John Stones #28 sticking things in his mouth…we wish he’d stick his thing in our mouths

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lou_claire91

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Sorry LO had just thrown up all over himself in his bed so just had to go and sort that out... another reason why 🤣

Honestly thank you so much girls!!

cobette said:
Do not be embarrassed! It shouldn't be taboo to talk about. Loads of women feel that way after having a baby. Has it caused friction between you? Is he supportive?

@strawberrysunshine_x is right, sometimes when you've been together a long time things like this just happen.
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He is super supportive, he is the sweetest man i have ever known, he makes jokes all the time that he'd wait forever for me as he still thinks he's lucky he has me, which i tell him is stupid and to stop being so soppy!!!

LurkingAnnie said:
despite not having a baby, I can completely sympathise with you…
All my treatment has caused a lot of scar tissue which meant we’ve only really started attempting sex this year. We’ve done other things before this year, but feel inadequate is a complete turn off for me, and that’s generally how I’ve felt.
gaining confidence in my own body has helped a lot, but it’s been really hard work.
Things aren’t perfect for us, and won’t ever go back to how it was, but it’s our new normal - which is why we’ve probs been a bit more rampant recently
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Honestly thats exactly it, because i dont feel the same as before with all the additional surgery and still issues ive had afterwards, plus he was the one helping with dressings and listening to me talk about it all, its not like i feel sexy anymore! He is so understanding and i feel like i am almost ready but its just taken that bit of time

mimimithis said:
It's perfectly normal, I think the mamas here can - and have described it better than I could, having no kids. I'm really happy to know that we have a place here where we can talk about all of these things, get opinions from different perspectives, and generally just let it out sometimes.

Have you considered talking to a specialist about it? There's help and techniques, and toys that might help you with the issues due to stitches and the dysaesthesia that happens due to the tearing of tissue.

Lots of love!
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So i had to see a specialist for like 6 months post baby and they gave me the all clear, i have 2 other friends who have gone through the same, i think its that worry that the scar tissue will really hurt and then it will put me off, but i feel like i am almost in the right mindset!!

@strawberrysunshine_x @rasperryripple @Starttheline thank you mama's for making me feel slightly normal!!

Its so nice to have this platform to talk ❤
 
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Algeronwashere said:
@Gossgossgoss9888 I think the key to finding out if he likes you is does he do all of that stuff at work for anyone else?
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Some of it!

It's not like he's lovely to me and a dick to everyone else! 😂 Like I said he has a lot of friends and is super-sociable.

He specifically asks me to do stuff like joining his quiz team but I think that's just because I'm a mega nerd more than anything else (I went a few times and it was lots of fun but they've stopped doing it for a bit 😟). And the cups of tea is mostly just me but we like our tea the same so it's not as complicated for me as for other people.

We sometimes try to get other people involved in our funny little wordplay games but mostly the response is:


It's so infuriating because there's 99% of my brain that always just assumes people are just being nice, but that remaining 1% spins fairy tales like a total weirdo.

I think he's probably just a sweetheart and we have a little funny nerdy connection but that's about it and right now it's just squeezing through to the tiny little sliver of my heart that isn't tucked away behind high walls and barbed wire.


LurkingAnnie said:
Seriously though, where is @Violetroselily

will these entice her out??

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If that doesn't do it, nothing will!
 
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lou_claire91 said:
Sorry LO had just thrown up all over himself in his bed so just had to go and sort that out... another reason why 🤣

Honestly thank you so much girls!!


He is super supportive, he is the sweetest man i have ever known, he makes jokes all the time that he'd wait forever for me as he still thinks he's lucky he has me, which i tell him is stupid and to stop being so soppy!!!


Honestly thats exactly it, because i dont feel the same as before with all the additional surgery and still issues ive had afterwards, plus he was the one helping with dressings and listening to me talk about it all, its not like i feel sexy anymore! He is so understanding and i feel like i am almost ready but its just taken that bit of time


So i had to see a specialist for like 6 months post baby and they gave me the all clear, i have 2 other friends who have gone through the same, i think its that worry that the scar tissue will really hurt and then it will put me off, but i feel like i am almost in the right mindset!!

@strawberrysunshine_x @rasperryripple @Starttheline thank you mama's for making me feel slightly normal!!

Its so nice to have this platform to talk ❤
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I’ve had counselling on intimacy and one of the most important things to anyone who’s had trauma is understanding that actual penetration isn’t everything.
i could talk about this for hours, because I’ve learnt so much, but it’s really important you carry on talking.
We set date nights etc (even if it was just to sit at home without phones) or making a nice tea and made the night cosy so we were just being a couple - when the expectation of actually having sex goes, it makes it a lot easier to have sex


strawberrysunshine_x said:
That last one kinda ruins it 🤣🤣🤣 the man coughing. But the rest are beaut. I actually love him. Even his belly button is perfect.
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“The man” 🙄🤣
 
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LurkingAnnie said:
I’ve had counselling on intimacy and one of the most important things to anyone who’s had trauma is understanding that actual penetration isn’t everything.
i could talk about this for hours, because I’ve learnt so much, but it’s really important you carry on talking.
We set date nights etc (even if it was just to sit at home without phones) or making a nice tea and made the night cosy so we were just being a couple - when the expectation of actually having sex goes, it makes it a lot easier to have sex



“The man” 🙄🤣
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Should I know who he is 🙈
 
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LurkingAnnie said:
I’ve had counselling on intimacy and one of the most important things to anyone who’s had trauma is understanding that actual penetration isn’t everything.
i could talk about this for hours, because I’ve learnt so much, but it’s really important you carry on talking.
We set date nights etc (even if it was just to sit at home without phones) or making a nice tea and made the night cosy so we were just being a couple - when the expectation of actually having sex goes, it makes it a lot easier to have sex
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Honestly just hearing that helps!! Having known him for like a huge portion of my life i find it easy to talk to him about anything and everything and i said to him i dont want to shut him out of what i'm feeling! We have little date nights and we just spend time together and its lovely, and in the past couple of weeks i've felt more inclined to maybe try something soon i think its just that first hurdle!! Thank you for sharing this with me!!
 
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lou_claire91 said:
Honestly just hearing that helps!! Having known him for like a huge portion of my life i find it easy to talk to him about anything and everything and i said to him i dont want to shut him out of what i'm feeling! We have little date nights and we just spend time together and its lovely, and in the past couple of weeks i've felt more inclined to maybe try something soon i think its just that first hurdle!! Thank you for sharing this with me!!
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Anytime 🥰
 
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LurkingAnnie said:
I’ve had counselling on intimacy and one of the most important things to anyone who’s had trauma is understanding that actual penetration isn’t everything.
i could talk about this for hours, because I’ve learnt so much, but it’s really important you carry on talking.
We set date nights etc (even if it was just to sit at home without phones) or making a nice tea and made the night cosy so we were just being a couple - when the expectation of actually having sex goes, it makes it a lot easier to have sex


“The man” 🙄🤣
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lou_claire91 said:
Honestly just hearing that helps!! Having known him for like a huge portion of my life i find it easy to talk to him about anything and everything and i said to him i dont want to shut him out of what i'm feeling! We have little date nights and we just spend time together and its lovely, and in the past couple of weeks i've felt more inclined to maybe try something soon i think its just that first hurdle!! Thank you for sharing this with me!!
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Reading these responses makes me so appreciative of the little group we have here. 🥺🥰
 
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