True, enabling is not helping. That said, they believe they are helping, such is their delusion. To be fair if they told AE the truth they would have been BLOCKED IMMEDIATELY.
in fairness to them, at least Deb occasionally does tell her to better maybe stay silent (or variations of that), but that boat is unstoppable now, indeed partly because they gave shitty advice from the start too. But it would have been anyway because Alice doesnt want good advice, she wants Narc supply..
It's mindblowing to me honestly. Sure, staying silent isnt always good, but for this matter? I mean she is very desperate for him to talk with her, spend time with her in the house, do family things together, be friends, and at least until not too long ago (perhaps even still) she would have taken him back entirely. He is also her and her childrens whole meal ticket. So whatever injustice he has done to her it
can't be bad enough to destroy them all. Ioan's approach to her from the start is actually text book for someone who has suffered abuse, if anything.
Everyone with a bit care for you and brain (apparently her real life friends) would have advised her to stay silent in public. Everyone would have been on her side then (and if not, at least not on his), there is no doubt in my mind. Women always get loads of sympathy if they are being left, even more if the man moves on with somebody much younger and likely cheated months later. She would be legally in a much better position too. Her relationship to him would have been maybe salvagable in the long run (as parents/friends, perhaps even as spouses) and he would have been maybe more likely to agree to a better settlement, or at least help her in need. And all those embarrassing texts in the court documents would have never appeared either.
She keeps claiming that she had no other choice but coming out, implying that it's because he was going to lowball her in the divorce and because he was not talking to her about important matters (he clearly did though based on those text messages, but Alice wanted more), but she came out with this in january 2021 (she was not as abusive on SM as she was at her peak but some things she said there were already way under the line, especially how hard she implied that he is leaving his kids too), after he filed the abuse went into overdrive, but he was still talking to her on phone and supposedly the negotations only really started after this. Those are all just excuses in my book.
Does she really think abusing him online or in messages was going to rather change his minds than just saying "i really need more support to survive, can we do this and that as a compromise"? (granted, by the time they negotiated she had already abused him on SM and supposedly threatened him in private, so that train probably already departed in this case, but who knows, although to me it doesnt sound like she wants compromises but the whole cake). She actually implied in one tweet that at the very beginning Ioan was willing to give her more, we can all guess what changed it. If you are dumb enough to sign a prenup that is very unfair the natural action to get the other party to compromise would be to be cooperative, not abusive. Same with trying to have good contact with them, being abusive just drives the other party even more away.
The chick doesnt know how to play the long game. No advice would have probably changed that. So as a "fan" of hers your choice is being blacklisted by her or doing the wrong thing and enabler her and thus live later with the guilt (if you have any consciousness) that you quite possibly contributed to her downfall but at least you are friends with a blue check.
(that's 4 sets in the past 38 years and they have all been identical so not genetic. I thank God I couldn't get pregnant) found out that daycare will cost her approximately 700 US dollars a week.&
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