I dont understand her diagnosis timeline at all. If she was given it at 11 I find it hard to believe a clever 11yo wouldn't A. Question what she was doing with ed psychs, pediatricians etc. B. Ask what her diagnosis meant C. If she has the sorts of sensory processing issues she describes, why on earth wouldn't her parents ensure she was given the right support in and out of school?She implies, but doesn't actually say, she was diagnosed by an EP when she was eleven, and noone bothered to say anything.
Now, anyone who has sought a diagnosis for a child will know it doesn't happen like that. It's called a pathway for a reason. Added to that, in 1999 when she would have received the diagnosis virtually no girls were diagnosed (girls present differently etc
My son is 11 now, he was diagnosed as being on the spectrum at about 6 and a half. He is clever, attends mainstream school, but being autistic still affects him daily, he's well aware of it, and the issues it presents. His school are excellent, and provide extra support. I just cannot imagine how after being given a diagnosis JM wouldn't know about it and be aware of what it meant.