I’m a support worker and I have shown his videos to my team leader who has raised a self guarding concern ,and so have I with his local authority, not in a professional capacity but as a member of the public. He says she was sexually abused then dresses her up in sexualised outfits and does things like the dirty dancing , talks about her personal care all safe guarding issues. Not to mention he right to dignity while being cared for. She can’t consent to be on tik tok or fully understand what’s going on ! Does he not let her go to social clubs because he doesn’t want other people getting close because there is something going on and she may find a way to communicate it to someone once they get to know her ( extreme but it does happen !) . Look at that lad last year who’s little boy was being abused and everyone though he was dad Of the year . I’ve reported it because it doesn’t sit right with me !
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mumaof2boys
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I have a 35 year old severely disabled sister, non verbal, can't walk in a wheelchair, can't toilet (in nappies) eat for herself but doesn't have seizures and the spitting image of deedee visually, my sister is in a care home/independent living and it's SO beneficial for her, she's funded for a disability car (carers drive it obviously!) but she gets out, goes to art classes, swimming, cinema, shopping, a FAR better quality of life than Deedee, the poor girl is unstimulated!
What I wanted to say regarding personal care, my sister's carers give her bath's but NOT allowed to shave her, my mum does shave her underarms and legs but definitely not down below, there's NO NEED, slightly disturbing why he does it.
And frigging Australia REALLY?! She wouldn't cope during that flight, it's not familiar to her, we took my sister to Disney land and she LOVED it, all the characters, the smile on her face lights up a room, I don't think I've ever seen deedee really smile, there's so much help available without go fund me pages, I'm guessing he gets high rate DLA (mobility and care) carers and possibly PIP, just greed.
What I wanted to say regarding personal care, my sister's carers give her bath's but NOT allowed to shave her, my mum does shave her underarms and legs but definitely not down below, there's NO NEED, slightly disturbing why he does it.
And frigging Australia REALLY?! She wouldn't cope during that flight, it's not familiar to her, we took my sister to Disney land and she LOVED it, all the characters, the smile on her face lights up a room, I don't think I've ever seen deedee really smile, there's so much help available without go fund me pages, I'm guessing he gets high rate DLA (mobility and care) carers and possibly PIP, just greed.
greeneyes23
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Johns popped up on my fyp yet again. Ignoring dee while he flirts with the women AND the men that he’s live with. I’m considering raising a safeguarding concern with adult social services at this point as her care clearly isn’t in his best interests. She never leaves the house and is ignored constantly while he’s live for hours on end. It’s not ok!
gimm3more
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He comes up on my FYP all the time. I see it as nothing more as exploiting his disabled child for views, cash and gifts. Yet if you call him out you’re piled on by the middle aged yummy mummies in the comments - as if you’re the wrong one for pointing this out. He’s sat reading tiktok comments whilst the poor girl is clearly desperate for his attention etc.
Can’t stand parents exploiting their vulnerable kids on this app, as they can’t consent.
I'm sorry but John is the weirdest, creepy, begging twat on there.. he bangs on about deedee having severe brain damage yet dresses her up in belly tops and off the shoulder tops amongst other things which is sexulising her and its disgusting.. he's basically pimping her out for as many gifts and likes he can get.. I'd love to know what social services would make of that situation as I've seen deedee flinch at his touches.
JellyWobbles
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I find this really insulting.Everyone voting for John to win a pride of Britain award
Like I said before my daughters needs are more severe than deedee’s… but regardless of disability or not parenting does not warrant a pride of Britain award ffs. Yes it’s more difficult (physically and emotionally) than your typical parenting but it’s just the way cards are dealt for some of us …you crack on. Why does it warrant an award lol
Ems88ALFTYMAX
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I can't watch them anymore it makes me feel so uneasy watching that poor girl sat on the sofa while her dad is on live for hours and hours getting gifts. How about use that money and take the girl places. There are so many great places for disabled children out there. I've said it before.. he could go live once Dee Dee is settled for the night or if she does genuinely enjoy it. Go live for an hour or so!
The fact Dee Dee has had seizures and he didn't even stop the live. He says its raising awareness but she cannot say ' dad I don't want this all over the internet' I don't think it's fair to her at all...
The fact Dee Dee has had seizures and he didn't even stop the live. He says its raising awareness but she cannot say ' dad I don't want this all over the internet' I don't think it's fair to her at all...
JellyWobbles
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His on live now; I feel like slapping him. He doesn’t realise how he speaks to her
‘Look deedee no one wants to come on live. No one wants to sing to you’. Deedee looks visibly upset and miffed. She opened a present of colouring books and someone is commenting I sent them no thank you to her at all …and then complains that it’s a duplicate. His vile.
‘Look deedee no one wants to come on live. No one wants to sing to you’. Deedee looks visibly upset and miffed. She opened a present of colouring books and someone is commenting I sent them no thank you to her at all …and then complains that it’s a duplicate. His vile.
renegademasterx
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I’ve been debating whether to post my opinion on here but I am glad to read I’m not alone in my thoughts. I am sick of seeing that poor woman, day in, day out, sat in dirty dress up clothes, dribbling everywhere, for the love of god John wipe her poor mouth and chin. She looks so sore. Why is he not caring for her? Sitting her in an armchair on live everyday in a pool of dribble is not care. Her helmet is filthy dirty. It’s ok putting her in dresses and asking Alexa to play Disney music all day but that is not caring for her or enriching her. Strangers on TikTok cooing over her like she’s some sort of circus animal on lives is NOT caring for her. She looks shattered. I cannot bare how much he ignores her. She shouts and bellows over him and he literally ignores her. Says he has no money but has money for the gym and no doubt steroids judging by the scars all over his arms and shoulders. Really makes me sad.
youve got to be joking!
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Just found this thread today and so glad I did 
I knew I couldn’t be the only one who had these same views and opinions on this man. I’m sorry to say but I think he’s vile and exploits his daughter to the hilt from the posts and lives he does he totally controls Deedee, he says she is the boss and It’s her who wants to be on TikTok. Deedee is always looking at him for instruction on what to do on the posts he makes. He’s mentioned on his lives In front of deedee about her crying next thing Deedee starts crying and he by the way is shocked by this and tells her to stop! Deedee hangs off every word he says. There’s so many things to pick up from this man what he says and how he is is questionable in my eyes saying they were abused by his ex even to the point of sleeping in the park! Why would he allow that anyway when your daughter is disabled? He really paints a very bad picture about deedees mum and yes it could be 100% true we will never know but from a man that was totally traumatised from this relationship to what he seems to be now, doing calendars, a small acting part, coming on a social media platform half naked most times, putting a wish list on, go fund me page and showing his disabled daughter of for gifts just doesn’t add up to be this overly confident in that short space of time. There is no one who is going to say any different Deedee certainly can’t and he doesn’t have anyone else there with them to say differently to him. It’s like he doesn’t want anyone else there just him and Deedee as he has total control then. There are just so many red flags with this man, can fool some but not everyone.
I knew I couldn’t be the only one who had these same views and opinions on this man. I’m sorry to say but I think he’s vile and exploits his daughter to the hilt from the posts and lives he does he totally controls Deedee, he says she is the boss and It’s her who wants to be on TikTok. Deedee is always looking at him for instruction on what to do on the posts he makes. He’s mentioned on his lives In front of deedee about her crying next thing Deedee starts crying and he by the way is shocked by this and tells her to stop! Deedee hangs off every word he says. There’s so many things to pick up from this man what he says and how he is is questionable in my eyes saying they were abused by his ex even to the point of sleeping in the park! Why would he allow that anyway when your daughter is disabled? He really paints a very bad picture about deedees mum and yes it could be 100% true we will never know but from a man that was totally traumatised from this relationship to what he seems to be now, doing calendars, a small acting part, coming on a social media platform half naked most times, putting a wish list on, go fund me page and showing his disabled daughter of for gifts just doesn’t add up to be this overly confident in that short space of time. There is no one who is going to say any different Deedee certainly can’t and he doesn’t have anyone else there with them to say differently to him. It’s like he doesn’t want anyone else there just him and Deedee as he has total control then. There are just so many red flags with this man, can fool some but not everyone.
Heart shake
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I was watching part of his live yesterday where he said the SW told him that Deedee wasn't to go on Tiktok anymore as she couldn't give informed consent. The SW said that the issue is that Deedee doesn't understand how many people are watching her as when the SW asked Deedee how many people are watching, Deedee held up 4 fingers.
John however is claiming that the SW doesn't know how to speak to Deedee. He said that the SW spoke to her in adult language. He has come up with a few solutions. He is thinking of making his page private and telling the SW that all the followers are friends and family as he thinks that the SW won't have enough time to check each person.
He also said he is going to teach Deedee to say 500 if the SW asks how many people are watching her.
He plans on teaching Deedee to open the app and press live herself so that he can show the SW that she is going on lives herself and therefore consenting
You could see he was raging about it all and sees that his cash cow is coming to an end.
John however is claiming that the SW doesn't know how to speak to Deedee. He said that the SW spoke to her in adult language. He has come up with a few solutions. He is thinking of making his page private and telling the SW that all the followers are friends and family as he thinks that the SW won't have enough time to check each person.
He also said he is going to teach Deedee to say 500 if the SW asks how many people are watching her.
He plans on teaching Deedee to open the app and press live herself so that he can show the SW that she is going on lives herself and therefore consenting
You could see he was raging about it all and sees that his cash cow is coming to an end.
JellyWobbles
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It’s the guise of being a ‘troll’ against people who are Carers and just solely trying to raise awareness - but it isn’t the truth is it, it’s blatantly obvious that it’s beyond that, they get greedy too.
I have a disabled daughter her needs are worse than DeeDee’s and there is no chance in hell I’d ever be doing any of this crap. And trust me, she could definitely do with financial help to get the aids she needs to enrich her life but that is my responsibility, not to mention what a previous poster put about being able to consent to this.
what doesn’t add up either is if DeeDee was taken advantage of and has a dangerous mother why is he just posting her online where anyone can see?
WhatABore
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Just came to see if he had a thread after seeing his video saying they're not going live because turning off the gifts means he doesn't know what to do on live and can't make people happy and how the gifts make Dee happy.
There's something about him that makes me so uncomfortable.
I saw a video a while ago where he was talking, in some detail about how Dee was sexually abused by several family members. It just made me feel so uncomfortable, the fact she can't concent to that being shared or understand it at all!
(I haven't read the rest of the thread yet, just editing to say I see others have mentioned the same!)
There's something about him that makes me so uncomfortable.
I saw a video a while ago where he was talking, in some detail about how Dee was sexually abused by several family members. It just made me feel so uncomfortable, the fact she can't concent to that being shared or understand it at all!
(I haven't read the rest of the thread yet, just editing to say I see others have mentioned the same!)
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youve got to be joking!
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Saw on his live a woman sent Deedee my little pony toy and she commented that she had sent it, his reply to her was Deedee was disappointed as it’s small and not the same as the one she already has… this man is just so rude and unappreciative of anything anyone does. He saves hundreds of £££s on not having to buy his daughter any clothes or toys and to actually say to people who have took the time out to buy and send Deedee a present only for him to be rude and so ungrateful shows his true character and not this humble godly hero people see him to be. Another comment from a mum was that she would love someone to set up a GFM page for her disabled son, that comment was ignored but he continued to read out all the ‘you’re an amazing dad’ comments as he always does, totally self obsessed…
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youve got to be joking!
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Yes absolutely
and I agree would love DHB to get onto it as he says it how it is and give him his due is pretty spot on this father gives no dignity to his disabled 20 year old daughter from telling everyone on lives mostly over a 1000 people she’s on her period and he shaves her personal parts… really is that something we need to know? Is that educational? Is that awareness? He wouldn’t have to do them very personal things for his 20 year old daughter if he let female carers help look after Deedee or even her sister who supposedly looks after deedee when he goes the gym but he won’t he wants to have all the praise and acknowledgment for doing these things but it’s wrong. A lot to f what he says about Deedee and how she can have a seizure but yet he’s lifting her up and spinning her around, jumping on top of her in the bed just for a post and the likes it’s will get. One minute he’s saying she’s a 20 year old just like any other and dressing her in low cut tops next thing he’s treating her like a 3 year old child I just don’t get it….
beebee789
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This man gives me increasingly bad vibes. I am worried about the wellbeing of that poor girl.
His story does not add up regarding his ex wife, and if anything, only serves to make him seem like a white knight and saviour. Are there police reports or court documents to back up what he is alleging happened to his daughter? If she was being abused, surely the police were involved.
Something is off here and i think it's important that we question him and his motivations. DeeDee is a vulnerable adult and it is the responsibility of those more fortunate in society to ensure her safety and quality of life. If this means calling out the overly sexualised outfits and videos she (without consent) is appearing in, then so be it.
His story does not add up regarding his ex wife, and if anything, only serves to make him seem like a white knight and saviour. Are there police reports or court documents to back up what he is alleging happened to his daughter? If she was being abused, surely the police were involved.
Something is off here and i think it's important that we question him and his motivations. DeeDee is a vulnerable adult and it is the responsibility of those more fortunate in society to ensure her safety and quality of life. If this means calling out the overly sexualised outfits and videos she (without consent) is appearing in, then so be it.
greeneyes23
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I get really weird vibes from him. I believe there’s a lot more to what happened to dee dee than he’s letting on. I’ve noticed a few times when he’s touched her a certain way etc she looks quite scared.
Has anyone noticed he speaks like a baby a lot? Not too his daughter just in general.
I feel so sorry for dee dee.
Has anyone noticed he speaks like a baby a lot? Not too his daughter just in general.
I feel so sorry for dee dee.
JellyWobbles
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Ffs his on live right now, anyone can see from this ss that she is uncomfortable, she’s really struggling with period pain and his just garbing on at the camera with her as a backdrop. Absolutely vile, does he have no shame?
Poor DeeDee
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