Rosie is super thin in those workout videos ... he definitely wasn’t posting them because of Marley
Loooooooong time lurker here! Just catching up on this latest thread and had to comment on this. BF was such a struggle for me at the start and my daughter lost 9.8% of her birth weight (she is now 17 months old). On reflection, I genuinely believe the visitors in the early days didn't help and I said this to my partner only a couple of weeks ago. I was so self conscious about feeding in front of people that I wouldn't correct the latch if it felt uncomfortable because I didn't want to expose myself, or people would be holding the baby and I didn't want to take her off them! I love my MIL but she was at the hospital when I gave birth and was the first visitor so I don't think I even tried feeding in the first hour. When I did try it went horribly wrong. Anyway, my point is, I said to my partner that if we have another I am going to be very strict about visitors and if I need to feed I will take the baby upstairs. I would never have done that before because I felt bad for taking the baby away.Yes this is really annoying ! My in-laws went on and on saying they wanted to feed the baby when I was breastfeeding Interesting fact that during lockdown breastfed babies put their weight back on much more than when a poor mum has tons of visitors !! Just leave mums to it !!
AND A FULLY EQUIPPED HOME GYM.'Squeezing in a workout together' is only 'possible' if you have a ridiculously well behaved toddler and nothing much else to do. If you both have full time jobs, plus you have a toddler who would have tried to run away five times, climbed the treadmill and tried to grab every single one of the weights within the first five minutes, it's probably not 'possible'.
Totally agree with you ! Breastfeeding is so tough and having lots of visitors in the early days really doesn’t help ! I only managed a few days with my first then nearly 2 years with my second and then only a week with my third so each experience is different and there is no right or wrong ! I found lying down on the bed breastfeeding really helped with my second and i could be private and resting ! My midwife told me to do it and it was brilliant for us as I was in a lot of pain from a lot of stitches !!Loooooooong time lurker here! Just catching up on this latest thread and had to comment on this. BF was such a struggle for me at the start and my daughter lost 9.8% of her birth weight (she is now 17 months old). On reflection, I genuinely believe the visitors in the early days didn't help and I said this to my partner only a couple of weeks ago. I was so self conscious about feeding in front of people that I wouldn't correct the latch if it felt uncomfortable because I didn't want to expose myself, or people would be holding the baby and I didn't want to take her off them! I love my MIL but she was at the hospital when I gave birth and was the first visitor so I don't think I even tried feeding in the first hour. When I did try it went horribly wrong. Anyway, my point is, I said to my partner that if we have another I am going to be very strict about visitors and if I need to feed I will take the baby upstairs. I would never have done that before because I felt bad for taking the baby away.
BF is tough for a lot of women and I think Joe could have used his platform to highlight potential issues that go alongside feeding. I think it is very irresponsible to string people along and letting them think that Rosie was still BF Marley when she wasn't. After all, they share everything else so why not that too?
I have followed Wean in 15 from when they went travelling around Costa Rica with Indie and that is where my annoyance started to grow. Firstly, everyone could do that if they had his money and didn't have a proper day job. Secondly, I just found it to be such a desperate attempt to show the world that having a baby doesn't mean that you stop living your life how you want, and babies just slot right in. Well, that isn't a reality for most! Indie doesn't have a proper routine, but why would she when neither Joe nor Rosie have a proper routine? It is much easier to be calm and laidback when you don't have to get up at 6am and rush around getting yourselves ready, drop your kid of at nursery/school, go to work, get home, dinner, bath, bed and repeat the next day. I mean, that is real life!
I can relate to Joe somewhat with having not had a great upbringing and wanting different for my child, but his obsession with Indie eating well and talking etc is obsessive. My daughter eats very well and I cook most of her food from scratch, but on my can't be arsed days she gets a fish finger or two!
I have lots more to say but this has turned into a very long rant (my 17 month is napping on me after a 4.50am start )
Him filming her doing hip thrusts wearing very little And then posting it on what is meant to be a family channel is a bit weird.Rosie is super thin in those workout videos ... he definitely wasn’t posting them because of Marley
I had my little girl the same day as Marley and was in hospital up until Christmas eve, seeing the posts about having friends around and how chilled Marley always looked used to make me cry as I felt we should be like that. We had feeding issues so I was permanently attached to a pump or baby surviving on about 4 hours of broken sleep to fit the pumping in. We slept on shifts as she wouldn't sleep anywhere but on us. It makes me sad seeing how little Marley seems to be held or interacted with now!Totally agree with you ! Breastfeeding is so tough and having lots of visitors in the early days really doesn’t help ! I only managed a few days with my first then nearly 2 years with my second and then only a week with my third so each experience is different and there is no right or wrong ! I found lying down on the bed breastfeeding really helped with my second and i could be private and resting ! My midwife told me to do it and it was brilliant for us as I was in a lot of pain from a lot of stitches !!
Anyway they really annoyed me with the huge supply of breastmilk in the fridge and it was all so easy blah blah and everyone could feed Marley because Rosie was a milk machine
Anyone who has ever breast fed knows you can’t go out on all day and all night boozy brunches when you have literally just had a baby and are breastfeeding it’s just not real life !! He makes me sick how smug he is all the time and like you say they both don’t live in the real world !!
Please do not judge yourself according to these people's standards. They are not living your life. And they are not honest about it.I had my little girl the same day as Marley and was in hospital up until Christmas eve, seeing the posts about having friends around and how chilled Marley always looked used to make me cry as I felt we should be like that. We had feeding issues so I was permanently attached to a pump or baby surviving on about 4 hours of broken sleep to fit the pumping in. We slept on shifts as she wouldn't sleep anywhere but on us. It makes me sad seeing how little Marley seems to be held or interacted with now!
Thank you!Please do not judge yourself according to these people's standards. They are not living your life. And they are not honest about it.
You were, and are, doing wonderfully!
I felt similar when they had Indie and I had a baby the same age. Joe used to go on Instagram every couple of days to brag about how she had set a 'new PB' for sleeping, 8 hours, or 10 hours, or 14 hours, when she was only a few weeks old. They got on a flight to Santa Monica with her when she was about ten weeks old and had no problems whatsoever, it was perfect. They seemed to do breast and bottle feeding both together without any problems. They would sit next to her on a sofa and turn the TV on and she would just fall asleep.Thank you!
Coming here has helped me stop myself judging myself by what they were doing! I found it helpful when I was in hospital seeing them in hospital as I felt less alone, babies born same day at similar gestation but when they got out they became unrealistic as I know know.
I can understand why when i saw those pictures I felt the same but what you went through was much more normal than what rhey portrayed at the time ! I think a lot more has gone on behind the scenes I don’t think Joe has bonded with Marley at all !! It’s not as “Rosie” as they like to make out !!I had my little girl the same day as Marley and was in hospital up until Christmas eve, seeing the posts about having friends around and how chilled Marley always looked used to make me cry as I felt we should be like that. We had feeding issues so I was permanently attached to a pump or baby surviving on about 4 hours of broken sleep to fit the pumping in. We slept on shifts as she wouldn't sleep anywhere but on us. It makes me sad seeing how little Marley seems to be held or interacted with now!