So true this , in the bad relationship I was in my younger years , I didn’t recognise myself after a while , I didn’t like the person I became , I was bitter and resentful when I finally escaped , but the best therapy I had was a few years later when I was contacted by my ex’s then wife (now ex wife) we shared experiences and realised that we both felt the same , but after sharing stories we also realised we were not bad people , we were damaged by his behaviour and abuse , and we found that we could only talk to each other about these awful experiences , no one else in our family’s or friends wouldn’t understand it , we felt if we were to tell anyone else they would think we were stupid to stay in that relationship , it was like embarrassment and shame , but talking together we bonded and became good friends and helped each other , not through revenge but through a nice friendship and just listening to each other - best therapy I could have got at the time and we are still friends now
Maybe this is how CW is dealing with the breakup , it certainly makes you feel better having someone to talk to who completely understands what you have just been through , even if he is still driven by revenge , and let’s face it KH will also have some feeling of wanting revenge too on how she has treated him and his partner , and the kids , it’s human nature
I think a few people have said before here , no human is perfect, we have faults and we also have to continually work on ourselves, being on an abisive controlling relationship changes people for the worse it really does , coming out the other side is a long and painful process ….
