Louise if you or your team are reading this, you are continuing that cycle, that painful set of completely unreasonable expectations and pressures you are putting on your lovely daughter that were once on you as a child.
It really is disturbing to watch and its sadly such a common thing to happen. In trying to fight your past, but not deal with it, you are living it out.
If your daughter tells you, confides in you, LISTEN to her FEELINGS. Don't make it about the Internet, about Instagram, about other strangers 'building her up' which was essentially, you trying to get everyone else to influence and change her mind! You weren't listened to as a child!!
Have some decency and keep Darcy's *very* valid concerns about showing off, private. Let that child have her voice, and more importantly, privacy.
You seem to have no idea about the implications of this in her present, and her future mindset. Stop being Mr Slop II and forcing YOUR wants, needs and expectations on to a very young child.
Have you any idea what children face in school with the pressures of social media on a normal, everyday sense, let alone one that is forced into it in the years in which a child would normally be free from it. You're stealing her freedom from social media, her childhood, the pureness, safety and simplicity of having zero online presence. Having this as a child is now massive. It used to be a given.
You need help Louise, to realise what you are doing to your child. You don't need a 'village' to raise your child. She doesn't need the eyes of strangers on her. It's really, really disturbing that you are so completely pig headed blinkered about it.
Its horrible to watch, but it must be more horrible to live as a kid who isn't allowed to just 'be', just like you weren't. Please rethink the way you respond to your daughter and how you are using her life, online.