your whole situation is very sad, does your partners friends know he sleeps with his mum?Her house is a bit of a shithole tbh. I can see why she doesn’t want to go back. Years and years of hoarding crap. Mr P had to clear the whole downstairs to make room for her downstairs living but he just shoved it in the rooms upstairs (I woulda got a skip but that’s none of my business)
He says they do and they all agree that this whole situation is the right thing to do, I’m not convinced though. I don’t think they know the full details tbhyour whole situation is very sad, does your partners friends know he sleeps with his mum?
It’s so bizarre that he thinks sleeping with his mum is a normal thing
What about your son how’s he coping with mum on the sofa and dad in bed with his nan?
I'd be inclined to let that little factlet slip to one of the wives...................................hehehehehyour whole situation is very sad, does your partners friends know he sleeps with his mum?
Little Peaches finds it very bizarre. He often says ‘mummy why you sleeping on the sofa all the timeeeeee’ so I explain that it’s cos nanny’s in my bed. He says ‘shall I sleep on the sofa with you when daddy are nanny in your bed’ but he does go in his own bed. He’s only camped out with me once and it was horrific for me
and he had UNIFORM ON so I asked him to get out. Mr Peaches kicked off because I’d asked little to get out and called me head 
sorry I don’t want our son going to school smelling like wee but okayOMG You are going to have to replace that mattress! And if I were you, the OH also....Little Peaches finds it very bizarre. He often says ‘mummy why you sleeping on the sofa all the timeeeeee’ so I explain that it’s cos nanny’s in my bed. He says ‘shall I sleep on the sofa with you when daddy are nanny in your bed’ but he does go in his own bed. He’s only camped out with me once and it was horrific for me
The other day we had drama as he was rolling around in the bed where they were. It freaked me out and the bed smells in my personal opinion
Yes I am deffo replacing the mattress. Sadly I’ve only had it a year so it really winds me up.
It's a crap situation and I feel for you, you are a saintYes I am deffo replacing the mattress. Sadly I’ve only had it a year so it really winds me up.
As for Mr P I think that’s a long long conversation that needs to happen. We haven’t been getting on since his mums been here and his level of disrespect is outrageous. But step 1 is get her out of my house, at least I can then express my feelings in private. Whenever we argue she calls me to tell me to make up with him because she doesn’t want him to be without me
Apparently her bars or whatever are being installed Wednesday so hopefully this weekendIt's a crap situation and I feel for you, you are a saint
Will be when she’s going home but I’ll keep you all posted xxxI really feel for you. I’d do the same though - get her out and then sit him down and tell him how tit he’s been!Yes I am deffo replacing the mattress. Sadly I’ve only had it a year so it really winds me up.
As for Mr P I think that’s a long long conversation that needs to happen. We haven’t been getting on since his mums been here and his level of disrespect is outrageous. But step 1 is get her out of my house, at least I can then express my feelings in private. Whenever we argue she calls me to tell me to make up with him because she doesn’t want him to be without me
Does she wet the bed too?? If so it’s even more mad your husband is happy to sleep next to her. You are behaving with much more restraint than I could manage thoughLittle Peaches finds it very bizarre. He often says ‘mummy why you sleeping on the sofa all the timeeeeee’ so I explain that it’s cos nanny’s in my bed. He says ‘shall I sleep on the sofa with you when daddy are nanny in your bed’ but he does go in his own bed. He’s only camped out with me once and it was horrific for me
The other day we had drama as he was rolling around in the bed where they were. It freaked me out and the bed smells in my personal opinion
So she’s not completely incontinent but she deffo leaks as I can always smell wee. And she’s had a few accidents on her way to the toilet. When she first came she was visited by a social worker who offered her incontinence pants and she refused but as time went on she opened up to the idea of at least a tena lady. Problem is she claims she doesn’t know how to put them on so the carer does it in the morning and then I don’t know what happens tbh. But yes my bed smells and he claims it doesn’t!! I’d like to see what happened if I went back to it and told him to take that side thoughDoes she wet the bed too?? If so it’s even more mad your husband is happy to sleep next to her. You are behaving with much more restraint than I could manage though
The more you update the worse it gets! I really hope it improves for you soonSo she’s not completely incontinent but she deffo leaks as I can always smell wee. And she’s had a few accidents on her way to the toilet. When she first came she was visited by a social worker who offered her incontinence pants and she refused but as time went on she opened up to the idea of at least a tena lady. Problem is she claims she doesn’t know how to put them on so the carer does it in the morning and then I don’t know what happens tbh. But yes my bed smells and he claims it doesn’t!! I’d like to see what happened if I went back to it and told him to take that side though
And I don't buy that all of his friends agree it's normal. I can't imagine any normal male friendship group sitting around the pub (or whatever they like to do) discussing sharing a bed with their mothers and all agreeing it's perfectly normal!!It honestly feels like I’m living something out of a film or a soap. The worst part is I feel like I’m so normal and just like a quiet family life. It HAS to get better from here doesn’t it. There’s not one person I’ve spoken too who thinks sharing the bed is normal so I don’t think his friends know for real. I reckon they know she’s at mine and that’s all they knowThe more you update the worse it gets! I really hope it improves for you soon
Your MIL sounds incredibly selfish to put you both through this. I would be so ashamed if it was me. Good luck to you! I hope she moves out this weekend. If she’s so infirm is your OH arranging medical transport for her? Does she have a district nurse? If so it would be worth speaking to them to get this arranged or it’ll be another excuse to get staying put.
