Poor phoebe's been let down by her dad, she doesn't want to go to her nans, she wants to stay with her mum. A mum is a child's safe place, she'll want to feel comforted and loved by her mum, not bought a load of new stuff and shoved off to her nans. She's going to feel even more rejected. Your priority should be your children, whether you've made plans or not. Phoebe should be put first,not jake, or whoever it is you're going out with tonight. The smithy family's situation should of taught everyone that you don't know whats going to happen tomorrow, so spend as much time with your kids as you can. Especially when they want or need you. Your kids should always come first