Haha yes I found some very competitive mums when I had my first, I was horrified, I had no idea how scary they can be, especially with various health issues I felt really exposed and vulnerable , it felt like being thrown to the lions at times!i had heard lots of people say they had not been able to follow their birth plan and that made them disappointed from the off so I said in all my appointments my only plan was to have a baby (fingers crossed and everything because that’s not a guarantee) and nothing went as I had anticipated so not having a carefully curated plan meant I didn’t miss it when it all went haywire. I cannot stand competitive mumming - I’m not very sociable in baby circles generally for that reason, also I am selective about the kids I want to hang out with