Or maybe the mother is remembering it as worse than it was, it can't be a nice memory, she's making this statement years later in the context of a murder enquiry. It may be that LL just tried to reassure like 'do you remember the First time we bathed him?' And if the mother engaged she may have continued the conversation. Perhaps the mother was so distressed that she misinterpreted the exchange.Not defending her in the slightest bjt context here is everything. We’ve already began to wonder if she may be a bit socially awkward. It could be that she was trying to offer the mum a piece of information, a memory or something. I find it hard to believe she walked in smiling and said oh she’s dead but she loved a bath. It could be that the mother was expressing upset about things she won’t get to know about her child, things she won’t get to see or experience. The prosecution is obviously spinning things a certain way so whilst yes it may have happened exactly as they said, without more context it means nothing. The smile could have been a reassuring smile etc… I dunno that’s where my head went anyway
I completely agree with this. I have a close friend who’s a paramedic and the humour she shares with her colleagues is daaaaark. However, as we’ve heard neonatal deaths aren’t actually that common, what were there - 3 deaths a year in the hospital excluding 2015-2016? I feel like a death on the ward would very much be seen and felt as an exception, a stand out event and I don’t think a joking matter, even taking into account the gallows humour and the challenges of the role in general.Some of the jokes I've heard would not be acceptable to the general public they call it gallows humour. It's definitely a coping mechanism an unhealthy one sometimes.
It is!The different circumstances comment is a bit suss
I think nursing is different, I've never worked in NICU but when someone has messaged me letting me know somethings happened, my first thought is 'oh that's awful' and my second is usually 'shit, i hope nobody is blamed for this, who was on shift? Who had last contact? is my work going to be pulled apart? is my paperwork air tight?' Because I've worked in some blame heavy teams. So it may be natural to ask more questions.I agree. It’s like she’s fishing or almost again loving the morbid chat. I work with animals. Sometimes we have sick ones we get quite attached to and my colleagues and I will update each other on our days off but reading my messages back when someone has mentioned an animal has passed we usually just reply with “ oh no!” Or “ heart breaking “ and a sad emoji because there’s no need to embellish. We all know how much we love these animals and I’ve never noticed this before but thinking about it now I’m usually then sad and don’t want to continue the conversation. Maybe I’m over thinking, just my thoughts.
I worked in a frail and elderly unit for years and would often say something to that effect when someone sadly passed and I was on covering someone else’s shift. Nobody wants a death to occur on their shift, especially when you were only there as a favour. Unfortunately it’s just one of those things, but I don’t see it as shifting the blame. I agree with you here.I don’t really see it as shifting the blame. I think it’s sounds like what you might say when you swap a shift with someone (in retail for example) and you get a nightmare customer or something goes wrong. Like a ‘can’t believe I’m stuck with this, I’m not even supposed to be in today’ type of thing.
I’m more hopeful about the jury because they are getting paperwork, scans of records etc so it should be easier for them to follow. They probably have a transcript of the text messages in chronological order with dates and time stamps. It’s the bloody media that are the problem!I think the reporting on the trial needs to improve we’ve got 6 months of this and If all the papers can’t get the same story straight how on earth is it coming across to the jury
Completely disagree with this. Everyone deserves a fair trial, and these are alleged victims. LL's defence should be able to question their recollection of events in the same way that they would question anyone else.As standard, we don't go around doubting the victims of a crime (like the parents are) and their memories. I think you would be grateful of it if you are ever the victim of a crime and only remember details after a time has passed, or a suspect has been arrested, once you've had a chance to settle your mind,
Registered Nurses don’t actually take any oaths. You’re bound by the NMC Code of Conduct and the terms of your employment contract - NHS contracts may become more detailed after this case I think, for example expressly forbidding searches of patients on SM.Really? WOW..it’s just not done. When you become a health professional, you take oaths..you behave appropriately so what in gods earth would a nurse be stalking the parents of dead babies..screenshots of sympathy cards that the murderess sent to those grieving parents. They are a trophy..the FB searched gave her a thrill. Disgusting
I think some people are interpreting the part of the note that says "I'll never have children or marry" as she had been told she couldn't have children, although it easily could be because she knew if she was found guilty she's be in prison for life, so would never have that opportunity.I agree. It’s pure conjecture and a strange thing to fixate on when she was so young, quite early on in her career and wasn’t in a serious relationship as far as we know. For most women in her position, settling down and having babies would not be a thought in her immediate future. There’s no evidence to suggest that she’s suffered miscarriages or had been told she was infertile.