I absolutely think he still loves her but can’t live with her anymore. I think he adored her and was gutted having to leave, otherwise why was he crying on the phone to his parents?
But regardless of BW I think he couldn’t handle the Sm addiction, the huge boundary issues, the drinking, pill popping, threatening suicide while he was away, the public humiliation, and picking a political side because he feared he would get canceled and couldn’t support the family. Same thing with him begging her not to do the Weinstein article.
Then there was the incident with AE in the car park where she went mental at Kayla the YouTuber which must have embarrassed the life out of him. And let’s not forget the final straw when she went after Meghan Markle on Twitter and he talked to her about shutting down her Twitter account. She posted that online and then her followers attacked him and she called him a pussy on Twitter.
I agree with this. The boundary-trampling was relentless. I can imagine AE sensed he was withdrawing from her, and tried to hold on even more tightly, but of course this led to more ignoring his boundaries and of course trying to shame him into behaving the way she wanted him to by complaining about him online.
It's such a vicious cycle. I do understand to an extent why AE is doing what she's doing. She wants him to stand up and admit what he has done. She wants to know the truth - when did he start this relationship, was he cheating (yes, most likely) - just be honest with his wife of so many years. But she's not going to get that moment. She won't get the movie moment in court when he has to admit what he did, because it has no bearing on the divorce (if they even go to court, which they shouldn't have to). He's not going to sue her for defamation and cause a court case that way - what on earth would be the point? So there's nothing to
make him confess publicly the way she wants him to.
And the more she rants on Twitter, the more she breaks confidences about his mental health and their private emails and every single detail of their lives, the more the remotest chance of them ever talking about this together disappears. He literally
can't have this conversation with her - she'll live-tweet it. It's not safe to talk to her! When they were together he wasn't able to facetime his children, read his phone,
sleep, without her screen-grabbing it, recording it, photographing it, and posting it for the world to see; usually accompanied by a passive aggressive 'jokey' comment. So while I would desperately want my ex-husband to fucking TALK to me and tell me the whole truth if this was happening to me, and I get her anger about that with my whole soul...I can also see at the same time why he absolutely can't and won't.