Tabitha
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Hi lovely, I’ve been in a similar situation. Reading the first post was like gong back to that time.
I don’t want to give too much away but I was the wife. We were together for over a decade (no kids thankfully). He cheated and from there on built a second life… in another country with another woman (flying between the 2 every week). For years.
It wasn’t sex or money. He was desperate to keep both relationships/lives going. When things were going bad in one, he’d find comfort in the other. Both facades meant absolutely everything to him and he was scared to lose either so went to huge lengths to keep them up. It’s utterly crazy I know.
I would have given anything for someone to have told me. I could have made a clear decision on my future based on fact and not on guessing. I would not have wasted the last of my 20s on him. On finding secret phones, accounts, crying everyday because I knew something was wrong but didn’t know what (and this lasted 3 entire years). He was a master liar and came up with an excuse instantly. Very intelligent and charming. Even my parents and his therapist believed him.
Of course, you have better judgement of the situation than anyone else.
And yes, I did sell my story but only got a few hundred out of it haha
I don’t want to give too much away but I was the wife. We were together for over a decade (no kids thankfully). He cheated and from there on built a second life… in another country with another woman (flying between the 2 every week). For years.
It wasn’t sex or money. He was desperate to keep both relationships/lives going. When things were going bad in one, he’d find comfort in the other. Both facades meant absolutely everything to him and he was scared to lose either so went to huge lengths to keep them up. It’s utterly crazy I know.
I would have given anything for someone to have told me. I could have made a clear decision on my future based on fact and not on guessing. I would not have wasted the last of my 20s on him. On finding secret phones, accounts, crying everyday because I knew something was wrong but didn’t know what (and this lasted 3 entire years). He was a master liar and came up with an excuse instantly. Very intelligent and charming. Even my parents and his therapist believed him.
Of course, you have better judgement of the situation than anyone else.
And yes, I did sell my story but only got a few hundred out of it haha
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