Iโm sorry if it came across as offensive I didnโt intentionally mean for it to come across in that way and I do agree with you that women do feel pressure to have kids before they hit 30 or once they hit 30 they feel like the chances of them having kids is very slim if they arenโt currently in a relationship. Iโve had a few friends that have been there. Again Iโm sorry if it was insensitive. Iโve been someone whoโs felt pressure as well over the years to have kids and honestly wouldnโt have said what I said with intention to cause any offence to anyone
That's okay, I just try and clarify for others, it's just to try make people understand that their fertility doesn't dive once they hit 35, it actually only declines a little and for people not to panic. The information out there is very outdated and most people don't know about the new studies about PCOS and fertility issues being done to understand it better, because that information is based on a study of young women from the 17-1800's, I'm not even joking, I was actually shocked that is how old it was, considering how different our lives and diets are to back then. So the information is old and most read the same information and just assume that is how it is. Truth is, most women, first time or not, will be able to have children after 35 without any trouble, and if you have PCOS, try stay even more positive, because as you age, your hormones change too, and that has the possibility to make it easier to get pregnancy with PCOS as you age. When you hit 40 is when the decline becomes more noticeable and their are higher risks, but depending where you live in the world, modern hospitals, medications and treatments make pregnancy easier and safer for both mother and child.
Don't worry I'm not angry or anything by what you said, nothing of the sort, I just try and point it out before it gets taken wrongly and just put out some positive information for everyone that theirs hope for anyone out there who is over 35 that you can still have children. Maybe it'll take a little time, maybe it'll be easy, but it can happen and once it does then all the better.
I also recommend taking care of YOU first, and your body and stress. Do everything you can to avoid unnecessary stress in your life, I can't tell you how important it is to keep that out, from experience it wrecked me for years. As someone who has PCOS, it plays a huge role in how to manage the symptoms. Also weight, but that is still debated, but just eating a healthy diet and exercise will help to manage it.
We're together in this, so I try keep us together rather than apart, and talk and understand one another, so better to keep it positive so we have hope for the future and our goals, whether that be a child or anything really.
It's all cool