Are you actually for real? Who decides what is vanilla then that we must all consider partaking in - should she be choked because you personally think it’s normal? Slapped in the face? Spat on, tied up? When it comes to sex no means no. Weren’t you also making a post on here not that long ago not wanting to sleep with someone who had herpes - so you understand consent when it comes to yourself only I take it. She doesn't want to do it, maybe she's already tried it and knows she doesn't like it, she is not obligated to try it again or ever if she doesn't want to, and the fact anyone would be comfortable or enjoy doing something with their partner knowing they don't want to is rapey as fuck.