Ablemabel
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I can't tell you just how much this is like my narc mother. The amount of times we've been told her bank account had been got at my scammers, or someone has stolen this or that from her - money, jewellery, you name it it's happened to her. The reality was always that she had some bill to pay, didn't see why HER money should be used for that, so would make something up so that other, kind hearted people would give her money which she could then use for said bill.Thinking about that, she’s also “come out” as a victim of theft an awful lot. I know I am missing some here too, this is just off the top of my head as I thought of it.
2016: A feckless foul mouthed young mother “scrunge” allegedly steals her wallet and later her card is used fraudulently. Luckily she can go to the bank for the £2,200 she needs to pay rent on a new place. Phew! Now, how does she call social services?
2018: My former agent has stolen £30,000-£50,000 of my royalties money (rattle rattle)
2019: Thieves have stolen £5,000 from my accounts in an online scam! (rattle rattle)
2020: In a somewhat different tale of woe from the one I clearly forgot i wrote in 2018, my former agent stole my royalties from me! (rattle rattle)
2021? (It’s all becoming a blur tbh): BURGLARS have stolen thousands of pounds worth of stuff including bikes, garden and camping equipment and grandad’s old pans from my OUTBUILDINGS (on two separate occasions) and I am NOT INSURED because of THE POVERTY. (rattle rattle x 2)
also a blur time wise (lockdown?!) thieves stole the TV she bought her son off the doorstep (rattle rattle)
I remember once being told she urgently needed dental treatment to the tune of 5k and she didn't have that money so could I transfer the money to her. At same time she told my brother same story, but this time it was 7k or so. She depended on us not communicating with each other. I rang the dentist and asked what the actual cost was and they told me it was free.
She just wanted cash to fritter away on herself at our expense. When I was younger I didn't understand the situation (largely because I think she used my father for that purpose until he died) and I felt guilty and sorry for her (as well as being scared of her) and stupidly gave her money. I remember taking out an overdraft so I could buy her a £400 coat when I was a student. In hindsight it was stupid of me but this is what that kind of person will do. They don't care one jot about the effect on you they just want your cash so they don't have to spend theirs.
sorry that turned into a bit of a merail.
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