I treat both families the same. If I do for one, I do for the other. They are my husbands family and he loves them as I do mine. I don’t like when people shun their in-laws and treat their own families better. Imagine if you have a son and his wife excludes you all the time in favour of her family. Doesn’t sit right with me.
That’s nice for you. My inlaws are mental and I know it’s not aimed solely at me but after 2 decades +, I have realised treating my family and theirs equally is not going to work. It would also give my husband a nervous breakdown to spend that much time with his family. But yeah, happy for you.