’s said the past 2 days (as if she’s scrambling for things to talk about) and my partner doesn’t even have the balls to say “yes you said that yesterday“.. I have to leave the room when she’s on the phone or FaceTime because I can’t bare how much she’s up his arse, he will be watching telly not listening properly to her or scrolling on SM but she never gets the hint and he is too scared to upset her..

I can’t blame my partner for being lazy when I’ve seen how she has brought him up, i Think she would wipe his arse if she could... I’ve spent a lot of time trying to teach him how to cook, how to clean etc etc, so when he sends her a pic of a meal he’s cooked she replies “mammy taught you well” he’s 24.... and she has never let him lift a finger his whole life. Whenever her and my FIL come to our house i would message her saying “I’ll cook us a nice meal“ and she would reply “no I’ll bring something he would have missed my cooking” or she will say “no I don’t mind I’ll do it” and I think it’s because she hates to think that he might like my cooking just as much or more than hers... once she said she would cook something then turned up with costco tit??

before me and my partner moved in together, if he would stay at my parents house she would be ringing him 8/9am the next morning asking when he was coming home cos she was making him food or wanted to go somewhere, if he would ignore her she would ring me or send me blunt texts asking to wake him up.. or she would say “tell ... it doesn’t matter.“ we’ve had to lie about going out for food a handful of times because she would be jealous... I remember once we were going on a date that night and she text in a family group chat “I have loads of new tops and haven’t had a chance to wear them“ i wanted to say get your own husband to take you out then... the day we got the keys for our new house she sent me a massive paragraph text saying he will always be her baby and she’s been crying all night, she said we are a family who are there for each other I hope you understand and that she wants to come over for tea.. she gets so possessive over him it’s crazy.

she literally can’t be wrong, she always knows better than everyone else and will say you’re doing something wrong just because it’s different to how she does it. When she’s on the phone to her son she will ask what he’s ate, then proceed to check how I’ve made it and I should have used a different ingredient.. or she will text me saying “how is ...” but never asks me How I am. she’s so controlling, my fil once made a comment about me looking beautiful and I should have a baby, she absolutely blew her top and started shouting at her husband telling him to shut up and stop being stupid. I feel sorry for my partner because I know how hard work she is and I don’t want it to get any worse, I think if he ever confronted her it would just make it worse for me because she would get even more jealous and worried.

I can’t help but feel worried for when we have children because she already has grandkids and thinks she is an expert, I’ve seen her giving the baby juice even after being told that they’re not allowed juice yet, or she will give them sweets even after being told not to... she would show off “how good they are for nana” when in reality it’s because she’s letting them sleep in the bed when the parents specifically asked for them to be in the cot. If she is looking after her grandkids she will message me or her son saying “fed the baby, burped him then changed his nappy now cuddling him. Bought a blanket today“ I literally want to reply so what isn’t that what you do when you look after a baby and why are you telling me? She always wants praise and thinks she’s hard done by...

whenever I see the way she texts him it makes me feel sick, she will call him her baby and her handsome boy... I love you so much and miss your company. she still calls herself his mammy and his dad “daddy”, he’s 24. She will say “ring daddy he misses you so much“

anyways I’ve pissed myself off now so ill stop for now..

To say she sounds like an absolute nightmare is a HUGE understatement!!

Honestly? Lucky if it’s once every 2 weeks unless there’s a specific reason. Sometimes I have to remind him to call her if it’s been a while, but then phones work both ways so...

Mines like this. Sometimes I’ll be like why don’t you give your mum a ring? And he’ll be like nah I’ll text her one day this week. He has a good relationship with his parents but he’s not one for chatting on the phone

 

[Blonde123]

My FIL has never sent my children Christmas presents because he doesn’t believe in it apparently. Not that he’s religious or anything, just cheap.

 

[LittleMy]

My FIL lives in Australia. I’ve never met him in person, only on video call. OH doesn’t speak to him much either - they aren’t close as he moved away when OH was younger. He’s never met our kids, his only grandsons. He had big opinions when OH told him we were getting married, and OH was quite pissed with him for some time after that. MIL usually only calls if there’s been some big drama for OH to fix it.

 

[Pjta]

Omg I’ve been waiting for a chance rant about my MIL... I’ve been with her son for almost 5years now and she’s getting worse and worse and I think it’s because she gets more and more worried the more serious we’re getting...
first of all, she rings or facetimes her son about 3 times a day! In between WhatsApp’ing all day, the worst part is when she’s on the phone she repeats the same stuff she’s said the past 2 days (as if she’s scrambling for things to talk about) and my partner doesn’t even have the balls to say “yes you said that yesterday“.. I have to leave the room when she’s on the phone or FaceTime because I can’t bare how much she’s up his arse, he will be watching telly not listening properly to her or scrolling on SM but she never gets the hint and he is too scared to upset her..

I can’t blame my partner for being lazy when I’ve seen how she has brought him up, i Think she would wipe his arse if she could... I’ve spent a lot of time trying to teach him how to cook, how to clean etc etc, so when he sends her a pic of a meal he’s cooked she replies “mammy taught you well” he’s 24.... and she has never let him lift a finger his whole life. Whenever her and my FIL come to our house i would message her saying “I’ll cook us a nice meal“ and she would reply “no I’ll bring something he would have missed my cooking” or she will say “no I don’t mind I’ll do it” and I think it’s because she hates to think that he might like my cooking just as much or more than hers... once she said she would cook something then turned up with costco tit??

before me and my partner moved in together, if he would stay at my parents house she would be ringing him 8/9am the next morning asking when he was coming home cos she was making him food or wanted to go somewhere, if he would ignore her she would ring me or send me blunt texts asking to wake him up.. or she would say “tell ... it doesn’t matter.“ we’ve had to lie about going out for food a handful of times because she would be jealous... I remember once we were going on a date that night and she text in a family group chat “I have loads of new tops and haven’t had a chance to wear them“ i wanted to say get your own husband to take you out then... the day we got the keys for our new house she sent me a massive paragraph text saying he will always be her baby and she’s been crying all night, she said we are a family who are there for each other I hope you understand and that she wants to come over for tea.. she gets so possessive over him it’s crazy.

she literally can’t be wrong, she always knows better than everyone else and will say you’re doing something wrong just because it’s different to how she does it. When she’s on the phone to her son she will ask what he’s ate, then proceed to check how I’ve made it and I should have used a different ingredient.. or she will text me saying “how is ...” but never asks me How I am. she’s so controlling, my fil once made a comment about me looking beautiful and I should have a baby, she absolutely blew her top and started shouting at her husband telling him to shut up and stop being stupid. I feel sorry for my partner because I know how hard work she is and I don’t want it to get any worse, I think if he ever confronted her it would just make it worse for me because she would get even more jealous and worried.

I can’t help but feel worried for when we have children because she already has grandkids and thinks she is an expert, I’ve seen her giving the baby juice even after being told that they’re not allowed juice yet, or she will give them sweets even after being told not to... she would show off “how good they are for nana” when in reality it’s because she’s letting them sleep in the bed when the parents specifically asked for them to be in the cot. If she is looking after her grandkids she will message me or her son saying “fed the baby, burped him then changed his nappy now cuddling him. Bought a blanket today“ I literally want to reply so what isn’t that what you do when you look after a baby and why are you telling me? She always wants praise and thinks she’s hard done by...

whenever I see the way she texts him it makes me feel sick, she will call him her baby and her handsome boy... I love you so much and miss your company. she still calls herself his mammy and his dad “daddy”, he’s 24. She will say “ring daddy he misses you so much“

anyways I’ve pissed myself off now so ill stop for now..

Honestly reading this it could be me and my MIL. It actually annoyed me becuase it reminded me of so much stuff. Feel for you!! I've just accepted mine is absolutely nuts and it's quite scary the lengths she goes too.

My partner at first didn't want to see it but now she can't hide her behaviour so he has had to see it. When I first had my daughter she invited 30 people to my house 3 days after having her. All from her side of the family when my own family hadn't really been over let alone 30 of them. If I ever said anything was too much or I needed some space she would say that's not how we do things in this family.

I feel like I can handle her and I've come to accept she is just nutty and it's completely her issue. I could be the most amazing person in the world I still wouldn't be good enough. The thing that really upsets me is that she has so much influence and power over my partner, she rings him and stressed him out, never praises him and always slyly belittles him. But he takes her word as gospel.

It got so bad at one point we actually nearly ended, I was honestly ready to split our family up because I just couldn't bare her anymore. I just did not get any her in my life and I had started to resent my partner for stuff she done. Now I just ignore her, don't give her that power over me and my daughter anymore. Anything she says (and there's a lot) I take no notice.

Whoah - rant over

 

[Blonde123]

Oh also my FIL has 5 grandsons and when I got pregnant again said “it had better be a girl”... it wasn’t... GUTTED! He wasn’t interested, his loss as my son is amazing

 

[openbook1]

How often do your partners speak to their Mums? My MIL rings my fella twice a day. And attempts to facetime me once or twice between them Like even if she has facetimed me, and seen my fella on the phone... she'll still ring him morning and night...

Once a week, if that. He has boundary issues with her so is strict.
I never talk on the phone or facetime with her unless it's Christmas we are all videoing.

Not looking forward to whenever we have a baby and she expects me to video call.

Mine turns up. 3/4 times a week. Unannounced. Sometimes with the whole family so husband, partners sister and their other half. She rings him several times a day and will ring me 4 times a week less now because I don't answer much. When I first had my daughter she would phone at 7/8 in the morning off the hook and wonder why I didn't answer with a new born.

Or she rings and says I'm round the corner I've got something to drop off. No asking if it's a good time or if your busy. Also doesn't wait to be asked in literally barges her way in.

Your husband needs to set boundaries with her.

 

[Pjta]

Once a week, if that. He has boundary issues with her so is strict.
I never talk on the phone or facetime with her unless it's Christmas we are all videoing.

Not looking forward to whenever we have a baby and she expects me to video call.


Your husband needs to set boundaries with her.

He really does. She is so manipulative if he ever says anything or I do, it is WW3 she's crying to her husband, his phoning up going mad. Then me and my partner argue they always manage to turn it around on me. I know it's not the right option and one day I'll probably blow but I have learnt to just bite my tongue. I can't believe I'm even writing that becuase it's so not in my nature but I just feel so sorry for my partner. He can't win - I don't want him to fall out with them but I just want them to back off a bit. But they're so unreasonable and such bullies theyl make his life hell.

 

[Jadexxx]

Honestly reading this it could be me and my MIL. It actually annoyed me becuase it reminded me of so much stuff. Feel for you!! I've just accepted mine is absolutely nuts and it's quite scary the lengths she goes too.

My partner at first didn't want to see it but now she can't hide her behaviour so he has had to see it. When I first had my daughter she invited 30 people to my house 3 days after having her. All from her side of the family when my own family hadn't really been over let alone 30 of them. If I ever said anything was too much or I needed some space she would say that's not how we do things in this family.

I feel like I can handle her and I've come to accept she is just nutty and it's completely her issue. I could be the most amazing person in the world I still wouldn't be good enough. The thing that really upsets me is that she has so much influence and power over my partner, she rings him and stressed him out, never praises him and always slyly belittles him. But he takes her word as gospel.

It got so bad at one point we actually nearly ended, I was honestly ready to split our family up because I just couldn't bare her anymore. I just did not get any her in my life and I had started to resent my partner for stuff she done. Now I just ignore her, don't give her that power over me and my daughter anymore. Anything she says (and there's a lot) I take no notice.

Whoah - rant over

OMG! That’s sooo annoying... me and my partner never hardly argue unless it’s about her, and I feel the exact same as you on that last paragraph. It annoys me so much because even when he knows she’s in the wrong or he agrees it’s bad what she’s done he will say ”what am I supposed to do it’s my mum”... I try to tell him we both want the best for him just she thinks the best is treating him like his 5 and I want him to be independent, I hate feeling like I’m putting him in a hard place but also feel like he needs to set boundaries for his own benefit. I’ve told him I can’t imagine our future if things don’t change, I have just tried to kill her with kindness recently and just agree with everything even if I know she’s wrong. I try and convince myself just to feel sorry for her because her life is obviously so boring she feels the needs to control his... she gets jealous of anything we do, my partner surprised me with an iPad during the second lockdown and he told me not to say anything because she would be angry... shes a grown woman with her own money. I worry that if I try and ignore her she will get worse, I think she would dig her heels in more if I hid stuff from her. She once caught me and my partner having a conversation about hen do and stag do (we aren’t even engaged) and she literally RAN in from the kitchen she had obviously been ear wigging and said no no weddings thank you... I think the thought of her son growing up and having his own family will kill her. She also tries to make me look bad to my partner, she will text him saying ive not answered her call or I seem pissed off (I probably am) but why text him that... it annoys me cos she acts sooo innocent but knows exactly what she’s doing.

 

[Dickydoo123]

I’ve previously posted about MIL before, reading all these stories boils my piss the way they believe they’re allowed to behave because of their position in the family. Doesn’t cut it with me I’m afraid. My MIL was cut off 5yrs ago after 12yrs of cunty toxic behavior. My husband still sees her once a week and I’m presuming they may text in between, I don’t know because I don’t ask and have zero interest in knowing. She’s not allowed in my house either. My daughter used to see her a lot which fueled her obsessive, irrational and toxic behaviour. She’s now only allowed limited access to my daughter as and when I say. She used to still send me birthday presents and cards until I told my husband if he brings another one home I’ll go round to her house with it and launch it at the front door. I don’t keep peace, I keep boundaries. I also don’t accept repeated apologies, I expect changed behavior. It’s pretty black and white for me, treat me like a twit for 12yrs and when I cut you off you’re dead to me and there’s no going back. I wouldn’t say I dislike her, I have no feelings now as I’m at peace with my decision. All I would say is speak up, especially when your children are young as you are their only voice.

 

[Miss98]

Omg I’ve been waiting for a chance rant about my MIL... I’ve been with her son for almost 5years now and she’s getting worse and worse and I think it’s because she gets more and more worried the more serious we’re getting...
first of all, she rings or facetimes her son about 3 times a day! In between WhatsApp’ing all day, the worst part is when she’s on the phone she repeats the same stuff she’s said the past 2 days (as if she’s scrambling for things to talk about) and my partner doesn’t even have the balls to say “yes you said that yesterday“.. I have to leave the room when she’s on the phone or FaceTime because I can’t bare how much she’s up his arse, he will be watching telly not listening properly to her or scrolling on SM but she never gets the hint and he is too scared to upset her..

I can’t blame my partner for being lazy when I’ve seen how she has brought him up, i Think she would wipe his arse if she could... I’ve spent a lot of time trying to teach him how to cook, how to clean etc etc, so when he sends her a pic of a meal he’s cooked she replies “mammy taught you well” he’s 24.... and she has never let him lift a finger his whole life. Whenever her and my FIL come to our house i would message her saying “I’ll cook us a nice meal“ and she would reply “no I’ll bring something he would have missed my cooking” or she will say “no I don’t mind I’ll do it” and I think it’s because she hates to think that he might like my cooking just as much or more than hers... once she said she would cook something then turned up with costco tit??

before me and my partner moved in together, if he would stay at my parents house she would be ringing him 8/9am the next morning asking when he was coming home cos she was making him food or wanted to go somewhere, if he would ignore her she would ring me or send me blunt texts asking to wake him up.. or she would say “tell ... it doesn’t matter.“ we’ve had to lie about going out for food a handful of times because she would be jealous... I remember once we were going on a date that night and she text in a family group chat “I have loads of new tops and haven’t had a chance to wear them“ i wanted to say get your own husband to take you out then... the day we got the keys for our new house she sent me a massive paragraph text saying he will always be her baby and she’s been crying all night, she said we are a family who are there for each other I hope you understand and that she wants to come over for tea.. she gets so possessive over him it’s crazy.

she literally can’t be wrong, she always knows better than everyone else and will say you’re doing something wrong just because it’s different to how she does it. When she’s on the phone to her son she will ask what he’s ate, then proceed to check how I’ve made it and I should have used a different ingredient.. or she will text me saying “how is ...” but never asks me How I am. she’s so controlling, my fil once made a comment about me looking beautiful and I should have a baby, she absolutely blew her top and started shouting at her husband telling him to shut up and stop being stupid. I feel sorry for my partner because I know how hard work she is and I don’t want it to get any worse, I think if he ever confronted her it would just make it worse for me because she would get even more jealous and worried.

I can’t help but feel worried for when we have children because she already has grandkids and thinks she is an expert, I’ve seen her giving the baby juice even after being told that they’re not allowed juice yet, or she will give them sweets even after being told not to... she would show off “how good they are for nana” when in reality it’s because she’s letting them sleep in the bed when the parents specifically asked for them to be in the cot. If she is looking after her grandkids she will message me or her son saying “fed the baby, burped him then changed his nappy now cuddling him. Bought a blanket today“ I literally want to reply so what isn’t that what you do when you look after a baby and why are you telling me? She always wants praise and thinks she’s hard done by...

whenever I see the way she texts him it makes me feel sick, she will call him her baby and her handsome boy... I love you so much and miss your company. she still calls herself his mammy and his dad “daddy”, he’s 24. She will say “ring daddy he misses you so much“

anyways I’ve pissed myself off now so ill stop for now..

Christ....