Ioan Gruffudd & Alice Evans #111 Hey Alice, get a job and go fund yourself!

[ReturningthePearls]

Am just having a catch up and see that some fellow tatters are having a difficult time atm. Especially @ReturningthePearls
I've also had a crappy few days, my anxiety has reared it ugly head and I'm still low over my split. But each day I get up and keep going, unlike some people!
Love to all of you that need it at the moment, apart from mAlice

Spoiler: love, love, love

Thanks so much. I don’t handle rough times well, I’m afraid, but I’m learning slowly. And that matters.

I know your anxiety must be ramping up, I’m so sorry. But you’re right! You get out of bed, you take care of yourself, and you love your extraordinary life! Think about it: you’re here, breathing, in this world full of seconds and minutes and hours to be your best self, catching up with this fast-paced universe and finding the guidance that will empower you. How amazing is that???

You’re a powerful force, Lulu. A powerful damn force. You’ve got energy and drive and, my FAVORITE thing in the whole world…hope.

God love you forever. We certainly do.

I’ve been thinking a great deal about Alice’s apparent fixation on happiness. She’s “happy.” Her girls are “happy.” Everyone in the house must only be “happy.”

If her preoccupation on “happiness” isn’t just an Instagram bio or claim on Twitter, if she’s actually engaging with her girls in ways that only emphasize joy, then she’s neglecting their negative emotions. She’s meeting their distress with a severe lack of empathy, which, as we all know, is damaging.

If I remember correctly, I think social/emotional disconnection is a dire result of these interactions. The girls would not only feel like “happiness” is an appropriate and healthy response to any discomfort or pain, but they would feel deeply alienated from their mother, who is so desperately urging them to dismiss very real and very necessary emotions of negative natures.

Toxic positivity is a type of gaslighting. With her claims on Instagram and Twitter and whatever-the-duck else, she is gaslighting me. She is gaslighting you. She is gaslighting her girls. She is gaslighting everyone. And this speaks so much to her lack of emotional regulation.

Feeling bad is important in life. It is horrible, it is daunting, it is stressful—but it’s a crucial factor in not only recognizing the problems in one’s life but addressing them so that they may go away. When Alice isn’t whining on social media about being victimized, she adopts this weird persona of one who is constantly joyful, one who thrusts this attitude into her children’s laps.

Utilizing happiness to boost your self-esteem and activate your preparedness to win challenges that life throws at you is one thing; utilizing it in times where negative emotions are begging for your attention is a bad move. Alice has these bizarre periods where she assigns happiness to herself and those around her, and it’s definitely a hindrance in her being able to move on. She’s still tangled in the early stages of grief after, what, two years of social/emotional/physical separation?

I can’t stress enough how devastating the damage of toxic positivity can be. I really can’t. I apologize for this post, I just wanted to share some thoughts that surfaced.

 

[Old Soak]

This is my opinion/hypothesis as to how it might go down:

I think Ioans/Lawyers plan is to obtain the PRO on Aug 2nd as well as address the many violations. Let’s say the judge grants it. Given that date coincides nearly with the house needing to be vacated, he’s going to get an emergency injunction for sole custody, especially if she can’t produce proof of income or proof that she has secured new accommodation, with her GFM and public begging also used against her. If a judge declares Alice unfit, it doesn’t matter if one or both kids want to stay with her. She won’t legally be allowed near them. The kids will face the choice of either dads house or going into care with a team assigned by the courts explain it to them. Begrudgingly at first, they will choose dad’s as the idea of going into care scares them. This is when the intensive work can begin to address all the PA and abuse as well as prepare them for a more structured and disciplined lifestyle (which will be a witch at first given Alice’s work to be the fun parent). It will also help them integrate with Bianca. If a parent was to go for sole custody in any case/situation, before the new school year would be the most ideal time to make the change to minimize disruption. School starting also means the kids aren’t sitting around the house resentful at the change, with the two adults they resent also in the house most of the day due to not having the typical 9-5 Mon-Fri type schedule. Now that Alice is cornered, I think Ioan, as the caring human he seems to be, will enforce the no spousal or child support given the change in custody and the PRO being awarded but will keep her on his health benefits. It’s in everyone’s interest that Alice get well so giving her access to professional help via his benefits would hopefully facilitate mental health and addiction treatments, parenting courses with the dangling carrot of regaining 50/50 and therefore maybe some financial support and her portion of the house sale (or what might remain after calculations lol). Upon successful completion, there would be programs aimed at getting her housing, work etc. Perhaps wishful thinking that she’d actually agree to go never mind be successful but maybe once she is faced with the full consequences (and with all these deadlines about to close in) she’s either going to accept her fate and work with the courts and Ioan or end up out on her ass, homeless, childless and without any source of income. This is where the rubber meets the road for Ms. Evans-Gruff.

I haven’t worked out one part of the plan: Gloria.
Would Ioan retain her services for when he and Bianca are on location where he’s filming (let’s face it, leaving Bianca in LA would be too contentious given all the changes the girls are already going through) because she’s familiar and the girls love her or get them a brand new nanny with no history of insubordination (and no relationship with Alice)?

Just my thoughts as to how it might go down in order to wake Alice the duck up and get her the help she desperately needs. Also she wouldn’t be homeless or hungry if she accepts inpatient help once the girls were with Ioan and the house was sold.

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[TheNotoriousManzana]

Cant believe this crazy witch is still going with all this drama, surely you would have just got bleeping bored by now!

If my hubby left me then months later shacked up with another woman/bogan (sorry I am just joking) then I would not give him the satisfaction of thinking I cared.

I'd chuck all his stuff out, redecorate the house, lose weight, start enjoying life and then shag his best friend! There is no bleeping way he would EVER know how upset I was about it (but then I have a swinging brick where my heart should be).

I'd do the same. I'd be the coldest witch

I'd just be "He'll soon tire of you, love!"

 

[Fuzzy Slippers]

Why is the DM nor any of Alice's slow sychophants not grasping, she just told them she has had a JOINT account with Yo? He was contributing for the girls until 2 weeks ago?? Ioan has been paying for his girls. My Dad got full custody when I was 12. My life was so much better. No, children do not need their Mom is she is drunk and mentally unstable. Their is no way she is not saying and doing things, in that state that will impact them, possibly the rest of their lives.

When we were young and broke, my husband bounced a check and didn't pay. He had to go court and would have absolutely been arrested if not. I think Alice was spending out of spite. IG was cautious with the money, and she would spend it willy nilly "to get back at him". In her mind, he would just keep paying, but he is done saving her ass. She will go to jail, if she doesn't pay these bounced checks.

 

[BigBonedBuzzard]

Spoiler: love, love, love

Thanks so much. I don’t handle rough times well, I’m afraid, but I’m learning slowly. And that matters.

I know your anxiety must be ramping up, I’m so sorry. But you’re right! You get out of bed, you take care of yourself, and you love your extraordinary life! Think about it: you’re here, breathing, in this world full of seconds and minutes and hours to be your best self, catching up with this fast-paced universe and finding the guidance that will empower you. How amazing is that???

You’re a powerful force, Lulu. A powerful damn force. You’ve got energy and drive and, my FAVORITE thing in the whole world…hope.

God love you forever. We certainly do.

I’ve been thinking a great deal about Alice’s apparent fixation on happiness. She’s “happy.” Her girls are “happy.” Everyone in the house must only be “happy.”

If her preoccupation on “happiness” isn’t just an Instagram bio or claim on Twitter, if she’s actually engaging with her girls in ways that only emphasize joy, then she’s neglecting their negative emotions. She’s meeting their distress with a severe lack of empathy, which, as we all know, is damaging.

If I remember correctly, I think social/emotional disconnection is a dire result of these interactions. The girls would not only feel like “happiness” is an appropriate and healthy response to any discomfort or pain, but they would feel deeply alienated from their mother, who is so desperately urging them to dismiss very real and very necessary emotions of negative natures.

Toxic positivity is a type of gaslighting. With her claims on Instagram and Twitter and whatever-the-duck else, she is gaslighting me. She is gaslighting you. She is gaslighting her girls. She is gaslighting everyone. And this speaks so much to her lack of emotional regulation.

Feeling bad is important in life. It is horrible, it is daunting, it is stressful—but it’s a crucial factor in not only recognizing the problems in one’s life but addressing them so that they may go away. When Alice isn’t whining on social media about being victimized, she adopts this weird persona of one who is constantly joyful, one who thrusts this attitude into her children’s laps.

Utilizing happiness to boost your self-esteem and activate your preparedness to win challenges that life throws at you is one thing; utilizing it in times where negative emotions are begging for your attention is a bad move. Alice has these bizarre periods where she assigns happiness to herself and those around her, and it’s definitely a hindrance in her being able to move on. She’s still tangled in the early stages of grief after, what, two years of social/emotional/physical separation?

I can’t stress enough how devastating the damage of toxic positivity can be. I really can’t. I apologize for this post, I just wanted to share some thoughts that surfaced.

Wasn't part of her happiness plan to ignore the bullies at school or something similar?

 

[ReturningthePearls]

Wasn't part of her happiness plan to ignore the bullies at school or something similar?

Could have sworn I read that somewhere…

 

[Snotbuster]

17) she hasn't got any nice clothes . This one is actually true

But it's been true for decades and that never kept her from appearing in public

 

[Nixlondon]

The Go Fund Me has trickled to almost a standstill.

She is going to have to come up with something spectacular to get it moving again.

She is in deep tit.

She will have to be her own lawyer. She will probably buy a wig, gavel and gown off eBay for her day in court.

JOB TIME - HOME DEPOT IS WAITING BIATCH

 

[Invictus]

There it is... contributing even if it's so you can look your best...

 

[ReturningthePearls]

Time to stack wood planks and sandbags with the other orange-aproned “plebeians,” Alice!

(I love Home Depot, just a joke.)

 

[TheNotoriousManzana]

Time to stack wood planks and sandbags with the other orange-aproned “plebeians,” Alice!

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(I love Home Depot, just a joke.)

It's an orange apron or an orange jumpsuit - I wonder?
Alice should go for it - she's no stranger to DIY. She can be head of the glue gun section.

 

[BigBonedBuzzard]

The "problem" with working at Home Depot, or voice work, or working as a saleswoman at the jewelry store, is that none of it would pay her as much money as she's used to spending. She was obviously living over budget even for Ioan's salary, and he was a regularly working actor, and not even a complete unknown (who googled how to fix the car because the mechanic was too expensive). They might not be rich by Hollywood or California standards, but they surely are rich by "regular people" standards. The jobs mentioned to her (if she could even get one) wouldn't make her rich, just surviving/doing OK. How many monthly Home Depot salaries are needed to pay for her last 2 weeks ebay shopping spree alone?

And I think she knows that, and that's one of the reasons she can't be arsed to look for work (other than being lazy and entitled). Because she'll not only have less time and will have to roll up her sleeves, the reward will not be enough for her, either.

 

[NoseyMare99]

There it is... contributing even if it's so you can look your best...

‘Sadly seems in line with where this country is heading’ I assume this in reference to recent events? How dare she jump on the abortion rights debate, millions of women losing a human right is NOT THE bleeping SAME AS YOUR HUSBAND LEAVING YOUR ABUSIVE ASS, YOU WASTER. Fuming.

 

[Invictus]

‘Sadly seems in line with where this country is heading’ I assume this in reference to recent events? How dare she jump on the abortion rights debate, millions of women losing a human right is NOT THE bleeping SAME AS YOUR HUSBAND LEAVING YOUR ABUSIVE ASS, YOU WASTER. Fuming.

Oh but I think that's an entirely accurate statement. Lies get you what you want, regardless of facts or evidence. Just spin, lie, manipulate. Alice is doing the exact same thing.

 

[Adawu]

It’s not even about having a brick in place of a heart, most people would think the same.

But she is out to take IG down. It has sent her demented and she wasn’t right before this all kicked off.

I think that she is trying to bully Ioan into coming back, she really thinks it's a phase they are going through.

 

[klairklopp]

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also she previously claimed that Ioan "cut her off" and sends the bills to her since january, now the joint account was suddenly open all this time?

by the sound of things she continued to use his money to pay Gloria who Ioan clearly didnt want to
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I love her sympathetic, warm words of encouragement and support to the lady who said she can’t help her financially as she’s so very poor herself ………… Oh, wait…… ..

 

[Adawu]

Has she actually said thank you yet for the near 5k she's been gifted?

They are privileged to be allowed to donate money to Alice!

She's painted herself into a corner.

For her whole life, she's been able to bully, abuse, cajole, wheedle, and tantrum her way into getting what she wants. No matter what the consequences (losing contact with her father, losing her agent), there was always Ioan to keep her living in the style to which she'd become accustomed.

Now he's gone too. Attorneys are going to tell her what she's supposed to do, not what she wants to do. Family court is going to hold her accountable. There's no one left who can make things the way she wants them. She's up a creek without a paddle.

Unless Ioan bottles it and doesn't proceed with the PRO. Be strong Ioan, the end is weeks away

 

[welp]

The "problem" with working at Home Depot, or voice work, or working as a saleswoman at the jewelry store, is that none of it would pay her as much money as she's used to spending. She was obviously living over budget even for Ioan's salary, and he was a regularly working actor, and not even a complete unknown (who googled how to fix the car because the mechanic was too expensive). They might not be rich by Hollywood or California standards, but they surely are rich by "regular people" standards. The jobs mentioned to her (if she could even get one) wouldn't make her rich, just surviving/doing OK. How many monthly Home Depot salaries are needed to pay for her last 2 weeks ebay shopping spree alone?

And I think she knows that, and that's one of the reasons she can't be arsed to look for work (other than being lazy and entitled). Because she'll not only have less time and will have to roll up her sleeves, the reward will not be enough for her, either.

she also knows that she earns more by not doing anything, e.g. GFM, selling dirty stories, blackmailing Ioan for money. Getting a working/middle class salary is peanuts to this and she would not have to give up her online hobbies (which she probably sees as promotion lol)

 

[NigelTufnel]

Yep, I took a screenshot, there were replies the other day, but all the comments and the original post have gone , no surprise

Cowards? She’s not communicated with anyone like an turned up to court twice

Spoiler: love, love, love

Thanks so much. I don’t handle rough times well, I’m afraid, but I’m learning slowly. And that matters.

I know your anxiety must be ramping up, I’m so sorry. But you’re right! You get out of bed, you take care of yourself, and you love your extraordinary life! Think about it: you’re here, breathing, in this world full of seconds and minutes and hours to be your best self, catching up with this fast-paced universe and finding the guidance that will empower you. How amazing is that???

You’re a powerful force, Lulu. A powerful damn force. You’ve got energy and drive and, my FAVORITE thing in the whole world…hope.

God love you forever. We certainly do.

I’ve been thinking a great deal about Alice’s apparent fixation on happiness. She’s “happy.” Her girls are “happy.” Everyone in the house must only be “happy.”

If her preoccupation on “happiness” isn’t just an Instagram bio or claim on Twitter, if she’s actually engaging with her girls in ways that only emphasize joy, then she’s neglecting their negative emotions. She’s meeting their distress with a severe lack of empathy, which, as we all know, is damaging.

If I remember correctly, I think social/emotional disconnection is a dire result of these interactions. The girls would not only feel like “happiness” is an appropriate and healthy response to any discomfort or pain, but they would feel deeply alienated from their mother, who is so desperately urging them to dismiss very real and very necessary emotions of negative natures.

Toxic positivity is a type of gaslighting. With her claims on Instagram and Twitter and whatever-the-duck else, she is gaslighting me. She is gaslighting you. She is gaslighting her girls. She is gaslighting everyone. And this speaks so much to her lack of emotional regulation.

Feeling bad is important in life. It is horrible, it is daunting, it is stressful—but it’s a crucial factor in not only recognizing the problems in one’s life but addressing them so that they may go away. When Alice isn’t whining on social media about being victimized, she adopts this weird persona of one who is constantly joyful, one who thrusts this attitude into her children’s laps.

Utilizing happiness to boost your self-esteem and activate your preparedness to win challenges that life throws at you is one thing; utilizing it in times where negative emotions are begging for your attention is a bad move. Alice has these bizarre periods where she assigns happiness to herself and those around her, and it’s definitely a hindrance in her being able to move on. She’s still tangled in the early stages of grief after, what, two years of social/emotional/physical separation?

I can’t stress enough how devastating the damage of toxic positivity can be. I really can’t. I apologize for this post, I just wanted to share some thoughts that surfaced.

Things are either manic happiness or the end of the world terrifying doomsday stuff, nothing in between. The girls have definitely picked up on it - Elsie tries to cheer her mum up by putting on little shows and Ella (wisely) avoids her mum’s videos and tries to hide from her as much as possible. She looks more affected and exhausted from it all because she’s older. It’s not nice to see in a 12 year old

 

[klairklopp]

It’s bizarre how she wants to destroy Ioan and his career, yet she depends on him for everything from food to shelter. Doesn’t she even care that if Ioan can’t work, the kids can’t eat? She’s certainly not going to bother trying to get a job to take care of her kids, not that anyone would hire her. It’s baffling.

It’s a funny thing. My mother (also a narcissist) has tried for years out of pure spite to ruin our small business not caring that it’s how we feed and clothe her grandchildren. It’s baffling for the sane among us to understand what goes on in their minds……..