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BettyCrockerr

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And? She’s taking it away from the working environment by adding on FB. Nothing wrong with that and as has been said before, he doesn’t have to accept.
Yeah that’s kind of my point.

Take it out of context for a second.

You are working in a bar. A guy comes in and orders a drink with a group of his friends. They come in a few times and you serve him his drinks and have a few conversations about what drinks he wants etc - all professional and related to the job you are doing at the bar.

Then you random get a friend request from this man on your personal Facebook. He’s somehow found your profile, when you’ve never given him any encouragement to do so or bedn anything other than professional and you don’t actually know him nor really like him, he’s just a guy that comes into the bar.

you don’t think that’s weird?!
 

BettyCrockerr

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Opinions are like arseholes, everyone's got one. Shame you can't be nicer with yours
Eh?! I’m stating a fact. Tinder is a dating app. The entire purpose is to hook up with people via tinder. People are on tinder with the sole intention of going on a date/getting laid/finding a partner - whatever.

most people don’t use zoom to cruise random work colleagues they have never met to then pursue them online when they have Never been given any indication that this is wanted!!!
 

TheGlossy

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Eh?! Or do you just feel foolish and trying to save face 🥴
Hum. Not, really no. If I did, I would have owned up to it in the same way I did when I misinterpreted some of the content based on the title.

I don't need to save face in front of anyone, especially not in front of anonymous posters! That's the purpose of a forum :)
 

TheGlossy

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From the OP, it sounds like she has spoken to him a number of times?

They gel so well, the attraction is strong and she thinks he likes her too…?

I get it if it was a group call and they never even spoke… but that’s not what’s happened.
OK - the title is a bit misleading.
 

Scorpihoe

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Honestly - I suggest you hold off until you either interact with him more at work or he moves on from his current role.

I find it inappropriate to add him on Facebook or to follow him on Instagram. I have some male work "friends" and we had a chat about this once (some girl in the team tried to add them on FB) and they thought it was inappropriate (which I agree with). You can't just send a FB request to someone you've only seen once via Zoom. He might be single, but what makes you think he's into women or he's even looking to begin with?

I'm not sure what "re-assigned" means in this case, but I would take it slow because you don't want to come across a certain way in the workplace.

About two years ago, I met this absolutely stunning guy at work. Exactly my type. Simply gorgeous. I'd never met anyone like him before (close, yes, but not the exact embodiment of what I liked). I never noticed him until I one day (two months later) realized he kept glancing at my desk every single time he walked past. In addition to that, he would literally show up everywhere I went (in a company of more than 2k) employees. I'd be chatting with a colleague in the kitchen or somewhere in the hallway and he'd be walking past out of nowhere (he could see every coming and coming from his desk though). It was so eerie that I almost was scared he'd think I was stalking him, when it was literally a coincidence each time, really.

Anyway, fast forward, two years later, I'm still thinking about him (the lockdown didn't help either) and wish I had made a move, but again, I didn't want to come across as inappropriate. I didn't know his background and steered clear. I found his Instagram a little while later and he had moved on to another project at that point (thus worked in a different side of town), but never dared to do anything. He's since deleted it and I'm still crushing on a ghost! Moral of the story - you don't want to end up like me wondering what if this and what if that two years later, but be cautious when it comes to approaching co-workers on social media. Perhaps add him on LinkedIn first? Keep it professional for now and perhaps once he moves on, you can try to get to know him by asking for advice about a specific topic (since he's a superior) etc.. and perhaps take it from there. Just a thought.
i hate stories like this 😭😭 he could have been your soulmate!! You should have made a move (well you still can), if you find him on other platforms.
For some reason stories like this really bug me and I need an ending 😭