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She was always going to alienate the kids because Ioan left her. Bianca could've moved in ten years after the divorce and she would've still acted the same way. Why should he put his life on hold because Alice is incapable of being an adult.This interesting.....
From the article it seems undoubtable that Ella is severely and totally alienated. I think it started out hybrid - he was clearly someone she turned to and had a relationship with during the early stages of the separation. I think it all went wrong when Bianca moved in so quickly. That, coupled with her illness, in Ella's mind meant she was secondary to Bianca in his affections. Then the court documents published emails and videos where Alice came out looking really bad. Alice then really started working on the alienating (he wants to destroy me, look at how he used private stuff you sent him to ruin me and he is using you to do it, you can't trust him, omg he is destroying me and you are helping him, he wants me to die, I'm so scared etc etc etc). Add to that the school debacle and Ioan withdrawing. Total reinforcement.![]()
It’s not always alienation (and why it’s important to understand that)
Recently I have read a few good news stories of mums and dads being reunited with their children after periods of time in which their children have been withdrawn from them and refusing to see them…karenwoodall.blog
She is never going to move on so he will just have to reconcile himself with the fact that she will have to be dealt with until Elsie turns 18. Accept that Ella is lost to him and try to continue to be in Elsie's life. Learn to compartmentalize Alice and move on.
If Ella believes that she is secondary to Bianca, then it is because Alice convinced her of that. It is nothing that Ioan did to give her that impression. In fact from the looks of it he has bent himself into a pretzel to accommodate their needs.
Sad as it may be, he will not be the first parent who had to make the horrible choice for the sake of his own mental wellbeing.