The entire conversation about the birdhouse he doesn’t look to her once. His speech and ability to hold attention to the conversation with the tractor gifted box has serious alarm bells, she had to ask repeatedly ‘look in the box jesse’ and then he would and she would have to coax him on what to do, ask him what it is but then tell him so he could repeat the word to answer her question. She knows he needs help. She’s aware. She doesn’t want to deal with it and is in denial and I don’t think it’s because she’s scared or sad that he may be struggling and has guilt I think it’s because she’s lazy and doesn’t want to be told something isn’t right and go to meetings, appointments and be expected to put the work in to improve his communication. She can’t be arsed. I think he’s mimicking Jenson a lot and having an older sibling has helped him learn how to communicate with limited speech, how to get his point across, how to mask well and get on with it so to speak.. but it only gets you so far and as time is going on and he’s getting older he’s going to get so frustrated when others outside the family don’t understand, when Lucy can’t just tell the other child to ‘let jesse do what he wants’ like she does to Jenson, when more and more is expected of him and he starts to struggle. It’s unfair and she’s expecting school to sort it out rather than acknowledging she has a part to play in all of this. Early intervention in speech and communication difficulties is absolutely crucial to best possible outcomes. He JUST misses the school cut off. So he will have an additional year missing out on services he clearly needs. I can’t see her sending him back to nursery after it all resumes anyway.