Do your own thing sweetheart and sod those two! I have precisely one photo of my mother taken in about 1984 and even that is contaminated by that vile man my alleged "father ", likewise when they both died in the space of 3 months I finally received my photos from childhood - six tiny tattered efforts are all that represent my entire lifetime as their kid! Apart from them I have absolutely nothing. Let those two reminisce all they like but you are not obliged to keep up the pretence of Happy Families for their sakeI do envy people who have a good relationship with their family. My mother cut my dad out of my life when I was 2 and married my stepdad when I was 5. I’ve always called him by his name not ‘dad’. They had 2 sons so my half brothers - 9 and 12 years younger than me. I was treated horrendously growing up and have issues because of that still. Apparently my dad died when I was about 22 but I didn’t know. What pisses me off is every year for the last at least 6 years I’ve had them over on Father’s Day (and Mother’s Day) coz my brothers don’t invite them …. this year they are both going to be 80….these are messages I’ve received from oldest stepbrother and then his wife today….I feel like responding ‘duck off’ to both of them coz I know if I do give ideas they’ll expect me to sort everything. I have already sorted our prezzie so that’s fine and seeing as I left home at 20, and in those days it was proper cameras with film and I had no inclination to take photos then, I don’t actually have any …. and won’t be in any that we’re taken….then I’m tempted to just respond ‘don’t know’. Rant over….night night all….onwards and upwards xx
Today however is my granddaughter's 18th birthday and sadly son has had to hightail it to see his uncle who is seriously in hospital, thus dumping a pall over everything planned for today.
C'est la vie....