Mother in law experiences? Share them! 🤣

[Upintheair83]

Iv always really liked my MIL, but we told her I was pregnant the other night and I felt like she didn’t seem that bothered (not compared to my parents reaction) and so I felt abit down about it. But maybe it’s my hormones?
I don’t know what I expected really and I suppose it’s abit unfair of me to think she wasn’t- because not everyone reacts the same do they! And people don’t express things the same way.

My mother in law moved in with my husbands ex wife. I, or my children can’t visit because it will upset the ex. Bonkers situation.

Say what?!!!! I’m gob smacked

 

[Dickydoo123]

It’s a very difficult situation to be in with in laws and trying to keep the peace within a family but my lesson learnt would be set boundaries earlier. Doesn’t matter if you’re married or not, your home and your children are YOURS! I got sick of having to put up with crappy behaviour I wouldn’t put up with from anybody else. Like I said previously, somebody’s position in the family doesn’t give them the right to show rudeness or disrespect. My situation was 10 yrs coming and they were warned they were pushing my buttons. Now, the in law, partner and SIL are cut off, not welcome and are only allowed to see my child when I choose. Their idea of family, behaviour and lack of respect is not one I will allow my child to think is normal. My husband really has no way to back his mothers and sister behaviour up so he doesn’t even try to defend it. I don’t put up with anything I don’t like anymore, too long in the tooth for that tit.

 

[Sailorontheseasea]

Iv always really liked my MIL, but we told her I was pregnant the other night and I felt like she didn’t seem that bothered (not compared to my parents reaction) and so I felt abit down about it. But maybe it’s my hormones?
I don’t know what I expected really and I suppose it’s abit unfair of me to think she wasn’t- because not everyone reacts the same do they! And people don’t express things the same way.

I totally get this! My MIL wasn’t excited at all about either of my pregnancies, it was such an odd reaction and I think it really upset my partner as my parents were absolutely thrilled and his mum was kind of just like Meh. So bizarre!

 

[Lynseyp]

My MIL was awful, she had 1 son who i later married and we had 3 children.
I didnt know i was expecting our 1st child until i was 5 months gone, we found out it was a girl. MIL was overjoyed as this meant our daughter being the 1st girl in their family for 41 years. We then went on to have 2 boys which MIL didnt give a tit about. She spoilt our daughter and not the boys. When i asked her why she said her granddaughter is special, so i snapped back saying all your grandchildren are special and either you treat them the same or don't bother with any of them.
I couldn't afford to be off work for long on maternity leave so went back after 3 months. MIL had a go saying back in her day they didn't go to work and i should stay at home.
Husband had an affair, before that i was working long hours to make ends meet and we hardly saw each other. MIL said she understood why he had the affair as i was hardly home. Told her to f*** off and slammed the phone down.
If we have a disagreement she would always take his side regardless of whether he was right or wrong.
My parents wanted to pay for our daughters christening, after the party husband gave his mum all the food to take home.
We had a massive row and made him go and get it back from her.

MIL has since died and i bought my husband a cushion with a picture of his mum on it from our wedding. Bad move as i feel she's haunting us so have chucked the cushion in the shed and thats where it's staying.

 

[Upintheair83]

I totally get this! My MIL wasn’t excited at all about either of my pregnancies, it was such an odd reaction and I think it really upset my partner as my parents were absolutely thrilled and his mum was kind of just like Meh. So bizarre!

I think because I had imagined what her reaction would be I felt really disappointed! She just said ‘that’s really good’ - like
It was a weird thing to say. As though we had just won £10 on the lottery or something.
My mum and dad started crying and my dad was beyond ecstatic!! Yet she knew how long we had wanted this for.
I’m sorry you have felt the same way too, makes me feel abit better though.
Does your MIL get involved with your children? Do you get on with her? Xx

My MIL was awful, she had 1 son who i later married and we had 3 children.
I didnt know i was expecting our 1st child until i was 5 months gone, we found out it was a girl. MIL was overjoyed as this meant our daughter being the 1st girl in their family for 41 years. We then went on to have 2 boys which MIL didnt give a tit about. She spoilt our daughter and not the boys. When i asked her why she said her granddaughter is special, so i snapped back saying all your grandchildren are special and either you treat them the same or don't bother with any of them.
I couldn't afford to be off work for long on maternity leave so went back after 3 months. MIL had a go saying back in her day they didn't go to work and i should stay at home.
Husband had an affair, before that i was working long hours to make ends meet and we hardly saw each other. MIL said she understood why he had the affair as i was hardly home. Told her to f*** off and slammed the phone down.
If we have a disagreement she would always take his side regardless of whether he was right or wrong.
My parents wanted to pay for our daughters christening, after the party husband gave his mum all the food to take home.
We had a massive row and made him go and get it back from her.

MIL has since died and i bought my husband a cushion with a picture of his mum on it from our wedding. Bad move as i feel she's haunting us so have chucked the cushion in the shed and thats where it's staying.

OMG this thread is making me open my eyes! Why are so women awful as MIL?!! I don’t get it! I hope I’m never like that.

 

[JoeBloggs]

In 11 years I have met mine 4 times, I could probably walk past her in the street and not recognise her. My husbands family are not overly family oriented due to their being so many divorces/marriages and new families.

When we first met she had disappeared and it turns out she was in abroad. She’d kicked my husband out when he was 17 and they were only just back sort of speaking. She called to be collected from the airport and my husband made it clear I was coming, but she didn’t speak to me and was cross that was the first time she got to meet me.

She’s ok, she’s very intense when we do see her (she has MH issues) and pesters my husband a lot which he ignores. I’d love a nice MIL but just grateful there are no arguments over who to see at Christmas each year!

 

[Lynseyp]

My MIL was awful, she had 1 son who i later married and we had 3 children.
I didnt know i was expecting our 1st child until i was 5 months gone, we found out it was a girl. MIL was overjoyed as this meant our daughter being the 1st girl in their family for 41 years. We then went on to have 2 boys which MIL didnt give a tit about. She spoilt our daughter and not the boys. When i asked her why she said her granddaughter is special, so i snapped back saying all your grandchildren are special and either you treat them the same or don't bother with any of them.
I couldn't afford to be off work for long on maternity leave so went back after 3 months. MIL had a go saying back in her day they didn't go to work and i should stay at home.
Husband had an affair, before that i was working long hours to make ends meet and we hardly saw each other. MIL said she understood why he had the affair as i was hardly home. Told her to f*** off and slammed the phone down.
If we have a disagreement she would always take his side regardless of whether he was right or wrong.
My parents wanted to pay for our daughters christening, after the party husband gave his mum all the food to take home.
We had a massive row and made him go and get it back from her.

MIL has since died and i bought my husband a cushion with a picture of his mum on it from our wedding. Bad move as i feel she's haunting us so have chucked the cushion in the shed and thats where it's staying.

Oh and another thing to add was when my husband and I was going through a bad time after the affair his mum (my MIL) told us that his uncle had died and knowing full well my husband and his uncle got on really well, he was very upset......fast forward to 2 years later when we was driving past his auntie's house (uncle's wife) and guess who we saw sat in there living room window.....yep the uncle.
It was all made up by my MIL to get me and husband (her son) to stay together.
I was shaking, can you imagine being told someone had died then years later you see them. I had a go at my MIL but she couldn't give a tit at the damage she had done.

 

[DCICassieStuart]

Husband had an affair, before that i was working long hours to make ends meet and we hardly saw each other. MIL said she understood why he had the affair as i was hardly home. Told her to f*** off and slammed the phone down.

What a cow! I call her my SIL (she's my husband's brother's ex wife, but we always got on well together) My BIL (who's a selfish head) had an affair and left my SIL a few years ago. When MIL found out she told SIL that he'd had an affair because he 'obviously he wasn't happy at home so she must have done something wrong'. Basically told her that she made him do it and it was her fault that he had an affair. She was a complete witch to my SIL afterwards.

If my husband and I ever split up, I know she'd be an absolute witch to me too, regardless of whose fault (or not) it might be. If we did ever split up, then my SIL and my nephew (her son, technically not my biological nephew) are the only two I'd ever keep in contact with.
My lovely FIL died a couple of years ago, he was a gentleman, but I'd miss the rest of them like a hole in the head.

 

[Monkeybum]

I'm divorced, but my mother in law was a complete witch. She wrote to my mum to complain about me

All because she felt I didn't include her in the wedding planning as I didn't ask her to come dress shopping with me (I went with my mum and sister).

We had a meeting at the venue and she was so rude, sat looking the other way with her nose stuck in the air and every time I or the wedding planner tried to involve her said it didn't matter as I obviously didn't need her input.

We split up because he got involved with drugs and started sleeping around but she would never accept it and used to hint to people that I'd had an affair and caused the split

 

[Itsallaboutmememe]

I worship my in laws-they never take sides,they know the sun doesn’t shine out of my partners arse,they are loving,supportive and there if needed
they are bloody amazing grandparents too

my own mother?
I feel for my sister in laws
one fell pregnant,but lost the baby
’oh!I know just how your feeling!I lost 3!poor me-3babies-did I tell you I lost 3?’

she got pregnant again
my mother kicked off so badly over the fact she just wanted her own mum,they wanted to choose their own names,they wanted to pick their own nursery furniture/pram,she wasn’t invited to scans/the birth,they wanted to use a brand of nappies over others etc

and when baby was born,mum had to have 34 stitches-my mother made her feel awful by telling everyone ‘it wasn’t a real birth you know-she had STITCHES!’

she blew up when they wanted to bottle feed

in the end they got together and told her it was their way or she could duck off

she didn’t speak to them for 6 months,grovelled her way back in,then blew up when they moved to be closer to her parents,in a cheaper area that they could afford (which is a ten minute drive rather than round the corner)

thankfully by this time I was nc with her but I’ve just found out another sister in law is pregnant,and is so keen to please my mother she’s let her choose not only everything they own in their flat,she’s allowing her to have a say in names for their sprog and which pram they should buy and they’ve made plans for her at the birth etc

she’ll learn…

 

[Pinkygirlz]

I used to love my mil but She’s been a massive pain in the arse during this pandemic and can’t get understand the concept of not mixing households. She expects her son, myself, and our son to go round there every week along with loads of others too. She had her birthday in lockdown and demanded we go round there and I flat out refused and low and behold 4 days later her daughters friend got Covid and as she had been at the lockdown get together they have all had to isolate! I’ve never met a more stupid person in my life and she gets pissy with me that she doesn’t get to see her grandson!

When I found out I was pregnant I was 5 weeks gone and the only reason I ended up telling her is cause I ended up in hospital with hg. I begged her now not to tell her friends and family as I wanted to wait to let people know, and it was very early days, well she didn’t listen and told everyone she also kept banging on about having a baby moon which I didn’t see the point in as I was being sick over 60+ times a day, was very weak and just all round feeling tit, and her response was it’s just morning sickness and ginger helps! She just loves to try and compare me to her daughter and I’m nothing like her!

 

[Octopies]

I used to love my mil but She’s been a massive pain in the arse during this pandemic and can’t get understand the concept of not mixing households. She expects her son, myself, and our son to go round there every week along with loads of others too. She had her birthday in lockdown and demanded we go round there and I flat out refused and low and behold 4 days later her daughters friend got Covid and as she had been at the lockdown get together they have all had to isolate! I’ve never met a more stupid person in my life and she gets pissy with me that she doesn’t get to see her grandson!

When I found out I was pregnant I was 5 weeks gone and the only reason I ended up telling her is cause I ended up in hospital with hg. I begged her now not to tell her friends and family as I wanted to wait to let people know, and it was very early days, well she didn’t listen and told everyone she also kept banging on about having a baby moon which I didn’t see the point in as I was being sick over 60+ times a day, was very weak and just all round feeling tit, and her response was it’s just morning sickness and ginger helps! She just loves to try and compare me to her daughter and I’m nothing like her!

my MIL is the same with lockdown keeps finding excuses to ‘pop round’ And ‘drop things off’

I’m pregnant and we had to move our old sofa upstairs as getting a new one. FIL volunteered to come and move it with my OH as I can’t do heavy lifting. Lo and behold the MIL turns up too! Just for a nosey! Was fuming, we only had FIL here as circumstances were desperate.

 

[1001 others]

I suspect a lot of them will always resent us for "stealing" their precious sons away

 

[DCICassieStuart]

Postman was early here this morning. Met him just as I was heading out the door to work. He handed me a Christmas card from MIL. It was addressed to 'Mr and Mrs Hisfirstname Hissurname

I didn't change my name when I got married (and MIL is well aware of that fact) so she obviously did it deliberately. It's not the first time she's done it. I'll be having a word with my husband about it when we're both home tonight.

 

[mcfeez]

My MIL has been begging me for Christmas and birthday pressie suggestions for hubby so I gave her a few. I gave her a really specific brand of whiskey he likes - I wouldn't say he's snobby about it but he doesn't drink spirits often so when he does he has certain ones he loves (I really wanted to get it for him as we tried it for the first time together but thought this was an easy suggestion for her).

She handed him a bottle of completely different stuff (not even remotely close), complained about how expensive it was as she handed it over and "tough luck I couldn't see that other one in Tesco" - its a specialist brand, I told her this, you can only purchase online.

Then we she back on whatsapp to me 2 days later asking about suggestions for Christmas pressies. She only messages when shes drunk too and its comes across super aggressive.

 

[watermelon sugar]

Postman was early here this morning. Met him just as I was heading out the door to work. He handed me a Christmas card from MIL. It was addressed to 'Mr and Mrs Hisfirstname Hissurname

I didn't change my name when I got married (and MIL is well aware of that fact) so she obviously did it deliberately. It's not the first time she's done it. I'll be having a word with my husband about it when we're both home tonight.

I hate your MIL more than I hate my own! And mine is a bleeping dick!!

 

[SamBamford]

Glad to read that others have horrors for MiL's too. She openly dislikes me but gives me a list of jobs to do when we visit. These can be sorting out her computer to asking me to stick my hand down the outside drain as she thinks its not emptying fast enough. I refuse to do stuff like that but she doesn't get a professional in so I doubt it needed doing in the first place. She's been single since her husband walked the daughter down the aisle, he then left to be with the woman he'd been seeing for years. The son, my husband, wasn't supposed to leave her, she had his life mapped out for him taking care of her and the house. When I first met her she told me he would never leave so not to think of a future with him. When he told her he was moving in with me, she was livid, cried, used emotional blackmail, said I was damaged goods because I have been married previously, I would drag him down, was a slut who probably had STD's, anything to try and change his mind. She would phone him saying she couldn't cope anymore and she would hang herself/take tablets so he'd race around to check she hadn't. She has never been to my house even though I have invited her, doesn't bother me at all but it disappoints her son. We've been together 30+ years too.

 

[Phil Anne Throw Pee]

Mine just never. bloody. stops. talking. & doesn't listen to anyone else. I could honestly tell her I had 3 days to live and had to have my legs and arms amputated and she'd talk over me giving a 2 hour monologue about the price of ham in their local Lidl.

 

[DCICassieStuart]

I hate your MIL more than I hate my own! And mine is a bleeping dick!!

I hate mine too, but yours sounds just as bad. I hope yours doesn't also live five minutes up the road

 

[Rlaw1978]

I suspect a lot of them will always resent us for "stealing" their precious sons away

My MIL would love nothing more than for her son to leave me and our four children and move back in with her. It’s been 30 years, it’s not going to happen Lady.
I don’t understand why they can’t just take the positives that come with their sons getting married and having a family, instead of trying to reclaim them & keep them at 8 forever. Don’t they want their kids to have lives and be independent? I know I do. What MILs don’t understand it that they can still be a part of their sons lives, while at the same time giving them space to breath.