Miscarriage/Baby Loss

[Sunshineandrainbows112233]

Just coming on to say that I’ve just had a second miscarriage
Feeling overwhelmed by bombardment of scan pics and babies on Instagram/Facebook.
Praying that one day it will be my turn.
Don’t need comments, but would appreciate some hearts

 

[Sunshineandrainbows112233]

Thanks everyone
Hoping for brighter days ahead for all affected by baby loss

 

[Lulu Goss]

I hope it’s ok to talk about this here, but I follow a woman called Zoeadelle on instagram and this weekend she posted that there will be a new official “certificate of loss” for anyone who loses a baby pre 24 weeks, as of February. You can apply for one no matter what stage you lost the baby, regardless of how long ago it was.

Obviously it will never change or make a loss hurt any less, but personally I feel that it’s more of an acknowledgement that a baby has been lost, rather than it just being all very clinical and medical. Made me feel very emotional reading about it today but I think I will be applying for one for my baby I recently lost at 8 weeks.

 

[Keera]

It’s been a just over a week since my MMC was found - I’m finally feeling a little chink of positivity through the clouds that just because this wasn’t the right time doesnt mean it never will be
I’m going to start preparing and thinking about trying again, I’m terrified of another loss but I’m just praying that the outcome will be worth it

 

[N0sey.P4rker]

Hello, I hope this is ok to ask in here. My friends lost their baby at 16 weeks and would be due at the end of the month. I want to get some flowers just to let them know I'm thinking of them, but I'm not entirely sure what I should write on the card if anything at all.

 

[Phil I Buster]

What a wonderful friend you are When friends have done similar for me through the years, it’s been a simple “just thinking of you” and that’s all that was needed. The gesture and them knowing you’re thinking of them will mean so much as often you feel everyone’s moved on.

You sound like a very kind person.

 

[Greencatfysh]

Hello, I hope this is ok to ask in here. My friends lost their baby at 16 weeks and would be due at the end of the month. I want to get some flowers just to let them know I'm thinking of them, but I'm not entirely sure what I should write on the card if anything at all.

I agree. That’s so lovely. I’d just be happy knowing someone appreciated what we were going through and also keep your message positive and forward looking, even the smallest encouragement that everything will be ok, goes a long way 🩷

 

[Elisha97]

Hello, I hope this is ok to ask in here. My friends lost their baby at 16 weeks and would be due at the end of the month. I want to get some flowers just to let them know I'm thinking of them, but I'm not entirely sure what I should write on the card if anything at all.

you’re a really good friend. Like the other posters said, just ‘thinking of you’ would be absolutely perfect

 

[lalallalaa]

Found out today i had a miscarriage today at six weeks.... does anyone know how long the bleeding will last?

 

[Lorny]

Found out today i had a miscarriage today at six weeks.... does anyone know how long the bleeding will last?

I’m so sorry, sending all the love to you. I miscarried at just over 5 weeks and my bleeding lasted about a week.

 

[lalallalaa]

I’m so sorry, sending all the love to you. I miscarried at just over 5 weeks and my bleeding lasted about a week.

Thank you! this is my first as well i hope you are okay xx

 

[Keera]

Found out today i had a miscarriage today at six weeks.... does anyone know how long the bleeding will last?

so sorry I was 9/10 days after medical management x

 

[loveulongtime0]

This has launched today. I’ve requested mine

 

[Greencatfysh]

Just posting in here because I know you ladies can understand. We have our 7 week scan tomorrow and last time we got to this point (8 weeks) at the scan was when we discovered my MMC. Trying to manage anxiety today and stay positive but also prepare for the worst. It’s such a mindf*ck and I’m sad that we can never innocently enjoy the first trimester because of what happened. Trying to decide things like whether I want the screen facing me so I can see what’s happening or whether we should just let the nurses tell us the info. And booked the day off work just in case it’s bad news. Ueghhhh. Can’t wait to be past tomorrow.

 

[calmyourritas]

Just posting in here because I know you ladies can understand. We have our 7 week scan tomorrow and last time we got to this point (8 weeks) at the scan was when we discovered my MMC. Trying to manage anxiety today and stay positive but also prepare for the worst. It’s such a mindf*ck and I’m sad that we can never innocently enjoy the first trimester because of what happened. Trying to decide things like whether I want the screen facing me so I can see what’s happening or whether we should just let the nurses tell us the info. And booked the day off work just in case it’s bad news. Ueghhhh. Can’t wait to be past tomorrow.

Sending love to you. It’s so so hard. I really struggled to enjoy pregnancy after my mmc because I was constantly on edge thinking well last time I didn’t know something bad had happened til the scan etc etc. All my early private scans I had the screens turned away and my 12/20 and even later on growth scans I had my eyes closed until they told me everything was ok. The morning of my 12 week scan (where we found about the previous MMC) I was an absolute wreck. I dragged myself into work but basically cried all morning.

I don’t have any words of wisdom, just know that you aren’t alone xx

 

[Greencatfysh]

Sending love to you. It’s so so hard. I really struggled to enjoy pregnancy after my mmc because I was constantly on edge thinking well last time I didn’t know something bad had happened til the scan etc etc. All my early private scans I had the screens turned away and my 12/20 and even later on growth scans I had my eyes closed until they told me everything was ok. The morning of my 12 week scan (where we found about the previous MMC) I was an absolute wreck. I dragged myself into work but basically cried all morning.

I don’t have any words of wisdom, just know that you aren’t alone xx

Thanks lovely. Just going to have to get through it and it helps to remind myself (weirdly) that this could happen at any scan so you just have to take it one week at a time. I think I agree about having the screens turned around, it does imprint on your brain so probably avoid seeing anything I don’t need to.

 

[Mufasa]

I had my dating scan yesterday. The sonographer got the baby on the screen and said aw there’s your little babe…and there’s its heartbeat” and myself and my partner both saw it flickering away for a good 10 seconds or so. She then took a quick measurement which showed 10+6 and said “how many weeks do you think you are?” I said “12+4 based on last period” and she said “ooh are you sure on your dates baby looks a little smaller than that”. She was then quiet for a minute or two and said she needed to do an internal scan, then started asking me about specific dates of last period and when I had my positive pregnancy test.
The internal scan happened and she just said I'm really sorry, I need to get another opinion to confirm, a second sonographer then came in, glanced at the screen and also said yeah I’m really sorry. That was it.
I don’t understand how there was a heartbeat and then suddenly none?? I just broke down and sat on the bed crying for what felt like forever until she came back in with a scrap bit of paper with a number on and said that the EPU will ring me later on to discuss what happens now.

I’m absolutely all over the place how do people go on doing normal life? I feel ridiculous for even asking but could she have been wrong? I cannot get the image of the moving heartbeat from my mind it’s all I can think of. I’ve had no typical loss symptoms, I still feel pregnant I look pregnant I don’t know how this can be

 

[Laughalong]

I had my dating scan yesterday. The sonographer got the baby on the screen and said aw there’s your little babe…and there’s its heartbeat” and myself and my partner both saw it flickering away for a good 10 seconds or so. She then took a quick measurement which showed 10+6 and said “how many weeks do you think you are?” I said “12+4 based on last period” and she said “ooh are you sure on your dates baby looks a little smaller than that”. She was then quiet for a minute or two and said she needed to do an internal scan, then started asking me about specific dates of last period and when I had my positive pregnancy test.
The internal scan happened and she just said I'm really sorry, I need to get another opinion to confirm, a second sonographer then came in, glanced at the screen and also said yeah I’m really sorry. That was it.
I don’t understand how there was a heartbeat and then suddenly none?? I just broke down and sat on the bed crying for what felt like forever until she came back in with a scrap bit of paper with a number on and said that the EPU will ring me later on to discuss what happens now.

I’m absolutely all over the place how do people go on doing normal life? I feel ridiculous for even asking but could she have been wrong? I cannot get the image of the moving heartbeat from my mind it’s all I can think of. I’ve had no typical loss symptoms, I still feel pregnant I look pregnant I don’t know how this can be

So she’s just sent you back home? Alluded to the fact you’ve had a loss but then followed it up with duck all? Have you had the call yet? Make your own. Don’t wait for them to ring you.

 

[Greencatfysh]

I had my dating scan yesterday. The sonographer got the baby on the screen and said aw there’s your little babe…and there’s its heartbeat” and myself and my partner both saw it flickering away for a good 10 seconds or so. She then took a quick measurement which showed 10+6 and said “how many weeks do you think you are?” I said “12+4 based on last period” and she said “ooh are you sure on your dates baby looks a little smaller than that”. She was then quiet for a minute or two and said she needed to do an internal scan, then started asking me about specific dates of last period and when I had my positive pregnancy test.
The internal scan happened and she just said I'm really sorry, I need to get another opinion to confirm, a second sonographer then came in, glanced at the screen and also said yeah I’m really sorry. That was it.
I don’t understand how there was a heartbeat and then suddenly none?? I just broke down and sat on the bed crying for what felt like forever until she came back in with a scrap bit of paper with a number on and said that the EPU will ring me later on to discuss what happens now.

I’m absolutely all over the place how do people go on doing normal life? I feel ridiculous for even asking but could she have been wrong? I cannot get the image of the moving heartbeat from my mind it’s all I can think of. I’ve had no typical loss symptoms, I still feel pregnant I look pregnant I don’t know how this can be

That’s really terrible, there is definitely a lot of scope for that to be incorrect. At that stage I would imagine baby could be measuring small but things could be ok. Definitely call the EPU asap and see if they can get you rescanned. I’m so sorry, it’s so traumatic and not helpful to have so little support. I also don’t know how you’re supposed to get on with normal life.

 

[Keera]

I had my dating scan yesterday. The sonographer got the baby on the screen and said aw there’s your little babe…and there’s its heartbeat” and myself and my partner both saw it flickering away for a good 10 seconds or so. She then took a quick measurement which showed 10+6 and said “how many weeks do you think you are?” I said “12+4 based on last period” and she said “ooh are you sure on your dates baby looks a little smaller than that”. She was then quiet for a minute or two and said she needed to do an internal scan, then started asking me about specific dates of last period and when I had my positive pregnancy test.
The internal scan happened and she just said I'm really sorry, I need to get another opinion to confirm, a second sonographer then came in, glanced at the screen and also said yeah I’m really sorry. That was it.
I don’t understand how there was a heartbeat and then suddenly none?? I just broke down and sat on the bed crying for what felt like forever until she came back in with a scrap bit of paper with a number on and said that the EPU will ring me later on to discuss what happens now.

I’m absolutely all over the place how do people go on doing normal life? I feel ridiculous for even asking but could she have been wrong? I cannot get the image of the moving heartbeat from my mind it’s all I can think of. I’ve had no typical loss symptoms, I still feel pregnant I look pregnant I don’t know how this can be

First of all I’m so sorry for all you are going through 🩷
To send you home with no follow up or direction is terrible - please call the EPU and explain what’s happened - mine you can do a self- referral which of course is easier but I’m sure if you explain they will see you. A doctor or nurse specialist will review the scans or maybe rescan and explain what has happened or what they mean.

It certainly seems that there could be scope that it’s wrong so if you feel that’s the case you could always push for a rescan.

I sincerely hope that you don’t have to stick around on this thread but remember we are here 🩷