It’s okay, you’re gonna get abit upset over everything for the next couple of weeks whilst everything settles downI’ve not slept at all and feeling very emotional. Mr R is on his way though so that will help
Wtf why are the making you hold him by his neck? That's mental. I held mini with my arm folded and him cradled into me while latched on. Id tell them that I had a way that works but their making you chop and change is not helping you. You want bf to be a positive experience not one that makes you want to throw the towel in.I’ve tried saying he doesn’t like being held by his neck but they insist that’s the way it needs to be done for us to be signed off to go home. They’re sending the BF support worker to see me this morning to find a way that works apparently. Even tho we had a way that works til they interfered
Mr R is here now tho and he’s actually had sleep so he’s on top form supporting me. They’re saying we can go home this evening if we get his feeding sorted
That's frazzled me just reading it. If the crook of your arm is working and he has a good latch then politely ignore them. The reason they say not to hold him like that is they usually can't get a deep enough latch and you end up with nipples on fire.Yes that’s how @Liverbird2003 and keep pushing the rugby ball hold and all he does is scream but when I was feeding him how Cale describes yesterday like nuzzled in to my arm he was latching and feeding fine, we had loads of wet and dirty nappies so it was obviously working for him. Then they came in to observe and insisted i held him like the pic, then under my arm. One person is like hold his whole head, one will say his neck, one says cradle with my arm between his legs and up his back to support, the next says never hold that way, one says squish my boob so its flat,another says never squish, one says as soon as his mouth is open to ram him on, the next says move him but try to put my nipple in with my fingers, one says as soon as he stops sucking (after literally 2 sucks now with all their advice) to take him straight off, another says let him play and try to find what he’s looking for it just goes on and on. Every single person tells me something different.
I just gave him a kendamill pre-made bottle out of desperation to get something in him and he guzzled 40ml so he was clearly hungry but 10mins before the MW told me he wasn’t hungry cuz he was just staring at my boob not attempting to feed in the rugby position they insist on even tho he was trying to eat his hands and blanket. My head is absolutely fried, he’s confused and doesn’t wanna know anymore and then to top it off the childrens doctor just came down and told me I need to get him 30ml of colostrum by hand to top up the 40ml of milk he just has
arghhhhhhhhh
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can’t wait to get home to my own bed though.
Glad Baby R has been feeding and you got to do it your way - well done mama! Do you have plenty of paracetamol and ibuprofen at home? Make sure you keep on top of them when you get back to try and manage the pain. Sending lots of hugs xxStill had no sleep, iron levels through the floor, in the most pain I’ve ever felt in my life, waiting on discharge meds and stuff now because baby has passed his checks so forget mum
Ignored the staff and managed to get Baby R to have a decent feed though so feeling better about that
Thank you to everyone for your support
I’m also missing @DellaC and hope she’s ok
Glad baby R had a feedStill had no sleep, iron levels through the floor, in the most pain I’ve ever felt in my life, waiting on discharge meds and stuff now because baby has passed his checks so forget mum
Ignored the staff and managed to get Baby R to have a decent feed though so feeling better about that
Thank you to everyone for your support
I’m also missing @DellaC and hope she’s ok
