Afternoon scrunchies!
I'm having a bit of a weird BYG-esque situation in real life with one of my friends. To make a long story short, I have a good friend of mine who is a larger lady. (Size 24/26) Weight doesn't matter to me as a person, but it's very obvious that she's a lot bigger than me. I'm a 14/16 now having worked my ass off and gone from an 18/20 at my biggest (and trying to get down to a 10/12, but comfort eating after a breakup has not been good for me at all...) and I have a cute red casual shirt that is mega oversized. If anyone shops on PLT, they'll know the oversized shirts are really roomy. This friend and I went to a show about a week ago and she was watching me get ready and choose an outfit. This shirt is in a size 14 but is mega oversized and I tossed it on the bed and chose something else. She grabbed it, saying she liked it and tried it on. It did fit her... Just about. The arms looked really tight and the buttons were nowhere near closure, but she was so happy. She kept saying "I can fit in a size 14!" I didn't want to tell her the shirt is super oversized so I let her borrow it. Now, since this incident, she has been telling everyone that she can fit in my clothes. She even hugged me today and said "It's so nice to have a friend the same size as me."
Since then, I bought a jacket from a designer brand which now does a range of plus sizes. I debated getting the 14 but chose the 16 as I prefer my coats a little more roomy for layering. I wore it around her the other day and she was looking at me up and down. I asked her if she wanted to try it on and she said "No, that coat looks nice on you so it'll definitely fit me for sure." I insisted she tried it on but she refused and ordered it... In a 16... When she is a size 24. This morning, she called me and told me she was annoyed the coat didn't fit and that I should have let her try mine on before she ordered it. I gently told her I did try and let her try it on and she got in a huff with me, saying it looked plenty big enough on me and that since the shirt fit her, the coat should have as well. I told her I didn't know what to say and suggested she tried a bigger size.
I have bitten my tongue completely, but it is slightly irking me that she is going around telling our friends that we can share clothes. She is so happy though because obviously, she can't fit in any of our other friend's clothing. (Our group goes from a tiny size 6, size 10/12, size 16 and size 20.) Do I say something? I really don't want to feed into her delusions as I am worried about her health as she smokes heavily and coughs like a trooper. She is very lazy and doesn't want to walk anywhere, to the point that after the show, I suggested a bar which was an 8-minute walk away and she wanted to get a bloody uber. Now, I'm a lazy cow at the best of times, but Jesus, even I am not that lazy. I love her to pieces and have managed to get her to go for evening dog walks every now and then and she even told me she'd start the gym with me. I just... Don't want to hurt her feelings.
This whole situation made me wonder if our BYG maybe buys super stretchy clothing in smaller sizes and then claims she's that size. We all saw the posts she made about the size M sports clothes, which I'm assuming are around a size 10? 12 maybe? Which is definitely not the size of our beefy girl. I wonder if maybe she too had a friend who let her borrow something stretchy or bodycon that she managed to squeeze herself into and now she thinks she's a svelte, petite girl.
Anyway. I'm rambling like crazy and supposed to be working, but I just had to vent! Has anyone had a similar situation?