James and Carys #11 baby’s not perfect they won’t admit, Carys is ashamed of her tits.

[Sara54321]

I don't have Instagram so can't see her stories but I'm really intrigued what she's said given all the comments on here. Is there anywhere I can see it?

I have a 6 week old who has been awake and screamed nearly all day today including in the supermarket but I just had to get on with it. I also have a 2 and a half year old that's needed entertaining and my husband still isn't home from work so I'm currently trying to physch myself up for dealing with bed and bath time.

 

[Wingingmotherhood]

If she’s stressing about a 3 month old baby being awake in public wait until she has a toddler she has to carry out of somewhere under her arm like a surf board because they are having a tantrum. Newborns are a dream in comparison!

She definitely needs to get to some baby classes with Amber. When our first was that age we did Rhythm Time, Baby Massage & went to a Breastfeeding support group coffee morning. It meant I had time with other Mums to chat, share stories and socialise and my baby could get used to different environments, sights, sounds etc. Our 3 year old adores music and dancing now which I put down to the music class we did when they were small. At baby classes people don’t care if your baby cries or needs a feed, it’s expected. But I suspect they’re in such a tight routine there’s no time for baby classes during ‘awake time’

 

[Missclassy19]

I don't have Instagram so can't see her stories but I'm really intrigued what she's said given all the comments on here. Is there anywhere I can see it?

I have a 6 week old who has been awake and screamed nearly all day today including in the supermarket but I just had to get on with it. I also have a 2 and a half year old that's needed entertaining and my husband still isn't home from work so I'm currently trying to physch myself up for dealing with bed and bath time.

The thing is as well people understand this. If I’m in the shops n someone child is screaming ( depends on their age ) I would completely be fine. Being a mother IS. Hard sometimes. Idk why influencers glamourise it. Like it’s a learning curve.

 

[aldiwaitrose]

the baby groups I went to with my youngest became my lifeline. I absolutely loved them! I actually cried when she started school because it felt like a massive chapter had finished and I was going to miss going to them

 

[Hellofromtheotherside]

the baby groups I went to with my youngest became my lifeline. I absolutely loved them! I actually cried when she started school because it felt like a massive chapter had finished and I was going to miss going to them

With you on this I have a toddler and I still go to the same baby groups just moved up classes etc, at first I was bloody petrified taking him by myself at 2 months old and meeting strangers and what if everyone judger my parenting but it's not like that at all, it's such a good experience and got me out the house and socialising! I've met some really good friends from it and so has my little boy

 

[heartonosey]

Baby would of been perfectly fine on her mat on the floor whilst she did her class. She most likely would of been fascinated by the movement and sound from The bike. Baby need time where they arnt rocking, poking and or singing to her. As long as she wasn’t directly next to the bike and within eye shot of her she’s fine. Whilst I’m on a rant, sitting in the back of the car with her at 3 months shows that she’s petrified of her crying. She clearly needs some little tips to help her along which is absolutely fine. I’d suggest she goes to mums and baby groups, the tips you share with other mums are invaluable

 

[Wingingmotherhood]

With you on this I had a toddler and I still go to the same baby groups just moved up classes etc, at first I was bloody petrified taking him by myself at 2 months old and meeting strangers and what if everyone judger my parenting but it's not like that at all, it's such a good experience and got me out the house and socialising! I've met some really good friends from it and so has my little boy

Maybe she’s scared of going to classes as she will realise Ambs is just like other babies her age and not advanced

 

[Hellofromtheotherside]

Maybe she’s scared of going to classes as she will realise Ambs is just like other babies her age and not advanced

Ha or she can't find any advanced enough for her

 

[klady]

Carys been reading online on here again. And, our honest reviews are sending her over the edge. We know how easily she gets stressed cries for sympathy. Carys, if you can’t handle critique, you’re going to have it rough in life. Toughen up, buttercup

 

[Sara54321]

To be fair there aren't many baby classes in the area (I'm near to carys) at the moment due to covid. They were my lifeline with my first and I am really going to miss them this time round if they don't start up again. Although there should be outdoor buggy fit classes which you'd think she would enjoy.

What did she say on her story? That she won't take Amber out incase she cries?

 

[Friday's girl]

NGl I’ve seen plenty of mothers workout w their child in their presence n be able to balance. She’s a newborn yes they’re difficult not saying that but put a workout on the gv have Amber idk what it’s called but in one of those baby cradle things in front of you so you can see her incase n workout next to her... am I being dumb or that not how she can do it. Orrrrrr acc use your husband n let him watch her for an hour or so ... or grandparents can come over n look after her while you idk go downstairs or in the garden. She’s acting like Amber will burst into flames without her

Also surely there’s other ways to workout w a child like idk dancing. Going on a long walk w Amber. Stretching in the garden. Like she needs to find what works for her n not just completely expect alone time.

I do this I've 2 kids a 4 year old and 11 month old and I do quick workouts with them all the time,my 4 year old does some with me says he's working on his muscles , and the baby might be having a nap or bottle,maybe a snack but if he whines and I'm not done I just talk to him tell him I'll be one minute,it's not that hard honestly

 

[plwcm]

To be fair there aren't many baby classes in the area (I'm near to carys) at the moment due to covid. They were my lifeline with my first and I am really going to miss them this time round if they don't start up again. Although there should be outdoor buggy fit classes which you'd think she would enjoy.

What did she say on her story? That she won't take Amber out incase she cries?

it was that they drove for their usual dog walk, realised they didn't have the sling (even though she has storied walks where they have just carried her), drove back home but now amber was awake and Carys didn't want to take her on the walk because she would be awake and alert and wanting to look at everything (which she apparently can't do in the sling, but they wouldn't take the buggy). Carys stayed home to have awake time with amber. Amber starts sleeping so Carys goes to workout on the peloton bike because she wants to push herself yet contradicts herself by saying she's been told she can't push herself due to ab separation?. Amber wakes up, Carys stresses because she wants to do her workout, but then says obviously Amber comes first so feeds her and she goes back to sleep, so Carys finishes her workout. She then rambles on about how she mourns being able to do what she wants when she wants.

Not being funny but if she's putting on this "I work out for my body when I want to blah blah blah" front, you wouldn't feel terrible and like you need to workout. I only ever feel guilty for not working out when I want to lose weight, not if I'm just working out for mental health etc. She honestly needs to just take a breather and heal her body first before trying to lose weight. it's honestly boring hearing all her bullshit excuses

 

[littlepup]

I feel like she’s googled ‘top ten new mum gripes’ or perhaps she does feel it and is trying to be relatable but again, she’s so privileged it isn’t.
Not being able to do a dog walk because YOU don’t want to when the baby is awake is a problem of your own making.
Not being able to use your at home, best part of £2000 exercise system because you won’t do anything when your baby is awake and don’t want to wait for your retired husband to come home (and the being able to do it in the end anyway) just isn’t relatable.
Try not being able to walk the dog because your colicky baby won’t stop screaming for 7 hours a day. Or you’ve had to quit the gym and use the subs to pay for nappies and formula… One persons problem isn’t invalid because others have it worse, but she doesn’t even really have a problem, she’s creating them. What has she had to give up in favour of Amber except her figure because it’s certainly not a career, much sleep, time with her partner like most?! Not working out in that exact moment is

 

[mklanch]

Carys been reading online on here again. And, our honest reviews are sending her over the edge. We know how easily she gets stressed cries for sympathy. Carys, if you can’t handle critique, you’re going to have it rough in life. Toughen up, buttercup

but her struggle is not a struggle though...nowhere near it.
shes sickly over the top with her perfect baby crap and then she tries to be relatable by acting like a baby and throwing her toys out the pram when she cant workout out because she chose to have a baby that just so happens to cry sometimes and not sleep every hour of every day!!

and yes i meant to miss the full stops out of that huge sentence haha

 

[Jasba]

I agree, I don’t have kids so can’t relate but the reason I don’t is because I don’t want to give up my freedom. I like being able to do what I want when I want! She seems surprised that now she has a baby she can’t do whatever she wants? I don’t understand how this has come as a surprise to her in particular? Surely that was a given! If they didn’t want to give that up then surely it wasn’t time to have a baby?

Same! Married two years now so everybody is like okay baby soon? But my husband and I are not done being selfish with each other and enjoying our time without the responsibility of a child. Once you have one, bye to that for 18+ years! Children change everything, as much as I want them eventually I know I will try to do what I can (contraception) to avoid having one now.

 

[andersanna]

Her story today was vile sorry
What the f
You SHOULD take your baby out when they are awake they are people too carys ?!!! Why can’t amber look Around at the world and learn and explore?
Is amber crying a lot when she’s awake outside? Bc if she is maybe that’s bc you never take her out when she’s awake? She’s going to give this child social anxiety???
She’s going to be in a shock of her life post newborn stage where they have 1 or 2 naps a day and they want to play, go out, run around
Stop mourning your boring life and be grateful. Ffs my daughter who is 1 1/2 now is a dream child and I miss her when she’s asleep, but when she was newborn she had reflux. I was covered in vomit everyday for 6 months. And never once did I say I ‘mourned’ my life before her? Yes it can her stressful with a new baby but her language is so disturbing. I think she needs to speak to her gp. Why her gp parents haven’t advised her to do this I don’t know

 

[gardenparpie]

Most baby groups are crap at the moment due to covid, I do feel for any parent who has given birth during this shitshow, regardless of their circumstances and how privileged they are. I agree with her that she can't win, either sharing the negatives or sharing the positives someone will have something to say, so why doesn't she stop using her child as a cash cow and create some different content? I did mourn my old life when I had my child, I love them to the ends of the earth but it was bloody hard in those first few months. I don't think it's that unusual really but people feel guilty talking about it as there's invariably some who do the olde you should be grateful, if you feel that way you obviously don't deserve a child blah blah. I didn't broadcast it though, she should expect comments either way really as its part of social media and sharing your life on it.

 

[wyncyg]

To be fair there aren't many baby classes in the area (I'm near to carys) at the moment due to covid. They were my lifeline with my first and I am really going to miss them this time round if they don't start up again.

They do exist though! Probably can't plug specific classes but I've been to some this year at Llanishen rugby club! She just needs to look out for them

I sympathise a tiny bit because my little one often had such big meltdowns when I went out that I got really anxious about leaving the house with her. I did an expensive postnatal fitness course and she needed feeding/cuddling for two of four sessions despite my trying everything beforehand. HOWEVER when I think of that time it felt like I was always hanging out with other mums and had so many coffees and cakes, and have such a nice network of mum friends now.
She's in yummy mummy central IMO so she should get out and make some friends!

 

[Cj2098]

Awake time

 

[izay123]

Carys been reading online on here again. And, our honest reviews are sending her over the edge. We know how easily she gets stressed cries for sympathy. Carys, if you can’t handle critique, you’re going to have it rough in life. Toughen up, buttercup

Oh my goodness, I am actually sick of her giving life advice and words of wisdom every day. She should have become a philosopher