It probably caught sight of mAlice's big red lips, and decided to play dead immediately!“sadly we think it’s dead” lmaooo can we just talk about how it’s on its fuckin BACK?i’m sorry this is just hilarious to me that we need to take a stab at this…
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Also, bore da!
HARD agree. That really stood out to me. Along with the house rule “the only rule in this house is to have fun”. Can’t remember exact quote.
Here you go my lovely, for you all and @ReturningthePearls
I’ve made it into a recipe card with a photo of one I’ve made one earlier (UK members will get this reference 
)This is my last pot so I better make some more
You can eat it after a month, or even straight away but much better to wait. I’ve eaten it three years later and I’m still here! As long as it’s still sealed properly. Store in fridge after opening. Goes with almost anything especially cheese and gammon(so I’m told, I’m a vegetarian)Dollop it in any curry, stew, etc to liven it up too
. Bellend."The newspapers writing bad stuff about me was worse than my mum and my stepsister dying."
Thanks for giving an explanation, my eyebrows have been working overtime trying to make sense of a lot here! That's crackers, I'm loving the thread titles you are a talented lot on here, no wonder Alice comes to read! I have to ask another question, can anyone explain Marjorie? By the way, apart from brushing my teeth and making a couple of teas, I haven't progressed out of my room yet thanks to this new discovery! I am indeed kissing adiós to my previous life
she has a Temporary Restraining Order for the past 4 months on her (and yet she still has little outbursts)
It is impossible to have a happiness only policy in your home. It is such a silly thing to say. How old is she? She talks like an immature 12 yr old.
It sounds as though you and I have a lot in common, experience-wise, dear RTP. I sometimes resented my mother for not leaving him, especially after the s*xual abuse, but I came to realise that she was just as much his victim as I was. And she and I have grown together into strong women who will no longer take any tit from men and grey-rock my father while we still have to share a house with him. (There are prospective buyers coming to see it on Saturday, though, so fingers crossed.) I think when one has a narcissistic parent, as both you and I do, one imbibes their wants, mores and control so thoroughly that it can be difficult to properly establish not only one's own identity, let alone forge the powerful relationship between mother and daughter which is so valuable and life-affirming. It takes so much time to free oneself from the long, cold shadow the narcissist casts and move forth into the light. Treasure your Mama, dear RTP, and let her know every day how much she is loved. xxxThank you for this alternative perspective, beautiful Autisteuse. While I could certainly understand the perspectives of other Tattler-friends, I was additionally hoping that a differing response would be proposed, particularly one that also highlights the (1) nuance of relationships being allowed to shift to ones of true admiration with age and (2) tight bonds formed in circumstances of severe abuse/neglect. Sometimes your mother is your best friend because, of everyone you know, you have invested in them the highest degree of trust. In my case, this is partially through trauma, both my own and our mutual traumas.
My mama is my best friend as well—sometimes I forget this, because she made decisions earlier in my life that subjected me to my father’s aggression and injustice (and still occasionally does), but I value her for the plethora of other times in which she has uplifted me and brought me continuous peace and love. Like you and your mother, I wasn’t treated in childhood as her “only BFF in the world,” which I feel applies very complicated, uncomfortable pressure on children not to disappoint their mother and also to rely too heavily upon them. But as I celebrate my 29th birthday, and as I await the ones to arrive after (should God will them), I hope to get even closer with her.
Again, thank you.
Pretend you're happy or mommy's gonna be really, really upset...
Thanks @SusanC.
Narcs never feel regret, alas. Everything is done to them, not by them. They seek revenge for the wounds they perceieve others have inflicted on them, pity themselves infinitely, but experience no sense of remorse or culpability. Alice will never let go, because she is incapable of it. This entire farrago is never her fault, only Ioan's fault (and her father, and her stepmother, and the lady in the carpark, and everyone else who has dared to cross her). Alice is just another narcissist playing her little spiteful games like so many other narcissists (Trump, Putain, Boris Johnson, Bolsonaro et al). She may be panicking about her future, but she sees it as something happening to her, not the consequences of her own malice.
If you read the 113 pages of the Temporary Restraining Order, I think your sympathy will ooze away. She has made Ioan, Bianca, Ioan's parents and her children's lives hell.
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