Melanie Murphy #7 Phantom of the attic

[notjust_vanilla]

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I get that new mums can be worried about their baby especially during covid, but like wtf? she definitely suffers from separation anxiety which she justifies by saying that her son needs feeding 15 times a day, and doesn't let someone else mind him for longer than half an hour just in case he starts developing relationships with other family members who live in the same house

I think people forget that babies are also humans and need socialisation for healthy development (especially as much as they can with those its safe to do so, seeing as though they aren't having much as they would do!)

 

[HaveSomeMilk]

just in case he starts developing relationships with other family members who live in the same house

Omg is that why?? Would be nuts if so. Is that quite common with some mothers? Being preemptively jealous of baby forming deeper relationships with other people?

 

[oicheliath]

It’s one thing leaving your baby at home when you have to head out and you worry. It’s quite another when he’s downstairs and if anything is wrong you can be there in a heartbeat. That baby will be the ultimate little thing that she can control. And she’ll excuse it all with Instagram mammy memes in place of genuine medical advice. Her husband needs to wake the duck up.

 

[Cupcakeapple]

If I was the parents in law I’d be very put out that she says online on a public platform that she doesn’t like leaving him with them for longer than twenty minutes bit insulting and disrespectful considering they are kindly putting her up in their house

 

[bolimepipi]

If I was the parents in law I’d be very put out that she says online on a public platform that she doesn’t like leaving him with them for longer than twenty minutes bit insulting and disrespectful considering they are kindly putting her up in their house

exactly, that really shocked me! i would be furious if someone marched into my house, divided the attic as if it was a separate property, made comments about the rest of the house and then not even let me see my grandchild for longer than 20 min?!? how is thomas allowing this

 

[kalechips]

If I was the parents in law I’d be very put out that she says online on a public platform that she doesn’t like leaving him with them for longer than twenty minutes bit insulting and disrespectful considering they are kindly putting her up in their house

Honestly though! Such an ungrateful and rude freeloader. What a slap in the face for them after putting up with this attic goblin for so long

 

[HoneyBee29]

No harm but I think that baby is gonna end up with serious separation anxiety issues once hes older and starts going to nursery etc if that’s the case. He’ll be a nightmare cause he won’t want to be round any one but her and won’t know any different cause he’s never been left with anyone else. She’s just making things more difficult for herself down the road

 

[RosaGirl200]

Honestly though! Such an ungrateful and rude freeloader. What a slap in the face for them after putting up with this attic goblin for so long

I couldn't believe in the recent Q&A she and Thomas did and at the start they said his grandparents had him for a whole hour for the first time. Like wow, it has to speak volumes that she won't allow the granny to have him for a while - even for her and Thomas to go out for a walk and have a sandwich and coffee on the beach which would be a great brain break from baby time. It's sad as my relationship with my gran is one of most cherished and if she stops her children having a deep connection like that, it's just terrible

 

[bolimepipi]

I couldn't believe in the recent Q&A she and Thomas did and at the start they said his grandparents had him for a whole hour for the first time.

i almost feel like she's lying because she thinks she'll get praise for being a ''supermom''

 

[kalechips]

No harm but I think that baby is gonna end up with serious separation anxiety issues once hes older and starts going to nursery etc if that’s the case. He’ll be a nightmare cause he won’t want to be round any one but her and won’t know any different cause he’s never been left with anyone else. She’s just making things more difficult for herself down the road

Absolutely! I feel like she would love that though tbh. She cares more about feeling needed and important than she does about socializing her kid and what is in his best interest

 

[Wills315]

View attachment 386117Anyone else think its really gross to say the biggest turn on was the idea of unsafe sex to get pregnant like thats so tmi and weird

Yes I thought that was bleeping weird too!

 

[Dearreader]

Honestly? I believe Melanie not allowing her in laws time with the baby has more to do with her want to isolate and display control over her husband and baby, effectively creating their own bubble away from everyone rather than separation anxiety.

Like others have said this will manifest in some many sad ways for the child throughout his big milestones, nursery, school and so on. I went through it as an adult, I can't imagine how hard it must be for children who will learn and echo such behaviours.

Anyway I got a bit too deep there for a sec I find it funny how she mentions her child can't consent to being involved in the online world...while she uses him in reels to up her engagement. Did he consent to that or?

 

[Cupcakeapple]

exactly, that really shocked me! i would be furious if someone marched into my house, divided the attic as if it was a separate property, made comments about the rest of the house and then not even let me see my grandchild for longer than 20 min?!? how is thomas allowing this

Yeah exactly if Thomas has any respect and gratitude for his parents he’ll step in and say something to Melanie, the way she’s acting is not on

 

[metalbeard]

I know women like this in real life, as in friends who behave exactly like this when they had babies, they were obsessed with pregnancy, like they were the first to ever have a baby, then baby comes and they are exclusively breastfed, nothing wrong with this but I always feel sorry for the partner if some milk is not expressed into a bottle and they are allowed to experience feeding the baby and bonding, baby was never left with anyone, constantly thinking the baby was sick and desperate for the next baby when the first was only 6 months, 10 years later and a rake of kids under her belt and she has no life, no identity, the kids are socially awkward, don't have many friends and are considered a little odd, she's only hurting herself and the baby obviously if she continues like this
and the partner, they're just happy for a quiet life they don't say anything, despite a part of them knows they should say something they won't, but years down the line they will regret not stepping in
this behaviour it actually really common I have found with women in their 30's having babies, not every woman just a lot I know, not tarring every woman with the same brush but nobody seems to be a chill mam anymore

 

[HoneyBee29]

I know women like this in real life, as in friends who behave exactly like this when they had babies, they were obsessed with pregnancy, like they were the first to ever have a baby, then baby comes and they are exclusively breastfed, nothing wrong with this but I always feel sorry for the partner if some milk is not expressed into a bottle and they are allowed to experience feeding the baby and bonding, baby was never left with anyone, constantly thinking the baby was sick and desperate for the next baby when the first was only 6 months, 10 years later and a rake of kids under her belt and she has no life, no identity, the kids are socially awkward, don't have many friends and are considered a little odd, she's only hurting herself and the baby obviously if she continues like this
and the partner, they're just happy for a quiet life they don't say anything, despite a part of them knows they should say something they won't, but years down the line they will regret not stepping in
this behaviour it actually really common I have found with women in their 30's having babies, not every woman just a lot I know, not tarring every woman with the same brush but nobody seems to be a chill mam anymore

To be honest that’s why personally if I’m able to breastfeed I will only be doing it for the first few weeks then switching to formula as I just think it will be easier for us once my husband is back to work as I will be on my own a lot and means we can share the feeds etc and I’ve a bit more freedom to get other things done that might need done

 

[metalbeard]

To be honest that’s why personally if I’m able to breastfeed I will only be doing it for the first few weeks then switching to formula as I just think it will be easier for us once my husband is back to work as I will be on my own a lot and means we can share the feeds etc and I’ve a bit more freedom to get other things done that might need done

I get ya I think having help to feed is key, nothing wrong with breastfeeding if you can do it but peopleforget there is a bonding that comes along with feeding your baby that yes mothers experience but dads need to feel that too, in my opinion that is I’m not a midwife

 

[lemonpeach]

she is insufferable, and someone challenged her underneath and she linked a video to loose women

 

[monga]

she is insufferable, and someone challenged her underneath and she linked a video to loose women

It must be Denise Welch she's referring too

 

[lemonpeach]

It must be Denise Welch she's referring too

She’s deeply unintelligent but hey I guess that’s what happens when you Do YoUr OwN rEsEaRcH

 

[Odb3011]

Misrepresenting science and terminology that she doesn't understand to worry people and sensationalize something for clicks and likes. She constantly complains about how news media does this very thing, but doesn't hesitate to do it herself.

The vaccine may not even be available to her till she's finished breastfeed anyway. No one would judge her for delaying her dose till she's done, if that makes her feel more comfortable. But no, she just has to pull up her sleeves and spin a harrowing tale about why she's not getting vaccinated. She didn't even need to explain herself, everyone knew she wasn't going to vaccinate.

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Misrepresenting science and terminology that she doesn't understand to worry people and sensationalize something for clicks and likes. She constantly complains about how news media does this very thing, but doesn't hesitate to do it herself.

The vaccine may not even be available to her till she's finished breastfeed anyway. No one would judge her for delaying her dose till she's done, if that makes her feel more comfortable. But no, she just has to pull up her sleeves and spin a harrowing tale about why she's not getting vaccinated. She didn't even need to explain herself, everyone knew she wasn't going to vaccinate.

Honestly I think she's gonna keep breastfeeding the child when he's even a toddler cause of her "separation anxiety".