ReturningthePearls
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Just a thing I thought about early this morning:
We talk a lot about the time we believe will come eventually—when the girls finally realize their mother is toxic and that they need to distance themselves from her (or, in a more significant case, cut her from their lives completely).
I honestly hope that if/when that time ever comes…they’ll have the support they need to navigate the intense emotions that come along with that. Learning that my father was toxic and that there were a lot of things I couldn’t depend on him to do or be was GUTTING for me, and it was also a very lonely realization. Truthfully, it still can be, at times.
Sometimes you don’t immediately think, “Well, I have (other parent(s)/guardian(s) to fall back on to take care of me instead of this parent!” Especially in this case, where the girls love their father but are clearly still struggling a little to untangle and dispel the lies their mother told about him. Sometimes you just feel completely alone and helpless before that aforementioned realization kicks in—that you still have support from others—and those hours/days of helplessness can be TRULY mentally and emotionally tumultuous.
I just hope that when or if the girls finally reach the understanding that they cannot trust their mother to take care of them and love them in the ways in which they need it, that they’ll have built a sturdy support system to help guide them through that pain and quaking vulnerability. They’ll badly need it; I know this for a fact, and I’m certainly not the only one in here who thinks so.
We talk a lot about the time we believe will come eventually—when the girls finally realize their mother is toxic and that they need to distance themselves from her (or, in a more significant case, cut her from their lives completely).
I honestly hope that if/when that time ever comes…they’ll have the support they need to navigate the intense emotions that come along with that. Learning that my father was toxic and that there were a lot of things I couldn’t depend on him to do or be was GUTTING for me, and it was also a very lonely realization. Truthfully, it still can be, at times.
Sometimes you don’t immediately think, “Well, I have (other parent(s)/guardian(s) to fall back on to take care of me instead of this parent!” Especially in this case, where the girls love their father but are clearly still struggling a little to untangle and dispel the lies their mother told about him. Sometimes you just feel completely alone and helpless before that aforementioned realization kicks in—that you still have support from others—and those hours/days of helplessness can be TRULY mentally and emotionally tumultuous.
I just hope that when or if the girls finally reach the understanding that they cannot trust their mother to take care of them and love them in the ways in which they need it, that they’ll have built a sturdy support system to help guide them through that pain and quaking vulnerability. They’ll badly need it; I know this for a fact, and I’m certainly not the only one in here who thinks so.
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