I take you’re well qualified in this field?
Tilly just to give you context, this is what sent me into covert narcissist territory.
He writes in his book (sells on Amazon, June 2020) that they cancelled their wedding 7 years ago because:
“What was supposed to be a chance to rediscover our love of one another did, at times, seem to have transformed into a
festering pit of mutual loathing”.
And
“It was around this time that
any last traces of romance slipped away from us. We clung on to the belief that we still loved each other, but
beneath all the animosity, it was hard.”
Imagine how she felt?
Imagine your boyfriend wrote about your relationship like this?
For the world to read.
1. It's cruel.
2. Why bother continuing 7 years later?
3. Your boyfriend could say perhaps we realised we weren't equipped to be life partners.
4. A normal boyfriend wouldn't use words like
loathing about you. It's almost worse than hate.
* not adding the link to The Times article that I did back on p 3 as it seemed to copy all Tattle posts for days. See p 3 of this thread for the link where his book excerpts were published.
I find things like this really interesting, I don’t have any experience other than watching Faking It ha ha!! I love watching people’s body language but I really didn’t see anything in that clip to alarm me, maybe I should watch it again based on what you say.
If he has said all these things in his book then surely he will know he’s the prime suspect, would he really harm her knowing the finger will be pointed at him based on what he has said?
Also, she looked really happy on that last photo, didn’t look like a woman who was unhappy or was planning on disappearing into oblivion. Just my opinion.
Tilly if I hadn't read what he wrote I may not have observed him in a new way.
I think my jaw dropped a bit when I read it.
These personality disorders are no joke. One could say that they think they are normal and so they do things that shock us but they don't realise it.
The key sign is lack of empathy for others.
Unfortunately - in my opinion based on the revelations in his book and his words - we have here a sweet lady who does her best to please him.
A lady whose self esteem has been so eroded that she puts on a smile to cover heartache and runs off to the mountains to get away when she can.
June 2020 when he published that hateful book must have been crushing for her.