Maybe my last added comment tonight
Alice lacks a lot of protective factors and this is a risk with children. Aliceās main protective factors are ānot wanting to be aloneā and ānot wanting Ioan to winā.
Alice has put them at risk through her own actions many times. Alice does love them, but they fit with her needs she doesnāt fit with theirs. This is why she needed a nanny.
She canāt meet many of the childrens needs physical or emotionally - they meet HER needs. She seems to be able to do the basics, which sometimes is āgood enoughā but for all her bluster about how she is an amazing mother is a terrific fear of Ioan being a better parent than her and the kids realising it. When she had him at the house she always had him doing the practical and emotional stuff and she was able to do āfun momā and ācaptive audience to talk about myselfā, whilst telling Ioan all the things he was doing wrong and putting him down
Alice lacks a lot of protective factors and this is a risk with children. Aliceās main protective factors are ānot wanting to be aloneā and ānot wanting Ioan to winā.
Alice has put them at risk through her own actions many times. Alice does love them, but they fit with her needs she doesnāt fit with theirs. This is why she needed a nanny.
She canāt meet many of the childrens needs physical or emotionally - they meet HER needs. She seems to be able to do the basics, which sometimes is āgood enoughā but for all her bluster about how she is an amazing mother is a terrific fear of Ioan being a better parent than her and the kids realising it. When she had him at the house she always had him doing the practical and emotional stuff and she was able to do āfun momā and ācaptive audience to talk about myselfā, whilst telling Ioan all the things he was doing wrong and putting him down