watermelon sugar
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I wouldn't think it was weird if I man did it. How would anyone meet or get together if people didn't try
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BettyCrockerr
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I think you need to dial it down a bit. How on Earth can you be “head over heels” about him when you say you only know him over zoom and only in a professional capacity?!!!! You gel so well? And the attraction is strong? What?!!!!!!! You don’t know the guy!I’ve met this man through work but because of the panny d I’ve only ever met him over zoom and I am head over heels! He’s exactly the type of man id go for and I want to get to know him better BUT we don’t live anywhere near each other.
I only know him in a professional capacity but we gel so well and the attraction is so strong. My friends found out he’s single but I don’t know how to make the first move over zoomhe’s actually superior to me too so don’t want to be disciplined for Being inappropriate
. I have a feeling he likes me too but it’s zoom so can’t assume.
Is there any way I can talk to him out of work?? I can’t find his insta but could add him on Facebook I guess. It’s also urgent because he’s getting reassigned soon. Or do I just forget?!
He’s senior to you at work and is talking to you on a professional basis because he has to. Sorry but it sounds like you’ve created something that isn’t really there. You think he’s attractive but that all this is - because there isn’t anything else going on here let’s be honest - there is no connection or attraction that’s reciprocated because you don’t know each other or have had any communication or interaction outside of the sphere of work on zoom. I could sort of understand what you are saying if this was someone you know in real life and if you were feeling that kind of sexual chemistry and attraction from real world interactions but you do sound a bit over invested in a guy you have only ever seen on a screen!
watermelon sugar
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Sorry but did you just call the pandemic the PANNY D
Haha Yeh started saying it ironically and now here we are, I didn’t even notice when I typed itGal I can’t help with advice but I just have to say that I started calling it the panny d ironically during the first lockdown and now it’s stuck and I can’t stop saying it. Everyone looks at me like I’ve committed a murder or something when I say it
bolimepipi
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Bloody hell you'd think you'd all been party to the conversation to know they have no chemistry. The OP herself has said there seems to be a connection. Maybe the conversation has been slightly flirty to give her this impression. I doubt him screen sharing a spreadsheet made her think there's chemisty
under the ivy
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The Big Mac being happy that he made 2 people meet
under the ivy
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Some people obviously aren't lovin' it
That's your opinion and your preference. Not everybody feels the same way. Some people like connecting with colleagues online and that's fine. I'm not calling you weird for having your view so you shouldn't call her weird for wanting to add him on Facebook.
For all you know he could be searching for her too!!
Honestly - I suggest you hold off until you either interact with him more at work or he moves on from his current role.
I find it inappropriate to add him on Facebook or to follow him on Instagram if you don't know him much. I have some male work "friends" and we had a chat about this once (some girl in the team tried to add them on FB) and they thought it was inappropriate (which I agree with). You can't just send a FB request to someone you've only seen once via Zoom.
I'm not sure what "re-assigned" means in this case, but I would take it slow because you don't want to come across a certain way in the workplace.
About two years ago, I met this absolutely stunning guy at work. Exactly my type. Simply gorgeous. I'd never met anyone like him before (close, yes, but not the exact embodiment of what I liked). I never noticed him until I one day (two months later) realized he kept glancing at my desk every single time he walked past. In addition to that, he would literally show up everywhere I went (in a company of more than 2k) employees. I'd be chatting with a colleague in the kitchen or somewhere in the hallway and he'd be walking past out of nowhere (he could see every coming and coming from his desk though). It was so eerie that I almost was scared he'd think I was stalking him, when it was literally a coincidence each time, really.
Anyway, fast forward, two years later, I'm still thinking about him (the lockdown didn't help either) and wish I had made a move, but again, I didn't want to come across as inappropriate. I didn't know his background and steered clear. I found his Instagram a little while later and he had moved on to another project at that point (thus worked in a different side of town), but never dared to do anything even if I ended up leaving the company shortly after. He's since deleted his Instagram and I'm still crushing on a ghost! Moral of the story - you don't want to end up like me wondering what if this and what if that two years later, but be cautious when it comes to approaching co-workers on social media. Perhaps add him on LinkedIn first? Keep it professional for now and perhaps once he moves on, you can try to get to know him by asking for advice about a specific topic (since he's a superior) etc.. and perhaps take it from there. Just a thought.
Sorry, I put my entire life out there!
I find it inappropriate to add him on Facebook or to follow him on Instagram if you don't know him much. I have some male work "friends" and we had a chat about this once (some girl in the team tried to add them on FB) and they thought it was inappropriate (which I agree with). You can't just send a FB request to someone you've only seen once via Zoom.
I'm not sure what "re-assigned" means in this case, but I would take it slow because you don't want to come across a certain way in the workplace.
About two years ago, I met this absolutely stunning guy at work. Exactly my type. Simply gorgeous. I'd never met anyone like him before (close, yes, but not the exact embodiment of what I liked). I never noticed him until I one day (two months later) realized he kept glancing at my desk every single time he walked past. In addition to that, he would literally show up everywhere I went (in a company of more than 2k) employees. I'd be chatting with a colleague in the kitchen or somewhere in the hallway and he'd be walking past out of nowhere (he could see every coming and coming from his desk though). It was so eerie that I almost was scared he'd think I was stalking him, when it was literally a coincidence each time, really.
Anyway, fast forward, two years later, I'm still thinking about him (the lockdown didn't help either) and wish I had made a move, but again, I didn't want to come across as inappropriate. I didn't know his background and steered clear. I found his Instagram a little while later and he had moved on to another project at that point (thus worked in a different side of town), but never dared to do anything even if I ended up leaving the company shortly after. He's since deleted his Instagram and I'm still crushing on a ghost! Moral of the story - you don't want to end up like me wondering what if this and what if that two years later, but be cautious when it comes to approaching co-workers on social media. Perhaps add him on LinkedIn first? Keep it professional for now and perhaps once he moves on, you can try to get to know him by asking for advice about a specific topic (since he's a superior) etc.. and perhaps take it from there. Just a thought.
Sorry, I put my entire life out there!
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LittleMy
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Well that’s what generally happens when you post for advice on a public forum. You get different opinions.
This is the most patronising thing I've ever read, and I've read a lot of your posts.
I suggest you learn to wrap your head around the fact people are allowed to have a different opinion to you.
nbt
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She met him at work. She says earlier on in this thread.