Exactly! I don't want to say it's great to hear so many people feel the same - as I wish no one felt this way - but it makes me realise it isn't just me and that it's quite a normal situation to be in. It got so easy to convince myself that I am the problem.@slugella Like a mirror image. I moved away and now don’t see anyone. That’s what this thread is for, I’m always amazed at how many people are just like me. Just generally so lonely but no way of getting out of it.
Your office sounds like my idea of hell!Hi all, feeling particularly lonely today. Sometimes it just washes over me like a wave and I'm feeling a little tearful at my desk. Doesnt help that my office is full of extroverts, theyre all very nice, but it can get a bit much.
Maybe we could start a discussion of things that might help? I don't want to get myself into a spiral of feeling sorry for myself I need to take action but it's difficult to know what to do.
Everyone is so nice but I struggle with feeling like people thinking I'm boring and quiet because I'm not extroverted. I don't come to work to entertain everyone. Don't get me wrong I do like a chat and a laugh with everyone, and I like my job and get into my work, but sometimes I just like some space and quiet..Your office sounds like my idea of hell!
Yes it's nice to have a mix of people I think.Everyone is so nice but I struggle with feeling like people thinking I'm boring and quiet because I'm not extroverted. I don't come to work to entertain everyone. Don't get me wrong I do like a chat and a laugh with everyone, and I like my job and get into my work, but sometimes I just like some space and quiet..
I do, and I hate the diagnosis. Also not convinced it’s correct as I was diagnosed with Hypermobility spectrum disorder by two rheumatologists. GP’s know very little about HMS and/or EDS. I don’t like the fact that people are very judgemental about fibro either. I also know people diagnosed with fibro who are still able to work and only seem to have flare ups.@Peeltheavocado sorry to pry but don’t suppose you have Fibro? Apologies if not.
Loneliness is definitely crippling, I get about the extroverts just being too much and then people are the ones that look at you as unapproachable or just boring Sally in the corner. I get told all the time I’m cold or I’m unsociable but it’s because I’ve now become anxious and depressed which isn’t just a switch. People also don’t understand the insecurities that come with being alone for so long, friends don’t understand that although I might not want to say go clubbing, you can still keep me company at home. Pizza. Netflix. But that dried up and I felt to much of a burden to ask that question from them. It’s not easy to make friends. Especially where I’m from and my age. Everyone has the clique.
Thank you for sharing! I'm in a situation like yours and I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one in this situation.This is me. I’m twenty and I’ve struggled to make friends all my life. I am disabled and had a TA all through school - I think it alienated me quite a bit And actually played hell with my social skills because everybody talked to me ‘through’ the TA rather than to me. I have one or two school friends which I’m still in contact with now, and an online friend who I absolutely adore, but other than that I don’t have other friends. I have people to talk to at university but I just seem to really struggle otherwise - it’s like we never move past the acquaintance stage! I’m hoping that once I get a job I’ll be able to meet more people... it worries me purely because I don’t see how I’ll ever get a girlfriend/boyfriend if I can’t talk to anyoneI’ve made peace with being alone for now. I tell everybody I like being by myself which sort of does the job at convincing myself I do... I will be at peace by myself with a cat and a tortoise, me.
Oh wow, Joyce Vincent’s story is unbearably sad. The detail that always stuck with me was how the tv was still on, all that time... seems so symbolic to show that the television cannot keep you company and isn’t a replacement for a friend. For so many, particularly the elderly and house bound that’s all they have.This thread makes me so sad, I hadn't realised how prevalent loneliness is in general. I hear a lot in the media about how it affects the elderly, but it seems like it affects all age groups equally. There are charities who need volunteers to visit lonely elderly people, or those whose partners need a break from caring duties so they can go shopping, for instance. People who do this say it so rewarding and that they gain as much from it as the person they visit. Worth thinking about if you have time on your hands. Somebody said in one of the comments above that they wondered if anyone would notice if they weren't there and it reminded me of an awfully sad film I saw a few years ago that told the true story of Joyce Vincent, the film is called Dreams Of A Life - a very sobering story and one that illustrates how, even in today's hyper- connected world, people can fall off the radar. We all need to look out for one another.
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