I wouldn't call it pain as such, it's actually somewhat of a privilege to give back to people who have done so much for you and would return the favour if tables were turned.Hearing your pain sweetheart
I was taught that it's what families do, look out for each other, through the good and bad.
Not to exploit everything and everybody for your own gain or as an excuse for just being a general bleep in life.
'It' doesn't appear to possess any of the normal values in life and lives for the day only, doesn't have any work ethic or morals and simply fails to understand loyalty at all.
As I've said many times before, 'it' is just a waste of oxygen.