Yeah but the difference here is she’s never met this guy. Never actually been in the same room as him. She knows nothing about him and has just decided she’s got a connection with him..... it’s madness! Can you imagine I’d a guy was saying the same about a woman he had never met? - people would be saying he was a weirdo, but for some reason when it’s a woman saying it that makes it perfectly ok?!
Haha. Trust me, I'm wondering myself!i hate stories like thishe could have been your soulmate!! You should have made a move (well you still can), if you find him on other platforms.
For some reason stories like this really bug me and I need an ending
If you seriously can’t wrap your head around why this might be deemed as inappropriate in a professional work environment then I can only assume you don’t nor have ever worked in such an environment.Why can't people who have spoken a few times add each other on Facebookand why. Would over zoom. For work. Be such a big deal
She was joking obviously
my advise is don’t shit where you eat, I’ve done it twice (I never learn 
) two different jobs, got into two different relationships and they both went to shit! The first job I had to leave out of awkwardness and my current job I die knowing I might get rostered with my ex any time 
Wouldn’t you think it was really weird though if you were him? God knows how many people he’s in contact with over zoom as part of his job - can you imagine then having some random person from work who you’ve never met in real life and have no real world interactions with, and no non-work related conversations with - if they had trawled Facebook to find you and then added you as a friend?!!!! It’s a bit stalker-ish/bunny boiler?! The guy hasn’t made any moves - has been nothing but professional- and yet this girl has built some fantasy around it where she thinks they have “a connection” - the poor bloke!!!!! It’s all well and good finding someone attractive or whatever but bloody hell - stalking them on private social media is pretty unhinged!!!Christ can you just add him on Facebook like the more we talk about it the more waiting to see if he is into it or not I am invested in this now
Really? I met my husband at work and I know plenty of other people that met their partner that way too.
sarcasm is supposed to be funny?
I don’t think that’s similar, they both work for the same company and I think OP said she thinks he may like her too/have chemistry or something like that
No, I don’t. And even if I did, I don’t have to accept his request. It would be a different story if he was hounding me despite being rejected. OP didn’t say she had plans to harass the guy.
You’ve left the company so you can’t even get in trouble over it tooimagine if, after 2 years he’s still thinking about you too
okay I’m probably romanticising this all in my head but it could happen! For OP too, we only regret the chances we didn’t take. Either it turns into a beautiful romance or you get the answers you wanted. I am a highly curious person though, no stone is left unturned
I met my now boyfriend by chance, we both attended a party just as I was getting out of an awful relationship. I saw him and just felt like I wanted to be with him forever. I never approached him but thought about him for weeks, until my friend pushed me to get his number from a mutual friend! Been together for 4 years and planning to get married soonnot the same thing because I only waited a few weeks not years
Weeks is reasonable indeed, years borders on critical.
Yes I agree, his behaviour seems like he likes you though! But I understand behaviour and signals can be misread. And it’s difficult if you’ve dealt with rejection before and fear the same thing happening
I couldn't agree more. I think it depends on your track record and ability to handle rejection. Living with regrets is not good, especially if you clearly sense there is something different about the person/situation/opportunity. Trust your gut. Sitting and waiting doesn't get any results at all. As a matter of fact, most of my friends met their partners at work and are now married. It can definitely work if you play your cards correctly.
I always go from the principle that the guys I like don't like me back because it's been a repeated pattern since I was a teenager, that I also assumed this one probably couldn't care less like all the other. I don't know if it's a self-esteem issue (probably), but it's certainly a mental block for me. It doesn't help I was slightly intimidated. At least, I'm happy to be able to share this experience and use myself as an example of the type of strategy to avoid.
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