Sorry LO had just thrown up all over himself in his bed so just had to go and sort that out... another reason why
Honestly thank you so much girls!!
@strawberrysunshine_x @rasperryripple @Starttheline thank you mama's for making me feel slightly normal!!
Its so nice to have this platform to talk
Honestly thank you so much girls!!
He is super supportive, he is the sweetest man i have ever known, he makes jokes all the time that he'd wait forever for me as he still thinks he's lucky he has me, which i tell him is stupid and to stop being so soppy!!!Do not be embarrassed! It shouldn't be taboo to talk about. Loads of women feel that way after having a baby. Has it caused friction between you? Is he supportive?
@strawberrysunshine_x is right, sometimes when you've been together a long time things like this just happen.
Honestly thats exactly it, because i dont feel the same as before with all the additional surgery and still issues ive had afterwards, plus he was the one helping with dressings and listening to me talk about it all, its not like i feel sexy anymore! He is so understanding and i feel like i am almost ready but its just taken that bit of timedespite not having a baby, I can completely sympathise with you…
All my treatment has caused a lot of scar tissue which meant we’ve only really started attempting sex this year. We’ve done other things before this year, but feel inadequate is a complete turn off for me, and that’s generally how I’ve felt.
gaining confidence in my own body has helped a lot, but it’s been really hard work.
Things aren’t perfect for us, and won’t ever go back to how it was, but it’s our new normal - which is why we’ve probs been a bit more rampant recently
So i had to see a specialist for like 6 months post baby and they gave me the all clear, i have 2 other friends who have gone through the same, i think its that worry that the scar tissue will really hurt and then it will put me off, but i feel like i am almost in the right mindset!!It's perfectly normal, I think the mamas here can - and have described it better than I could, having no kids. I'm really happy to know that we have a place here where we can talk about all of these things, get opinions from different perspectives, and generally just let it out sometimes.
Have you considered talking to a specialist about it? There's help and techniques, and toys that might help you with the issues due to stitches and the dysaesthesia that happens due to the tearing of tissue.
Lots of love!
@strawberrysunshine_x @rasperryripple @Starttheline thank you mama's for making me feel slightly normal!!
Its so nice to have this platform to talk